Doctors Told This Couple Their Time Together Was Limited. They Responded in the Most Beautiful Way.

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When I got on the phone with Alicia and Drew Booker, I was expecting a somber conversation.

With Drew battling a terminal illness and Alicia facing the possibility of losing him, it was bound to be a sob-fest. What I wasn’t prepared for was the laughter and joy I would share with them on our hour-long chat.

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When Alicia first saw Drew in a prayer circle at her church more than ten years ago, she was drawn to him and instantly wanted to know more about him. A few months later, the two were married.

They’d only been dating for a week when Drew proposed outside the Franklin Cinema in Franklin, Tennessee, where they’d had their first date. The marquee outside the theater read, “Will you marry me, Alicia?” On April 22nd, 2005 they were wed in Steamboat Springs, Colorado, by Drew’s father, a pastor who had met the bride mere hours before officiating the wedding. The two have been inseparable ever since.

But, just two months after the wedding, Drew became ill. He already lived with juvenile diabetes and an autoimmune condition called Alopecia Areata, but now he was having seizures. Doctors diagnosed him with epilepsy and he was having multiple grand mal seizures every month — a type of seizure where you lose consciousness and suffer violent muscle contractions, according to the Mayo Clinic.

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“When he first had one, I thought he had died,” Alicia told The Mighty. “It was the worst experience of my life. It’s traumatic.”

This was just the first of many grueling hospital visits and diagnoses to come for the couple. Drew’s doctors discovered a new condition he had nearly every year — Celiac disease, IgA immune deficiency and Autonomic Autoimmune Ganglionopathy, which is a blood cell process disorder that Drew is to date the youngest person ever diagnosed with it. Most recently Drew found out he also has a condition called Buds-Chiari syndrome.

Buds-Chiari syndrome is also known as Hepatic vein obstruction. It’s a blockage of the hepatic vein, which carries blood away from the liver, according to the National Library of Medicine. Drew’s blockage was caused by a blood clot, and he’s currently in stage IV liver failure. Normally a liver transplant would be an option, but because of his previous autoimmune conditions, Drew is not a candidate for liver transplant surgery.

His liver has such extensive damage that it should not still be working, but his currently is. Doctors have given him a vague timeline of months to years to live.

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“If I present all the conditions I suffer from on paper, doctors say, ‘This guy has months to live,’” Drew told The Mighty. “But when they give me a physical they just don’t know.”

Facing an uncertain amount of time left together, the Bookers decided to work on their “True Love Bucket List.” On their website, they’ve both compiled lists of things they want to do for and with each other before it’s too late. Alicia’s list includes taking a pottery class together, getting a tattoo together and kissing on top of the Empire State Building. Drew’s includes kissing Alicia under the Eiffel Tower, giving her at least 100 more foot, hand and back rubs, and a cross-country drive together.

“The True Love Bucket List was created by us to inspire others to love each other more,” Alicia told The Mighty. “It’s not a sad story, it’s a beautiful story that we are sharing with others.”

The list only went online two weeks ago, but already the couple can cross one thing off — they recently went to Harry Potter World in the Universal Orlando Resort in Orlando, Florida.

Despite everything they’ve been through in the last ten years, the Bookers are some of the most cheerful people I’ve had the pleasure of conversing with. The two were laughing and finishing each other’s sentences while recounting their story for me, even interrupting one another for a good-natured joke.

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Drew genuinely means it when he tells me that it’s all been fun — even the dark times — because he has had Alicia by his side.

“When I look back at the last ten years I don’t see a life of suffering, I only see good and happy times,” he told The Mighty. “I feel like I can sit through the hardest things, physical and emotional, because I have her. That fact is enough to sustain me through anything.”

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“I don’t see Andrew as a sick person,” Alicia told The Mighty.  “I love him, I love his heart, I love his mind.”

When Alicia briefly left the conversation and Drew had me all to himself, he couldn’t wait to tell me everything he loves about his magnificent wife. But it’s this little detail that stuck out to me:

He explained that now when they hug she has to hold him up. When she does this, he rests his head on her shoulder and she unknowingly lets out a little sigh. Drew cherishes that noise.

“Just one of those little sighs to me is worth the cost of a thousand seizures any day,” he said.

For updates on their Bucket List progress, visit the Bookers’ website or Facebook page

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“This may sound crazy,” Nigel Lythgoe, producer and judge of “So You Think You Can Dance,” told dancer Franchesca Bass after her audition, “but maybe the alopecia is the making of you because you are so totally unique.”

Bass, 18, who lost all of her hair to alopecia areata when she was in sixth grade, auditioned in Chicago for SYTYCD’s 11th season — and went straight through to the next round in Las Vegas.

“Hair is just an asset,” Bass said before her audtion. “It’s not something that I actually need to be successful.”

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Why 3 Friends Are Attending the Worst Concerts They Can Think Of — Completely Sober

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In the last two years, John Simon, Tony Cerame and Jason Struttmann have soberly seen Creed, the Backstreet Boys and — after tonight — Cher in concert. Why? To raise awareness and money for multiple sclerosis (MS), of course. Humor, sarcasm and all-around absurdity is the best way to fight the debilitating disease, they think.

In 2008, Simon visited a neurologist after experiencing dizziness and double vision. When he was then diagnosed with MS, “it was completely terrifying,” he told The Mighty. Still, when he sent an email out to his friends and family about the diagnosis, he made jokes — not to trivialize the disease but to lighten the mood.

That email’s tone struck a chord with Cerame — how could he use humor to raise MS awareness? The answer, he found, was to promise to attend horrible concerts if people met fundraising goals. He wondered, how much money would people donate to get him, Simon and Struttmann to attend a Creed concert — something they all imagined to be terrible — completely sober? One thousand dollars, at least, they thought and set up a CrowdRise campaign. In two days, they broke that goal, raising more than $3,000.

“The initial engagement and support for it really made us think that we’d tapped into something,” Cerame said. “We’re sort of accidental philanthropists.”

With Simon, they set out to attend more concerts. Up next: The Backstreet Boys — the three attended the boy band’s concert with spray tans and frosted tips and raised more than $4,000 on CrowdRise.

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Next, the three will attend a Cher concert — dressed in drag. Already, they’ve raised more than $6,000.

“None of us have any malice in our hearts for Cher,” Simon told The Mighty. “The project has grown into, ‘What can we do to make people pay attention and want to engage? We want to reach people who don’t necessarily have any direct ties to MS.”

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Simon, who’s thankful that medication has helped keep his MS symptoms at bay, of course wants to raise money for research, but he and his friends are mostly focused on raising awareness. He knows that a lot of people don’t understand what MS is.

“Maybe, through what we’re doing, someone will learn and be able to empathize with a person with MS,” he told The Mighty.

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A Photographer Asked People With Serious Illnesses Their Thoughts on Death. These Are Their Answers.

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Photographer Andrew George was standing at a memorial service for his friend’s late mother when the idea first came to him. He wondered, while marveling at her friends’ and family’s genuine love for her, what made her life extraordinary. What had she done to bring out such raw emotions in people?

“She was exceptional in that she emanated joy and never seemed to show fear or self-consciousness,” George, 43, told The Mighty in an email. “Yet, regrettably, she was no one you’d ever learn about if you didn’t know her because her material accomplishments did not include fame.”

George wanted to meet others like his friend’s mom — exceptional people who seemed unexceptional at first glance. He wanted to hear what wisdom they had. He reached out to hospitals in the Los Angeles area to see if he could interview people in palliative care facing serious to chronic illnesses. Most doctors said no. But Dr. Marwa Kilani at Providence Holy Cross Medical Center said yes. With permission, George began photographing and interviewing patients in a series called “Right Before I Die.”

“There was so much of value we could all learn — healthy or ill — from the authentic, hard-won wisdom of these men and women,” George told The Mighty. “And yet, society would deem them unremarkable for, like most of us, they lead lives out of the spotlight of media attention and won’t be mentioned in history books.”

Below are a few of George’s portraits and excerpts from his interviews. Visit the “Right Before I Die” website to view the entire series. George notes that he does not include each person’s disease or career on purpose.

“These men and women were no different than any of us, and sooner or later, we would all be experiencing what they were,” George explained. “[Their stories had] a profound richness, poignancy and simplicity that illustrated so clearly how we could learn what we all seek: to live more fulfilling and loving lives.”

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This Is the Only Good Reason to Take a Gym Selfie

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Time to start taking gym selfies! Bear with us.

Anytime Fitness, a gym in New South Wales, Australia, has found a great reason to snap a picture of yourself mid-workout — to help raise multiple sclerosis (MS) awareness. The gym challenged fitness fanatics to “Kiss Goodbye to MS” by uploading gym selfies to Facebook or Instagram. The goal is to spread the word about MS, a disease that affects the brain and spinal chord, and ultimately raise money for research.

Anytime Fitness manager Kiera Pyne, whose sister, Kristen Harmer, was recently diagnosed with MS, told The Cessnock Advertiser that in one month the selfie campaign raised more than $1,500.

“It’s times like these that you realize how many kind and generous people there are out there,” she told the paper.

Selfies can be silly, we know, but raising awareness is seriously important. So, we’re on board. Check out some of Anytime Fitness’ submissions below, and if you’re feeling up to it, snap your own gym selfie.

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Husband With Alzheimer’s Shows His Wife He Hasn’t Forgotten How Much He Loves Her

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When 84-year-old Melvyn Amrine went missing near his home in Little Rock, Ark., in early May, his wife, Doris, called the police. She was especially worried because her husband has Alzheimer’s disease — his memory has been slowly fading for the last three years or so.

But when police found him two miles from his home, he knew exactly where he was going and why he was going there — he needed to get Mother’s Day flowers for his wife. The officers couldn’t bring him home without helping him complete that mission.

CBS’ Steve Hartman caught up later with the Amrines to hear how the heartwarming story ended.

“It’s special,” Doris Amrine tells him in the video below, “because even though the mind doesn’t remember everything, the heart remembers.”

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