Married (With Autism)

As I prepare to get married this October, I’m often asked a question most brides never get. “Is your fiancé neurotypical?” I have Asperger’s syndrome. I’ll be the first one to admit it is a difficult diagnosis for both myself and my fiancé to live with. I have a myriad of sensory issues, and I like my house and routine to be a certain way. In the real world, I can manage to act neurotypical, which means when I get home, I just need to act autistic. For some reason, people have a hard time believing a “normal” person would want to “put up with” all of that.

And put up with it, he does. He’s had to learn all my warning signs. He knows the difference between my happy rocking and my upset rocking. He knows when I’m about to lose it at the grocery store and listens to me ramble on about whatever book I’m reading in great and exacting detail. Through all this, he still wants to marry me. He wants to spend the rest of his life doing this. He can look past all my faults and foibles and see the positive in me. That is honestly something I never thought I would get, and I’m so grateful I found it.

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