To My Dad With ALS on Father’s Day


Dear Dad,

I’m sorry I haven’t spent much time with you recently. It’s just sometimes being around you when you’re getting sicker makes me anxious.

I’m going to change that this year.

I’m sorry you had to miss my graduation and my sister’s sweet sixteen party. If there was anything I could do to change that, believe me, I would. And I’m sorry ALS has taken so much away from you. I know it’s not easy, but you manage to stay positive, which inspires me.

So I would also like to thank you. Thank you for joking about your condition and lightening the mood, showing us your funny personality hasn’t disappeared. I know it is difficult for you to talk seriously about ALS, but your jokes help us cope just as well.

Thank you for finding new ways to be a part of the family through movie nights and sedentary activities. But most of all, thank you for teaching me how to care for others. By helping with your care, I have learned how to be nurturing and helpful, which will serve me well in my future career and life.

Dad, you’ve always been my hero. You manage to make everyone happy during such hard times. Even though you can’t move, you still protect me, and you’re still the same Daddy you were when I was a little girl. I love you and happy Father’s Day.

Your Loving Daughter

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