KAmnell

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You Should Still Buy That Coffee When You Live With Financial Anxiety

Nowadays, finding joy can be a little bit of a challenge. Finding things to despair over, however, is as easy as turning on your TV or scrolling through any random social media feed. As we approach another (hear the collective millennial groan) recession within 20 years, more people are having to stress about money. Companies are doing hiring freezes, mass layoffs are happening across industries, and a lot of people are barely surviving. It’s easy for our mental health to deteriorate as we watch our bank accounts closely every second of every day, and that’s why this advice, as unorthodox as it sounds, is actually incredibly important. If you have it, screw it. Buy the damn $5 coffee. I know. Not this conversation again, but hear me out: For years millennials (but really anyone who enjoys lattes made at the hands of a flannel clad barista) have been gaslighted into thinking they were financially irresponsible for wanting to buy their coffee in the morning, versus making it themselves. Financial insecurity is one of the greatest sources of anxiety and depression for me, easily contributing to that feeling of low self-worth that keeps me up at night. For years I did the responsible thing, making my coffee from home, every single day. Then one day I decided to say “screw it,” and I went to the nearest coffee shop and got a café mocha with four pumps of simple syrup and extra chocolate drizzle. Here’s what happened: I was still depressed and anxious and I was down $6.44. However, I got a single secular moment of peace paired with a nice little serotonin drop that helped me start my day off right. Sometimes, there’s going to be financially “irresponsible” things that bring you joy that you shouldn’t technically do because you’re on a tight budget, and by tight budget I mean you’re broke as a joke. However, I find myself more anxious with more of my mental illness symptoms showing up when the only thing going through my mind is what I “can’t” do and what I “can’t afford.” Don’t get me wrong, I’m not made of money, and there are times I still have to say no, but this small thing that I could do for myself offered me a little moment of joy in a really shitty life. It affirmed me in the sense that it reminded me that I still deserve nice things, even if I’m not upper class. Financial anxiety is a bitch , and you can’t budget your way out of being poor, but if it’s not going to overdraft my account, the small monetary glimpse of happiness I get from my morning coffee run is worth it. I think we need these moments to help push us forward when everything is going wrong, because without them, we’re stuck in a sad cycle that keeps us feeling stagnant and depressed. The world is on fire and we have to work through it as if nothing is happening. We’re already living with mental illnesses and health conditions that can make everything all the more challenging. If you hate your life and maybe even don’t want to live it, the smallest thing you can do for yourself is get that artisan coffee and have a few moments of peace, courtesy of some brown beans from Colombia, Costa Rica, or some other country in the coffee belt.

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Regret of once again , overdoing it..

We had a severe storm go through here Monday,, thankfully we didnt have any bad damage,, just three fence panels went down,, and huge branches and tree limbs all over the yard, front and back.. sooooo I went around for two days picking up all the branches and twigs, tried to protect my low back , pace myself,,, then today mowed the front yard,,, you know the literal straw that broke the camels back?? Well that was the last straw... I can hardly move now, my neck and shoulders are killing me , causing a big headache,, my back is weak, and low back is sooooooo weak.. I did take precautionary measures,, and post overdoing it measures,, I am not new to this game,, Ive been in chronic pain since 1980, and even before that,, have multiple arthritic conditions and autoimmune pain conditions, fibro,,, degenerative disc disease, scoliosis, severe osteoporosis, ect..... Im in my 60s,, . I have a question for those of you who have lived lives of chronic pain. Do any of y'all ever get so sick and tired of being cautious, of holding back from doing things, things you enjoy,, for me its working outside, being in the sun,, doing physical things.. So sometimes do any of y'all just say screw it and do more than you know you should,, knowing full well you will pay later?????????? Or is it just me????? I know I will get through this,, I will be miserable for anywhere from a few days, to a week or more... but sometimes I get so tired of holding back.

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Four White Walls and Spoonie Things

I’ve been bedridden for 1 year 8 months and 9 days.
I’m on an indefinite pause while the world whirls past me.
It sucks not being a part of any of it. Being separated from everyone in the stale, dark, and yellowing rectangle room that I’ve memorized. While my friends, who have all moved on with their lives, eat, drink, and get married. (Pun intended).
I love them all so much. And still; I deleted all my social media accounts so I wouldn’t have to scroll through and be reminded of what I can’t have. At least for a time. It’s just too painful right now. (Plus I just downright do not have the energy whatsoever.) I wish I could confide in them about this but even they have told me that they don’t fully get it. (You know, my health stuff since I’ve gotten so sick). While watching a chronic illness tv show, it had a very apt quote which was about having a group of ppl who are sick go through the same thing, and other ppl, no matter how much they care will not fully get it unless it’s the same thing. So that’s why im here now. So Hi! Nice to meet you👋🏼 I’m Kay, a Spoonie like you. Sometimes I sleep 18-20 hrs a day because I’m up literally alll night long from severe pain, and simply because my body literally is dealing with 14+ diseases. And the elderly care home I’m at (despite the fact that I’m 25 yrs old) is not able to give me the care I really need to battle it. But im doing PT and trying to learn to walk again so I can be among the living again. I’m not sure what, how etc that will mean since this is my only place to live and I have no family to live with in the state, so it’s in Gods hands from here. Before I was bedridden I was a lab assistant and worked myself almost to the grave. I kept telling myself I wasn’t sick because I didn’t want to be. At the time I didn’t have any confirmed diagnosis’s other than Lyme and multiple forms of co infections so I felt like that wasn’t enough to stop working long and hard hours. I’ve always had 1-3 jobs and ALWAYS felt super terrible physically, I just told myself I was fine and pushed it down. I didn’t want to be sick, I wanted to live life.
Lol. Look how that turned out for me. 😂😆 YET, at the same time, I’ve learned a ton and although right now is an extra hard season, each season Jesus has taught me something, and always kept His promises to me. ♥️🤗
In closing, here’s the thing.
I don’t want to be on pause anymore. I’m doing my best to hit the reset button, but just as all you spoonies know, holy crap, does chronic illness kick butt. But keep going just like I am. (Not that I’m anything special). Don’t give up fellow spoonies. If I haven’t thrown in the spoons yet, after drs trying to literally kill me by illegal treatment, shaming me for losing my voice and saying I am faking it, refusing to read my text when it’s my only form of communication, and so SOOOOO much more that could fill a full series, and if other ppl, ppl I’ve read about and have endured much hardship can handle a lot, then so can you.
WE can. Together.
(You probably saw this the other day but I accidentally deleted it..technical difficulties😅.So here it is, again.😆💫✨)
#EhlersDanlos #EhlersDanlosSyndrome
#BorreliaTBRF
#Babesiaduncani
#Borreliosisburgdorferi
#PosturalOrthostaticTachycardiaSyndrome
#PainfulBladderSyndome
#IrritableBowelSyndromeIBS
#MastCellActivationDisorder #Viceralhyperalgeia #HypothyroidismUnderactiveThyroidDisease
#HashimotosThyroiditis
#AddisonsDisease
#EBV
#Fibromyalgia #raynaudssyndrome #TheBendyBunch
#ChronicIllnessEDS
#HEDS
#hypermobileehlers-DanlosSyndrome(hEDS) #PainfulBladderSyndrome #ChronicPain
#ChronicFatigue
#RareDisease
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Another day another obstacle crushed!

Hey all, I hope this is appropriate to post here but I just wanted to do a little horn tooting and thought you'd all get it :)

So anywho, I have hip dysplasia in both hips and degenerative disc disease in my lower spine and just oh so many more wonderful pain causing issues! Since I no longer know what life without pain is I use to wallow pretty badly. I was diagnosed with a lot of this in my early twenties and pretty much just gave up. Gained a ton of weight, and as a 5'1 tall woman i got up to 260 pounds. In July of 2021 at 37 years old I finally decided to get up and start living again for so many reasons (though that's a much longer story) and at my last weigh-in I was 160. Today, even though the pain was at a solid 7, I pushed passed my normal failing point and completed a 7 mile walk. Currently of course I'm wrapped in a heating pad and using all my other soothing tactics and everything hurts but at the same time? I feel amazing! #HipDysplasia #ChronicSpinePain #warrior

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Four White Walls and Spoonie Things

I’ve been bedridden for 1 year 8 months and 9 days.
I’m on an indefinite pause while the world whirls past me.
It sucks not being a part of any of it. Being separated from everyone in the stale, dark, and yellowing rectangle room that I’ve memorized. While my friends, who have all moved on with their lives, eat, drink, and get married. (Pun intended).
I love them all so much. And still; I deleted all my social media accounts so I wouldn’t have to scroll through and be reminded of what I can’t have. At least for a time. It’s just too painful right now. (Plus I just downright do not have the energy whatsoever.) I wish I could confide in them about this but even they have told me that they don’t fully get it. (You know, my health stuff since I’ve gotten so sick). While watching a chronic illness tv show, it had a very apt quote which was about having a group of ppl who are sick go through the same thing, and other ppl, no matter how much they care will not fully get it unless it’s the same thing. So that’s why im here now. So Hi! Nice to meet you👋🏼 I’m Kay, a Spoonie like you. Sometimes I sleep 18-20 hrs a day because I’m up literally alll night long from severe pain, and simply because my body literally is dealing with 14+ diseases. And the elderly care home I’m at (despite the fact that I’m 25 yrs old) is not able to give me the care I really need to battle it. But im doing PT and trying to learn to walk again so I can be among the living again. I’m not sure what, how etc that will mean since this is my only place to live and I have no family to live with in the state, so it’s in Gods hands from here. Before I was bedridden I was a lab assistant and worked myself almost to the grave. I kept telling myself I wasn’t sick because I didn’t want to be. At the time I didn’t have any confirmed diagnosis’s other than Lyme and multiple forms of co infections so I felt like that wasn’t enough to stop working long and hard hours. I’ve always had 1-3 jobs and ALWAYS felt super terrible physically, I just told myself I was fine and pushed it down. I didn’t want to be sick, I wanted to live life.
Lol. Look how that turned out for me. 😂😆 YET, at the same time, I’ve learned a ton and although right now is an extra hard season, each season Jesus has taught me something, and always kept His promises to me. ♥️🤗
In closing, here’s the thing.
I don’t want to be on pause anymore. I’m doing my best to hit the reset button, but just as all you spoonies know, holy crap, does chronic illness kick butt. But keep going just like I am. (Not that I’m anything special). Don’t give up fellow spoonies. If I haven’t thrown in the spoons yet, after drs trying to literally kill me by illegal treatment, shaming me for losing my voice and saying I am faking it, refusing to read my text when it’s my only form of communication, and so SOOOOO much more that could fill a full series, and if other ppl, ppl I’ve read about and have endured much hardship can handle a lot, then so can you.
WE can. Together.
(You probably saw this the other day but I accidentally deleted it..technical difficulties😅.So here it is, again.😆💫✨)
#EhlersDanlos #EhlersDanlosSyndrome
#BorreliaTBRF
#Babesiaduncani
#Borreliosisburgdorferi
#PosturalOrthostaticTachycardiaSyndrome
#PainfulBladderSyndome
#IrritableBowelSyndromeIBS
#MastCellActivationDisorder #Viceralhyperalgeia #HypothyroidismUnderactiveThyroidDisease
#HashimotosThyroiditis
#AddisonsDisease
#EBV
#Fibromyalgia #raynaudssyndrome #TheBendyBunch
#ChronicIllnessEDS
#HEDS
#hypermobileehlers-DanlosSyndrome(hEDS) #PainfulBladderSyndrome #ChronicPain
#ChronicFatigue
#RareDisease
#Community

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