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'13 Reasons Why' Season 3, Episode 6 Review, 'You Can Tell the Heart of a Man by How He Grieves'

“13 Reasons Why” is one of the most talked-about shows within the mental health community. This season, we’re breaking down each episode to see how the show’s coverage of mental health issues has evolved.

Editor's Note

This post is a review of season three, episode six of “13 Reasons Why” and contains spoilers. 

Police question whether or not Tony killed Bryce. Bryce’s funeral occurs and many survivors become angry. Ani discovers two secrets that change the route of the investigation.

What Happens in Episode 6

Police question Tony about his motive to possibly kill Bryce. We see Tony get analyzed as a suspect a bit more than others — perhaps due to racial profiling — before ruling him out as a suspect.

Bryce’s funeral takes place and conflicted feelings are in the air. Bryce’s father seems undisturbed that he is at his son’s funeral. Advocates of the survivor group hide among the mourners before shouting that Bryce was a monster, reminding everyone who he was while he was alive. (My heart hurts for Bryce’s grieving mother, who seems to genuinely believe her son could change.)

Speaking of Bryce’s father, ugh, it’s revealed that he bought a house down the street to live with his new girlfriend, and pays Bryce to “stay away.” Bryce is hurt by this and destroys everything in his father’s home in the middle of the night. When he refuses to pay for the damages, Barry gets hostile and Bryce reminds him that he knows about his other daughter *gulp* from a past affair. Bryce’s mother doesn’t seem shocked.

We see Bryce’s sensitive side when he is shown trying to make amends in his life after the trial. The paint fight he has with his mother in their home is enough to make your heart melt, but I’m still not convinced Bryce has changed at all.

This episode brings a lot of confusion and mixed feelings to the surface surrounding Bryce’s death. As we’ve seen over the past 2 seasons, Bryce clearly has a very, very (putting it lightly) dark side to him that has harmed a lot of people. In this season, we begin to see Bryce claiming he wants to change and admittedly is a monster of a person. He makes small, but meaningful attempts to try to aid his wrong-doings and even stands up for his mother and the respect she deserves.

But Zach brings up a valid point — are we only the sum of our actions or is there something more to us than that? Zach hopes there is something more to us; more than the mistakes we’ve made or the people we’ve hurt. Or maybe it’s a little bit of both. We are reminded that although Bryce made some awful decisions, he was still a son, a teammate, a friend who had more than a dark side. Should we disregard his entire existence and skip the grieving process over the harm he is done? Is there a right answer to this?

It’s truly unclear if there is a right answer. But, one thing we know is that we all have made mistakes in our lives — to different levels of severity. None of us are perfect, we have hurt and will continue to hurt people, that’s just part of human nature. Is that all there is to us? Or are we capable of change and forgiveness? This episode weighed heavy on my heart. It makes you consider the humanity in even the most “awful” people in your memories and life.

After Bryce’s funeral, Clay finds out that the Mustang in the garage is in fact Tony’s… What? Tony’s family is targeted by ICE and deported. Tony needs money for a lawyer. Bryce immediately offers him $50,000, more than the $25,000 asking price, for the mustang he is selling. Bryce admits he knows Tony needs the money and wants to help. Tony is hesitant, but accepts the money and sells the car.

Ani says there is more to the story with Bryce and Tony… but we will find out later. Tony’s family remains deported and the lawyer falls through.

The episode ends with the video footage from Barry’s home the night Bryce was confronted on his doorstep by someone with a gun (Did you forget this, too?!). Police stop the footage and zoom in to see Clay, holding the gun to himself, then at Bryce. This sure looks sketchy? I hope Clay has a good explanation for this one…

Rating: four out of five stars

I appreciate how this episode brought some compassion to Bryce, who seems to get lost in the mix as only a “monster.” We see the good, the bad, the pain, the human — of all which Bryce was.

Discussion Questions

  • This episode highlights that we grieve things that are not always surrounding death. What is something you’ve had to grieve in life?
  • What is the hardest part about forgiving someone who hurt you? What about forgiving ourselves for hurting someone else?

Let us know your answers in the comments below or by posting a thought on The Mighty using #13ReasonsWhy.

’13 Reasons Why’ Season 3 Episode 6 Discussion Questions

Need a refresher? Check out what happens in season one and season two