bam garcia

@bamgarcia
Im a married 39 year old father of one 13 year old girl, i am currently in remission from stage 2 osteosarcoma, i also suffer from fybromyalgia, peripheral neuropathy, obstructive sleep apnea, P.T.S.D
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time to share.....

I am a 41 year old happily married father of 1, I feel it’s time to share some things I have still not dealt with , any advice is welcomed. when I was 5 years old I was sodomized by a family friend I still have only told my wife, I was always a bit heavy , smart , and picked on , it became so bad I feared going to school , when I was 13 I began having pain in my hips , I told my mother but my stepdad would always just say he’s just looking for an excuse to not go to school , 2 months later I had the first of 4 major surgeries on my hips , the last surgery was at age 22 when I was told I have osteosarcoma, I went through another surgery and somehow we beat it , I have spent everyday of my life from age 12 in severe pain , pain that some would say is debilitating, my father would say I was looking for the person who invented work so I could kill him as though I just did not want to work from age 14-22 I hid my pain from everyone who should have cared , my stepfather was an alcoholic and a coke head , his favorite past time was calling me every negative thing you could think of, I speaking on it now because a lot of so called people who say they care smile in my face and then say things like oh he should be ashamed for not providing for his family, I truly wish I could , I just needed to get that off my chest , I’m still trying to get past a lot, any advice would be welcome, thanks😔
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Just like my dad


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“Jim ****” will never die as long as you’re alive. My mother would say to me at random times. I confronted her as an adult & she said it was because I looked so much like him. You know what? I’d rather be like him than like her!! They were divorced & she hated him, he never said one bad word against her. Not one.

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when I was 5 a family friend sodomized me, how do I deal with it I’m still very affected by it?

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