Why I'm Offering Myself Patience This Year as Someone Who Self-Harms


Everyone tries to improve themselves in some way during the new year, right? I have made numerous New Year’s resolutions that just haven’t been successful at all. So this year I’ve decided to take a different approach.

My mental and physical illnesses have played havoc on my strength. This year I am offering myself patience, patience to learn how to properly manage my illness and triggers. I find when I relapse I become extremely frustrated and give up on getting any better.

In 2017, I will offer myself kindness and love whenever I experience a bad day or a self-harm relapse. I will remind myself that my experiences and illnesses have not made me weak, but rather stronger. Without my hardships, I wouldn’t have grown to become the person I am today. I will trust in the plans God has for me and understand when something bad happens or doesn’t work out.

I offer myself time to heal and to learn coping mechanisms that are healthy. I will remind myself small stressors are not worth too much energy. I will not be able to love myself fully, but I will learn to love myself, wholeheartedly, eventually. This is just the beginning of my journey.

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If you struggle with self-harm and you need support right now, call the crisis hotline at 1-800-273-8255 or text “START” to 741-741. For a list of ways to cope with self-harm urges, click here.

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