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This group is dedicated to Mighties who are at any stage of the grieving process, and have experienced loss in any shape or form (no matter how long ago). Maybe you’ve lost someone you loved, a pet that was your whole world, or are grappling with the absence of the “normal” version of you that used to exist before an illness. All shades of grief — and the roller coaster of feelings that accompany them — are welcome here. We might not be able to make it better, but we can sit with you in the meantime. P.S. Here’s a quote we love from author Nora McInerny about grief: “Time is irrelevant to grief. I cannot tell you that it will feel better or worse as time goes by; I can just tell you that it feels better and worse as time goes by. The only guarantee is that however you feel right now, you will not always feel this way.”
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Mums Funeral

Mums funeral went well the sun was shining and they played her favourite Rod Stewart In Church.
I was so worried about mum being buried beside dad,I am an only daughter.
But I smiled as I knew they were together again❤️
I chose the poem do not stand at my grave and weep in the service book.
It helped me immensely,I have bipolar and was worried in case I would relapse.
But I didn’t I have been productive and happy they are together again.
Thanks For Reading x

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Some hard answers

I lost my first military husband a very many years ago. I had questions after reading the Casulty Report which indicated all was mechanical and no one was at fault. I learned some new truths.

Warning: Possibly Triggering for Some

My husband was required to fly with his squadron’s CO. I learned new information from eyewitness that the CO had an argument with the Quality Control Chief about the aircraft he had gotten ready to take off when it had been “downed”. All of a sudden the CO and 2 crew members ran to the jet, fired it up and it was airborne “faster then a cat could lick it (behind)”, without using more than a third of the runway. The eye witness said he’d never seen that type of aircraft take to the air that quickly before. Another said the CO earlier was known to aircraft that others wouldn’t fly and would put aircraft and crew at unnecessary risk. He switched to a new crew because of it. All this was not in the report. There was problems while flying over the oceans 20 min into the flight which he reported, yet he refused to turn back, even though buried in the Casulty report the same part, dealing with the aircraft’s hydraulics and electrics downed for carrier use, at that point in flight were one of the two were in jeopardy. He continued on to destination flying over the wide expansive ocean. By the time they were 20 min from destination the radar saw them in what indicated a power dive they plummeting so fast into the deepest water in the world that the aircraft and nor debris from it or those abroad were found. The report said something catastrophic must have happened prior.

This was an aircraft that had the ability to glide 15 minutes without any power. They were 20 minutes out from being home. The weather and ocean conditions and equipment made it survivable. The search was 24/7 then called off.

I’m thankful someone tried to stop the CO. I’m upset that his choices hadn’t been curbed before. It cost 9 lives including his own, my husband, and our families having to go the rest of our lives without them. It is a terrible lose and consequences. I’ve had days after learning more about this were I felt inner panic at about 10 pm. I started rocking myself and a few days later tried tapping mostly over my heart. I don’t know what I was doing but it helped. I had one of my old nightmares return of being rejected though I know that is not true. I’ve prayed and the nightmare hasn’t come back so far. I had them on and off for ten years after my husband died, until I got counseling. I should have done that sooner. It was when they came closer and closer together that I sought help. I’m thankful for a place to type this out. Maybe it to will help me process. I don’t seem to have the words for my feelings that that panic convaded in my body.

Those others in the Squadron during that time many still reeling from those events as well. It made International news then and the only Squardon Commander to lose his life. Never do schedule before safety. Safety first, then schedule.

If you’ve read this far thank you for reading. #traumatic grief #ComplicatedGrief

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Mum

<p>Mum</p>
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I didn’t know it was so complex!

<p>I didn’t know it was so complex!</p>
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If you made a memory box to help you remember your loved one, what would you put in it?

<p>If you made a memory box to help you remember your loved one, what would you put in it?</p>
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Share a quick message of support for cancer survivors today!

<p>Share a quick message of support for <a href="https://themighty.com/topic/cancer/?label=cancer" class="tm-embed-link  tm-autolink health-map" data-id="5b23ce6a00553f33fe98f050" data-name="cancer" title="cancer" target="_blank">cancer</a> survivors today!</p>
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All at once….

<p>All at once….</p>
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What’s the most helpful thing someone did for you after you experienced a loss?

<p>What’s the most helpful thing someone did for you after you experienced a loss?</p>
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Freshly Grieving

I was at my 84-year-old grandma’s side, when she passed away last Friday, as I had been most of the previous 2-3 days, along with my mom, brother, sister, SIL, 3 aunts, and 5 cousins. She went into the next life surrounded by those she dearly loved, and who greatly loved her. Today was her funeral, and even more uncles, cousins, and extended family and friends came to say their goodbyes. She was an amazing person, and it certainly showed by how many people came/wanted to come, but couldn’t.

I’m a highly sensitive person, and very empathic. Watching those I love hurt so deeply, in addition to my own grief, has been so painful that I feel bruised inside. My heart, my head, and my body all hurt in sympathy.

Already, I feel like I’ve been on a journey of grief, just in the past week. As relatively quick as it was for a death from stroke (only 3 days, some suffer much longer), it was still agonizing to watch and hear. For the first few days after she passed, I feared I might have PTSD, as I had frequent flashbacks, and an irrational fear of choking/drowning on my saliva, none of which I felt I could admit to anyone without making it seem like a cry for attention or making it all about me. Thankfully, those symptoms have passed, but they were frightening.

Now, I’m relieved to have this part over with. I know I will struggle sometimes when I go visit my parents, who have cared for her for the past 12 years, but it’s easier to forget she’s not there, when I’m able to be home with my kids, and let life get back to normal. I need the space from all the grief for a while, because I feel like I’m at my limit, for the moment.

Just needed to ramble for a moment. Thanks for reading!

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Newbie

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