The Customer at the Butcher Shop on Starling Avenue

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We’ve been going to the Starling Meat Market for years. It is one of the places in the neighborhood where we are greeted by name. And that is always a nice feeling. Because even in a large community like ours, people still take the time to know you by name.

On Saturday afternoon as we ordered a few cuts of meat for the week an older white man walked in.

He wore khakis and a tan jacket zippered all the way up, the collar of his button down shirt peeking out. The laces on his black rubber sole shoes were neatly tied. His thin white hair was combed back. And around his wrinkled alabaster wrist was a silver bracelet with his name and two phone numbers. His name was “Timothy.”

Timothy greeted Benny the butcher like an old friend. And Benny joked backed the way he does with all his regulars. Their banter was familiar and yet somewhat off. “How loud does the lion roar?” Timothy asked Benny. Benny responded with a roar and Timothy laughed.”He’s big. How old is he?” Timothy asked me, looking at Norrin. His question caught me off guard but I smiled and told him Norrin’s age.

“2006. He was born in 2006. When is his birthday?”

I told him the date and within seconds Timothy told me that Norrin was born on a Friday. He then asked about my birthday, then Joseph’s. And he told us the days we were born.

Timothy then asked where we born. And with each answer, he told us the address and nearest train station. In between all of our questions, Timothy asked Benny how loud the lion roared.

After about 10 minutes of talking, Timothy walked out without saying goodbye.

I knew in our brief interaction that Timothy had some kind of special need — maybe even autism. Our meeting left me with mixed emotions. I don’t meet older people with special needs often, but when I do it makes me think about Norrin’s future.

I don’t know what Norrin will be like when he grows up. I can only hope. I hope that he can be as independent as Timothy. I hope Norrin lives in a neighborhood that he can walk around on a Saturday afternoon and run his errands. And I hope there will be a market owner who greets Norrin by name.

This post originally appeared on Atypical Familia.

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Boy With Autism Forms Special Bond With Friendly Poodle

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When 8-year-old Conor Corrigan experiences change, he’ll sometimes scream and fling himself on the floor. Autism makes it difficult for Conor to adjust his routines. But now, thanks to his new sidekick — a service poodle named Peyton — it’s easier for Conor to calm down.

“Even if he does [have an episode] Peyton will lie on top of him, give him that deep pressure and that episode will last seconds rather than 15 minutes,” Conor’s mom, Shelly, tells KXAN in the video below. The friendly poodle also helps Conor interact with his classmates — a feat that was challenging before.

On her blog, Shelly Corrigan explained:

One of the great things about Peyton being at school is that it gets kids and adults talking about autism. Not many knew what was up with Conor and why he wouldn’t talk to anyone. It broke my heart seeing kids trying to engage with Conor and when he didn’t respond they gave up and looked like they thought Conor was being rude and not talking to them. Now everyone knows that Peyton is there to help Conor in many ways including communication. Kids are curious about autism and thankfully ask a lot of questions. Conor is gaining a lot more confidence, and Peyton is helping bridge the gap between a “kid with special needs” and a “kid who gets to bring his dog to school and needs extra help talking.”

The Corrigans are still fundraising to fully pay for Peyton. But Conor’s mom told KXAN that she later hopes to start a nonprofit so other families with autism can afford service dogs.

Watch Conor and Peyton attending Barton Creek Elementary in West Lake Hills, Tex., in the KXAN video below:


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This Teen’s Brilliant Artwork Changed the Way His Classmates Saw Him

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Zach Becenti used to have trouble talking with his teachers and classmates. The teen from Harbor Springs, Mich., has autism, which makes social situations difficult for him. But his extraordinary artistic talent helped break down those walls.

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When students and teachers began noticing Becenti’s amazing portraits, the young man started gaining confidence and opening up. Now, he interacts with people around him, so much so that he gives an interview in the UpNorthLive video below. Watch to see how far he’s come — and also to get a glimpse at his current concept art project, where he imagines disasters (i.e. the Titanic, 9/11) as if they never happened.

Sure, you could describe the way his mind works as “different.” But we prefer, “brilliant.”


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39 Seconds of Sweetness Between a Girl With Autism and Her Friend

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Madeline Long is a 10 year old girl on the autism spectrum. She has become a minor star among people who watch her weekly “Happy Monday” videos, as these fans have been taken in by the sweet charisma that she has for life. Maddie greets people at the start of the week with the phrase, “Happy Monday.” I’m sure most of you are wondering, And what is so great about the start of the week? The answer is pretty simple. When you are someone who craves a schedule as much as Maddie does, you are confused by the lack of structure that a weekend brings and love nothing more than going back to the regimented life that school provides.

How would I describe Maddie? She’s manic in her energy levels. Her attention span is very limited. Because of these things her interests in life are active, be it basketball, swimming or pretend play. Those of you that think most kids on the spectrum are like zombies sitting in front of the TV — well spend a day with Maddie and that notion of yours will disappear. Here’s another thing that might surprise you. She’s very much a people person, as long as they are adult people who facilitate helping her do the things she wants to do. She rarely connects with peers because despite her sharing the same chronological age, her developmental age is more like a 4-year-old, so her play reflects that.

I give you this background about Maddie so you can understand how rare it is for her to display the calm nature she offers up in the video below. I have seen Maddie be this way very few times, and it’s always been when she is around another person with a developmental delay that is more global in nature than her own. She has no “Rain Man” savant-like gifts, but Maddie does have an instinct to go inside herself and be the calm vessel that the person she is with needs at that point. As much as I would like to have someone to help me beat the Vegas house at blackjack, I wouldn’t trade it for the sensitive trait my girl has in dealing with people with bigger challenges than she even faces.

The other person in this video is 11-year-old Matthew. Besides being on the spectrum, Matthew was born with tuberous sclerosis. The very non-medical description is that he has non-malignant tumors that can pop up all over. When he was in-utero he had one of these tumors in his heart. He has battled way more than what you and I have had to do to survive in life. Don’t be fooled by his sweet smile, this little guy is 100 percent American tough guy.  Matthew would have the right to call Chuck Norris a wuss.

Maddie and Matthew met through Special Olympics basketball. On the court Maddie is like a lot of NBA players, as her focus wavers when she is on defense, but she had a successful season as she got through the noise and distractions that in the past often had her emotionally unable to stay on the hardwood. Basketball was newer to Matthew and he struggled most of the year to even take his hands off his ears. The whole thing often just seemed too much for him, but that is one of many of the great parts about the Special Olympics. No judgments. I’m not a big fan of cliches, but I do truly believe that so much of life is just showing up and my man Matthew did, despite how tough it often was for him.

At the end of the season, Matthew’s wonderful parents invited the families of the teams to a celebration party at their house. When you have a child on the spectrum you don’t get invited to too many parties and you aren’t very likely to attend anyway, as the atmosphere isn’t generally conducive for the challenges that are always at hand. This was a different type of party, as the vibe was perfect for all the kids. One player was absent, though — Matthew. He was holed up in his room the whole time. At this point I should mention that the one teammate that I had noticed during practice and games who Matthew would take his hands off his ears for was Maddie. He had even hugged her a couple of times. Knowing this I mentioned to Maddie that we should go into Matthew’s room and see if we could get him to join the rest of us at the party. The video below is what happened when we did this.


This post originally appeared on It’s An Autism Thing.

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Watch This Brave Kid Stand Up to His Entire Class and Demand to Be Seen

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It takes a lot of guts to stand up to bullies. It takes even more guts to stand up to your entire class. In the video below, Jake, a young man with autism, does just that.

“I don’t think you guys see me for me,” Jake says. “I want you guys to see me for me and really try to be my friend.”

The clip was filmed for The BULLY Project, a social anti-bullying campaign inspired by the 2011 documentary, “BULLY.” Since the movie aired, Jake, who’s now a junior in high school, told Upworthy that social life has improved for him — he’s even joined his high school football team.

He told Upworthy:

For other kids with autism, if you’re getting bullied, try and tell them to stop and not give a reaction — if that doesn’t work, go to an adult. It might seem hard cause we can’t handle stress as well as other kids, but you will get through it and you’ll be awesome — actually you already are!

Watch Jake stand up to his bullies:


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Mother’s Photos Capture What It’s Like to Live With Autism

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On the day Rosie Barnes’ 3-year-old son, Stanley, was diagnosed with autism, the mother of two sat in her living room with the lights off. In front of her, leaflets from the doctor’s office spewed information about the developmental disorder. Barnes began to weep as she read through statistics, facts and definitions. She couldn’t find comfort in what felt like pages of jargon-filled instructions. Of course, she wanted to learn about autism, but she wanted to go deeper than that. She wanted to understand what her child was feeling.

“I’ve always felt that for me, text books weren’t necessarily a good starting place… I could never actually find [Stanley] in the textbooks and I was left feeling confused and anxious,” Barnes, 48, told The Mighty in an email.

Barnes, a London-based photographer, had been composing pictures of Stanley since he was born; she was fascinated by her son’s point of view. But after his diagnosis, she realized she had actually been photographing autism’s point of view.

“Stanley was living in a world far more complex than I could ever imagine,” Barnes told The Mighty. She wanted to document that. Today, Stanley is 17 years old, and Barnes still captures his life in a photo book called, “Understanding Stanley,” where pictures are accompanied by statements from adults on the autism spectrum or from those who support individuals with autism.

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“Stanley needs a very clearly defined framework and fixed personal routines to keep him calm and happy.”
— Rosie Barnes

Understanding Stanley mural

 He sat there for a very long time, just staring at this kind of madness.”
— Rosie Barnes

Barnes wants her photographs to reach people at an emotional level, a far more important place to start, she says, when trying to understand autism.

“I want to make the invisible visible,” she told The Mighty, “and I suppose I want people to feel, not just to think.”

“It feels like I’m trapped in a world where everyone has their backs to me.” — Nita Jackson, on the autism spectrum

“We do things in different ways but we are of the same worth and value and we are not broken and do not need to be fixed or cured.”
— Jean-Paul Bovee, on the autism spectrum

As Barnes works to raise money for “Understanding Stanley” to be published, she continues to add to the project and spread a message close to her heart:

“I think it’s a realistic book. It’s not very negative, and it’s also not unrealistically positive. It just reflects what I think autism is: Not wrong, just a different way of experiencing life.”


UPDATE: “Understanding Stanley” reached its fundraising goal and is now available here.

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