31 Truths Parents of Children With Special Needs Wish Others Understood


Life is all about understanding each other. That’s what we at The Mighty believe. So often when we interview parents of children with special needs, we hear a similar sentiment: I wish others would take the time to understand…” 

So we thought we’d help that happen. We asked our Mighty bloggers and Facebook community what they wish other people understood about their child with special needs. These are their answers.

Meme that says [We don't want to our daughter to be different. We don't wish for a different version of her. We want her, exactly as she is, wheelchair and all. -- Laurie Arnold]

“We don’t want our daughter to be different. We don’t wish for a different version of her. We want he exactly as she is, wheelchair and all.”– Laurie Arnold

Meme that says [Please know my son is doing the best he can. -- Carrie Cariello]

“Please know my son is doing the best he can.”–Carrie Carriello

Meme that says [I'm not handling my daughter's disability because God gave me as much as I can handle. It's actually because of my own resilience and determination to make our lives as normal as possible. --Serena Fuller]

“I’m not handling my daughter’s disability because God gave me as much as I can handle. It’s actually because of my own resilience and determination to make our lives as normal as possible.” –Serena Fuller

Meme that says [People with disabilities are not less. They're different.--Lauren Jordan]

“People with disabilities are not less. They’re different.”–Lauren Jordan

Meme that says ['Oh, he looks normal' is not a compliment. --Melissa Montoya]

“‘Oh, he looks normal’ is not a compliment.”–Melissa Montoya

Meme that says [My daughter is so much more than a label. --Gemma Bryan]

“My daughter is so much more than a label.”–Gemma Bryan

Meme that says [My son is capable of so much love. --Gloria Payne Bearne]

“My son is capable of so much love.”–Gloria Payne Bearne

Meme that says [I'd rather you ask me what's wrong with my daughter than give me dirty looks. --Alysaa Korzeniowski]

“I’d rather you ask me what’s wrong with my daughter than give me dirty looks.”–Alysaa Korzeniowski

Quote that says [My boys are happy and full of joy even though they're in wheelchairs. --Kelly Mantoan]

“My boys are happy and full of joy even though they’re in wheelchairs.”–Kelly Mantoan

Meme that says [Try throwing us a smile. If you only knew how such a small act of kindness can make a difference . --April Shaw]

“Try throwing us a smile. If you only knew how such a small act of kindness can make a difference .”–April Shaw

Meme that says [My daughter doesn't expect you to be perfect. Why do you expect her to be? -- Shen Mager] “My daughter doesn’t expect you to be perfect. Why do you expect her to be? “– Shen Mager

Meme that says [I want others to accept my child for who she is. To look close and see her goodness. --Suzanna Perryman]

“I want others to accept my child for who she is. To look close and see her goodness.”–Suzanna Perryman

Meme that says [My son is a little boy. He is not a hero. He is not a victim. Sometimes he is happy, sometimes he is sad. Some days he is nice, some days (most days?) he is naughty. Pity is not the same as empathy and seeing my son for what he can't do, rather than what he can, will hurt his chances to live a full and productive life far more than his disability ever could. --Mary Evelyn Smith]

“My son is a little boy. He is not a hero. He is not a victim. Sometimes he is happy, sometimes he is sad. Some days he is nice, some days (most days?) he is naughty. Pity is not the same as empathy and seeing my son for what he can’t do, rather than what he can, will hurt his chances to live a full and productive life far more than his disability ever could.” –Mary Evelyn Smith

Meme that says [A diagnosis can't predict the extraordinary love you will have for your child. --Tara McCallan]

 “A diagnosis can’t predict the extraordinary love you will have for your child.”–Tara McCallan

Meme that says [My daughter responds best to patience, understanding and love. --Shelli Burgio]

“My daughter responds best to patience, understanding and love.”–Shelli Burgio

Meme that says [My son is more like your child than he is different. --Talitha Snyder]

“My son is more like your child than he is different.”–Talitha Snyder

Meme that says [My son doesn't need to be fixed. He's perfect the way he is. --Jennifer Brock]

“My son doesn’t need to be fixed. He’s perfect the way he is.”–Jennifer Brock

Meme that says [Special needs parents (though we are super) do what we have to do not because we like to outdo average parents, but because it's what we have to do. --Tara Michele Clifton]

“Special needs parents (though we are super) do what we have to do not because we like to outdo average parents, but because it’s what we have to do.” –Tara Michele Clifton

Meme that says [My child really is special needs (even if he doesn't look like it).--Valma Ashpaugh]

“My child really is special needs (even if he doesn’t look like it).”–Valma Ashpaugh Meme that says [My son is a child. A wonderful, perfect child. --Erin Szakos]

“My son is a child. A wonderful, perfect child.”–Erin Szakos

Meme that says [Children with special needs can hear you. --Jenna Rae Furlong]

“Children with special needs can hear you.”–Jenna Rae Furlong

Meme that says [See the child beyond the disability. --Alyssa Korzeniowski]

“See the child beyond the disability.”–Alyssa Korzeniowski

Meme that says [My son wants friends too! He just needs help and understanding. --Cayla Duncan]

“My son wants friends too! He just needs help and understanding.”–Cayla Duncan

Meme that says [As hard as it is for everyone else, it's even harder for her. --Teri Bass]

“As hard as it is for everyone else, it’s even harder for her.”–Teri Bass

Meme that says [You shouldn't pretend you can't see us at a park or community event. We need friends and communication too. --Rachel Bradley]

“You shouldn’t pretend you can’t see us at a park or community event. We need friends and communication too.”–Rachel Bradley

Meme that says [There's no reason for pity. --Anne Wilson]

“There’s no reason for pity.”–Anne Wilson

Meme that says [Stop staring as I comfort my 8-year-old son when he's overwhelmed. He can be 15 for all I care. If he needs momma's comforting, guess what? He's going to get it! --Vanessa Sanchez]

“Stop staring as I comfort my 8-year-old son when he’s overwhelmed. He can be 15 for all I care. If he needs momma’s comforting, guess what? He’s going to get it!”–Vanessa Sanchez

Meme that says [My son has a heart and feelings too! --Sara Kinman Godby]

“My son has a heart and feelings too!”–Sara Kinman Godby

Meme that says [A diagnosis is a small part of a whole, 3-dimensional being. --Molly Prive]

“A diagnosis is a small part of a whole, 3-dimensional being.”–Molly Prive

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“My child is not a hero, not a warrior, not a monster, not a poster child for his disease…just a little boy who likes boy things like baseball and cartoons, who hurts like a little boy when he is poked with needles too often, who laughs at silly things that little boys laugh at like farting and falling. He is just a little boy who has a failing body…and my love for him is as fierce, protective, devoted, sacrificial and as loyal as any good mother’s love can be–special needs or not.”–Anita Birk

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