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To My Fiancé Who Loves Me When I Can't Love Myself

I often question how someone could love me when I can’t even love myself. Meeting you was the best thing that has ever happened to me. The last time I felt like myself was the moment I met you. I felt genuinely happy, and I have only been genuinely happy a few times in my life.

I know there may be times when you have doubts about me. I understand that. I don’t tell you enough that I need you, and I can’t imagine my life without you. You have saved me from multiple suicide attempts and tried to help me make sense of everything.

I’m sorry I can be difficult at times, and the smallest things trigger me. I am sorry there are days when I can’t get out of bed or do any housework. I am sorry there are days when I’m flying so high and can’t sit still. I am so grateful to have you in my life.

I am extremely grateful you noticed my manic episodes because no one else paid any attention to me. My whole life I wanted someone who understood me. I wanted someone who let me be my true self and loved me unconditionally.

Even after I’ve had rapid mood swings and tell you I hate you, you’re still here. You’re cleaning up someone else’s mess and have so much weight on your shoulders. Yet, you’re handling it like superman.

I am sorry I come with so much baggage. I am so grateful to have you. You’ve bailed me out of many manic situations, even though some of them weren’t pretty at all. People see me as a sweet, nice person, who is shy. Yet, behind closed doors, we know that changes tenfold. I always change my behavior dependent on who I am trying to please. So I didn’t really know who I was, but you helped me discover I wasn’t just depressed.

You have always been there for me, and it’s surprising to me because whenever I needed someone, something bad happened. I have struggled with anxiety disorders and depression all my life, but we have a few new illnesses that have shown up. I know I can’t hide anything from you, and I know my bulimic behaviors are bad for me. Yet, I have a severe fear of how hard it is to change behavior. I’ve had this behavior for so long that the thought of changing is hard to handle.

As I embark on this new journey, I want to express how grateful I am to have you in my life, and I couldn’t imagine it without you. When I become someone who I don’t even know, please, know that deep down I truly love you and I want you by my side until the day I die.

Thank you for putting up with my daily life struggles and understanding me. Thank you for accepting me for who I am. I love you, forever. You’re my soul mate.


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