When Anxiety Makes You Settle for Less


Don’t settle for less than what you deserve.

I could end this post here, but I feel as though it’s something that needs to be discussed. Oftentimes, I’m OK with “settling” because something is familiar or comfortable. Or sometimes, I settle because I think whatever situation I’m in is all I deserve.

The truth is, you should never settle — in any aspect of your life. I’ve had this issue for as long as I can remember. I always felt like I could accept less than what I truly wanted and be complacent. I used to put other other people’s needs before my own and considered self-care selfish. Which brings me to my next point.

I used to think that compromising your own feelings/needs for someone else was selfish. Whenever I felt down or sad, I would get mad at myself for feeling that way. I’ve constantly put however I feel on pause to accommodate other people. Even if I had a million things to do, I would put it on hold to help someone else with something. I finally reached the point where my mental health was degrading because I was constantly worried about what other people thought of me. I wasn’t feeling motivated anymore and I felt like I was just going through the motions of my day-to-day life. This breaking point finally made me realize that you have to do what’s right for yourself, even if it is uncomfortable. Self-care is something I still struggle with, but I’m finally starting to realize that self-care is absolutely necessary in order to be able to help others.

There came a point when I finally reached my breaking point. I was done being there for people who would then disappear when I needed them. I was done with being dragged through things that had nothing to do with me and getting hurt in the progress. It wasn’t intentional, but the fact that I felt that I was being dismissed and felt like all of my thoughts and feelings were invalid hurt more than anything. You should never feel like something you can’t control (like how you feel) is invalid.

Remember that you are your own biggest advocate, and that taking care of yourself has to be a priority.

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