Dear ADHD and Anxiety, I Have a Few Favors to Ask

Dear ADHD and anxiety,

I want to thank you for showing me what patience and caring truly is.

You never cease to amaze me with how you can disguise yourself in my beautiful niece. She is so intelligent (yes, intelligent, the IQ tests prove it), but you rear your ugly head each and every day. Even a simple task like brushing her teeth and taking her medication requires non-stop reminder notes and special pill cases to get it done and not forgotten.

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When Lindsay becomes overwhelmed with all her schoolwork, she will cry or ask to leave class because that’s when ADHD’s “bestie,” anxiety, comes to hang out.

I would love for the two of you to leave her alone and let her find peace in sitting in a classroom, just once.

I would love for the teachers who deal with Lindsay to not look at her and see a “lazy” kid, but a kid who works hard to be present and listen to their words. Instead she hears the heater banging, the noise in the hallway, sees the paper on the floor, thinks about what she has to do in her next class and focuses on the kid tapping his pencil. She’s not being disrespectful. She’s using every ounce of energy to stay right there in the moment.

I am thankful for all Lindsay adds to my life. She is so creative and energetic, and she’s an amazing singer.

Could you please stop making her question why she is different and why things have to be so hard? She asked me once why she couldn’t just be normal. ADHD and anxiety make life 100 times harder and it’s a matter of learning to manage this as she gets older.

I just want you to please let others know it’s not a choice. It’s not being disrespectful, lazy, or a case of if she really cared she could do better.

Lindsay is a shining star and I love all of her, but I need you to help others to see her as I do.


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