To Anyone With a Disability Who Has Low Self-Esteem

You are worthy, not worthless. A blessing to others, not a burden. A joy to be around, not a nuisance. Most importantly, you are a gift from God. And anyone who tells you otherwise is dead wrong. They are ableist and ignorant.

You are entitled to a life of blessings and prosperity, just like any other person in this world. You will have to work a little harder than others to get the things you want, but that does not mean you cannot have those things.

Here are some ways to boost your self-esteem and take control of your life. It will not happen overnight. It’s a gradual process, but if you keep practicing and remember these steps, you will get the hang of it.

1. Find a supportive community. Being around like-minded people will empower you to take control of your life. Search for social or support groups with people who are like you, or start your own group if you cannot find one that suits you.

2. Advocate for what you want. I know this can be difficult, especially if you are nonverbal, but it will help others to understand what your needs and wants are. Use letter boards, touch screens or write down your thoughts with a pencil and some paper.

3. Focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses. Many times when we are depressed or have low self-esteem we tend to dwell on what we cannot do. Try this approach instead: Think about the things you have done or enjoy doing. Write them down, and keep doing the things you’re good at or enjoy. Soon, you will feel more confident and have higher self-esteem.

4. Know that nobody is perfect, and you will make mistakes. If you have a bad day or if you do something wrong, do not worry or beat yourself up. You are doing the best you can to live your life.

5. Remember, you are not a burden, so do not be afraid to ask for help. Everyone, including able-bodied people, needs assistance, so do not be embarrassed or ashamed to ask for it. It’s better than trying to struggle all by yourself.

Here are some links that support disability rights:


National Council on Independent Living

Self Advocates Being Empowered

This post originally appeared on All Spectrum Girl.

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