To the Stranger Who Sits Near Me During My Daughter’s Swimming Lessons


Res float Dear familiar stranger,

I don’t know your name.

You don’t know mine.

You don’t know my daughter’s name or her struggles, other than my quick explanation: “she has developmental delays.”

And I don’t know your grandson’s name.

But every week we sit there among dozens of other strangers and watch our little ones through the glass at swim lessons.

They’re in different classes — to be honest I don’t even know which class your grandson is in. But you watch my daughter and know what group she’s in.

You know when there’s a new lifeguard sitting next to her at the pool, and you look at me to make sure I see they aren’t paying enough attention to grab her when she willfully steps off into the water. Thank you.

You sigh a sigh of relief when the lifeguard is watching and plucks her out without a second’s hesitation. Thank you.

You smile when it’s her time to swim and she high-fives the teacher. Thank you.

This last week you cheered out loud, before I even did, when she floated for ten seconds on her own. Thank you.

You told me she was doing great. Thank you.

I love that you cheer for my daughter with me. It warms my heart.

Thanks,

The Special Needs Mom Who Doesn’t Feel So Alone at Swimming Lessons

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