When the Doctor Said ‘Sorry’ About My Daughter’s Extra Chromosome


Once upon a time, shortly after KC was born, we saw a geneticist. He concluded our appointment by telling us he was “sorry” about KC’s diagnosis and that if he could “push a magic cure button” for us, he would.

Needless to say, we haven’t been back to see him since. But if I did see him again, I would love to tell him that we are NOT sorry. I’d love to tell him that we wouldn’t dream of KC being anything other than who she is today. OK, maybe (just maybe!) I’d tone down the sass just a tiny little bit.

He meant no harm and no doubt was trying to say what he thought might be comforting to new parents to this adventure, but I fear he might have bought into all of the misconceptions and negative stigmas about life with 3 copies of the 21st chromosome.

While Down syndrome is a part of who KC (and anyone else with Down syndrome) is, it does not define her. Her extra chromosome is just one piece of the whole package that makes up the amazing girl she is. We are truly privileged to experience her life with 3 copies of the 21st chromosome.

Recently, in celebration of World Down Syndrome Day on March 21, we asked our friends to tell us who she is to them, and this is what they came up with:

kc joy parman the mighty

There were so many wonderful responses. As you can see, KC is not any one thing. She’s a whole lot of awesome and, thankfully, Down syndrome happens to be part of that list.

I do, however, find it interesting that none of our friends mentioned her extra chromosome.

The amazing photo is by Wurth Images LLC, and KC is adorably clothed, as always, by Sweet Petunia Clothing.

This post originally appeared on Good Things Come in 3s.

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