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mighty1 As a dad with a son on the autism spectrum I want other dads to know that it’s OK.

It’s OK to be angry. It’s OK to feel lost. It’s OK to be in denial. It’s OK to cry. Yes, society has raised us to believe that men have to be tough and not cry, so I know this part is hard to cope and deal with. I have one thing to say to that: F**k society. Cry as much as you want; no one that matters in your life will judge you.

It’s not OK to blame your child. It’s not OK to blame your spouse/partner. It’s not OK to blame yourself.

Embrace the other people in your life. Hug them. Share with them. Because you’re not in this alone. Open your eyes and your heart, and you will know this to be true.

Yes, your child won’t want or be able to do things other children do. It’s OK to feel loss over that. It’s OK that your son has no interest in superheroes and likes animals instead. At the end of the day, isn’t your child’s happiness more important than yours? Reassess your priorities if it isn’t. It’s about him or her, not you.

It’s not OK to let your anger take you away from your family. It’s not OK to walk away from being a dad. Your family needs you, more now than ever. Be there, not just for them but for yourself as well.

It’s not the end of the world.

It does get better.

You just have to let it.

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