The Time My Son Made Me Smile After a Tough IEP Day


Yesterday was IEP day. It always causes me anxiety and stress.

In the days leading up to it, I try to mentally prepare myself for it. I have to admit, I can’t say I have really ever had a bad experience. For that, I am grateful. I really do feel that his team has always had his best interests at heart.

It is just the whole process that puts me on edge. It makes me feel… anxious, uneasy and uncomfortable. I have always attended the meetings alone. Unless of course you count last year. Jordan, my 6-year-old at the time, had to come with me. I jokingly called her my “Little Enforcer.”

Yesterday’s meeting went well. He got the services I believe he needs.

The part that gets me is hearing about where he struggles. It is not something I talk about here often. He does struggle, in so many areas. It is hard to listen to. I know it is coming, but it never makes it easier to hear. Of course I hear the good things, too, but it is the struggles that stay in the front of my mind. I left and felt, for lack of a better word, “blah” all day. I spent most of it in a sort of fog.

Then he got home from school. He got off the bus and flashed his handsome little grin at me. “Hi Mommy! You know, it is raining out!” He proceeded to walk to the car giggling, and trying to catch the raindrops on his tongue. I just watched him and smiled.

We got home from the bus stop. “Mommy, will you come watch ‘Angry Birds Tunes’ with me?” Of course I did. And he laughed, his most contagious belly laugh. How could a person not feel better after hearing their child snort from laughing so much?

Yep… some things are more difficult for him, and they may always be. I don’t know what the future holds and I try not to think ahead too much. But he works so hard. He has made such progress over the last few years.

I have to remind myself of that on days like yesterday. There will always be hiccups, but he is healthy and happy. I really can’t ask for more than that.

This post originally appeared on This Ausome Family.

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