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Why I'm Offering Myself Patience This Year as Someone Who Self-Harms


Everyone tries to improve themselves in some way during the new year, right? I have made numerous New Year’s resolutions that just haven’t been successful at all. So this year I’ve decided to take a different approach.

My mental and physical illnesses have played havoc on my strength. This year I am offering myself patience, patience to learn how to properly manage my illness and triggers. I find when I relapse I become extremely frustrated and give up on getting any better.

In 2017, I will offer myself kindness and love whenever I experience a bad day or a self-harm relapse. I will remind myself that my experiences and illnesses have not made me weak, but rather stronger. Without my hardships, I wouldn’t have grown to become the person I am today. I will trust in the plans God has for me and understand when something bad happens or doesn’t work out.

I offer myself time to heal and to learn coping mechanisms that are healthy. I will remind myself small stressors are not worth too much energy. I will not be able to love myself fully, but I will learn to love myself, wholeheartedly, eventually. This is just the beginning of my journey.

If you or someone you know needs help, visit our suicide prevention resources page.

If you struggle with self-harm and you need support right now, call the crisis hotline at 1-800-273-8255 or text “START” to 741-741. For a list of ways to cope with self-harm urges, click here.

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