To the Peers Who Bullied Me for My Panic Disorder
Editor’s note: If you struggle with suicidal thoughts of have lost a loved on to suicide, the following post could potentially be triggering. You can contact the Crisis Text Line by texting “START” to 741-741.
I have a slight tremor in my hands and a postural tremor in one of my legs — meaning I involuntarily shake my leg up and down. I also pick at the skin behind my fingers until they bleed — a nervous habit years in the making. Other than these three actions caused by my anxiety, it would be difficult to pick me out of a line up of 18-year-old based solely on the knowledge that I have a panic disorder.
I go on dates, I go to school, I cheerlead, I swim, I spend time with my friends. I’m lucky to have an illness that affects as little of the rest of my life as my panic disorder does, but I have never been able to completely dodge the “mental illness stigma” bullet.
My dad died by suicide in September of my junior year in high school. It was a shock to my entire family and community, but it was also a blow to my own mental state. He was in the backyard of my family’s home when I came home from school that day. He had shot himself with a shotgun he’d owned since he was a child.
The feeling I had all the time for the first few months after my father’s death is hard to explain. It felt as if I was always on the brink of somehow sliding right out of my skin. Loud noises, bright lights, too many people, it all brought me to the verge of tears, a symptom of my onsetting post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
Almost two years later, my anxiety has become almost completely manageable. I can sit through movies and concerts and sporting events without having to get up and leave. I can travel, spending longer periods of time away from the comfort of my home, and I can sleep, unmedicated, almost every single night of the week.
These results have not come without work. I changed anxiety medications six times in one year, I was counseled on managing my anxiety twice a week for two years straight, and worst of all, I was bullied, and am still bullied, what seems to be relentlessly, for my panic disorder.
Tomorrow, in my public speaking class, I am supposed to give my final speech about someone who inspires me. I wrote a speech about my dad and all the things he has done and all the ways he has inspired me. But I changed my mind about the subject of my speech after today in math class when I got a text from someone that said, “Who eats Xanax for breakfast—from your entire Algebra 3 class.”
This is not the first time I have been made fun of for my mental illness, and I doubt it will be the last. Ever since my father’s death, people can’t be quick enough to talk about how “crazy” I am or crack jokes behind my back about my depression or anxiety.
And for that, I would like to thank them.
I would like to thank every single person who ever called me crazy or cracked a joke over the fact that I keep a prescription of Xanax in my purse in case of a panic attack.
I’m so thankful that I learned at 18 years old that it really doesn’t matter what anybody else thinks about me, instead of spending my entire life caring what others think, like I know some of my peers will. I am so proud of myself and of my accomplishments. Everything that has happened to me has led up to this very moment, where I am as young as I will ever be and as old as I have ever been.
My peers, who teased me nonstop about my disorder until literally my very last day of high school, have taught me how strong I am, that I can bend to the very end without breaking. They have shown me that every time they push me down I can get back up again because that is what I was made for.
They have taught me I will go far in life because they have taught me how to overcome adversity time and time again.
So for my last speech, I would like to thank every single person who ever made fun of me for my panic disorder. You have taught me that I am strong, beautiful and resilient. This speech is for you. I am one of the strongest people I know, and I truly couldn’t have done it without you.
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