Kyle Tayes

@livelifewithchd
Welcome to Live Life with CHD. Created by Kyle Tayes The main reason for why I started this? Because I felt the need to help spread more awareness for CHD and the Mighty has become a great platform for doing so. CHD (Congenital Heart Disease) is the most common and deadly birth defect in newborns in North America, there are many CHD’s and yet the awareness of them are very slim. I am not just here to share my story but others as they come. The real motive like stated earlier is to spread awareness and doing so for the livelihood of everyone who was born with a CHD. A little about myself. I was born on June 8th 1995 in Halifax Nova Scotia at the IWK children’s Hospital, before being born the doctors at the Saint John Regional Hospital found complications with my heart, all they knew was my heart was beating at a slow rate and at that time they told my Mother and Father I will have to be born at the IWK. I was born a blue baby and it turned out I had a rare form of Congenital Heart Block (3rd Degree) in Neonatal Lupus. My left ventricle is non responsive and so they implanted a Pacemaker. I live life to the fullest everyday, and I don’t let my pacemaker or my heart condition set me back, there are good and great days but there are some days that I have to stay in bed but I don’t let that stop me either. I hope you follow to help spread the word of CHD, keep up to date on upcoming events, and to come with me on my journey through adulthood with a CHD.
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My Journey with CHD

CHB/NL, also known as #CongenitalHeartBlock in Neonatal #Lupus, and in the medical field a very rare or uncommon Congenital Heart defect. Congenital heart block (CHB) is thankfully a rare occurrence. It affects only one to five percent of babies born to women with systemic lupus erythematosus (SLE).

I was one of those babies, I was one of the babies that thankfully survived, thanks to the knowledgeable heart specialists and surgeons at the IWK, and I survived everyday life because I am a fighter and warrior, with a hint of savage hidden in there. I fought alone and hid the pain from pretty much everyone, everyday walked around with a smile and laughter and walked out the same, bullying never really phased me and I think the ones who tried quickly realized that, I believe the reasoning of that was I always had it stuck in my head that I’ve been clinically dead more then once and my mental strength can easily keep up with my physical strength and simply shrug the hate and bullying off after a bit.

I wanted too specifically talk about CHB and how it took not just a physical and mental block out of my life but also the good that comes out of it, the outlook that I have that I feel is very much different from someone who is healthier or someone who hasn’t seen the things I’ve seen or heard the sounds I’ve heard. And also how I cope day to day with the #Anxiety and PTSD. We hate too explain ourselves or at least I do sometimes, but I have too stop and think what the heck. These people truly don’t know what it’s like and want to learn, why don’t I stop and quickly educate them, and I have no shame in doing so, growing up it was very hard for me too explain what I have and how it effects my daily life, but now all I say to the ones who are wondering is simply just ask. I was always told “well you have pretty much lived through it all” but I haven’t, I’ve lived though my battles and have come out with a few scars but the scars (physical,mental and emotional) have mostly healed, unfortunately with what I have and how I am alive I must go through a surgery every 7 to 9 years, that one day brings back memories and a curtain flashback, a flashback of being wheeled into the OR and looking back to see my parents holding each other; watching me go through the notorious double doors. When I bring that up, people ask if that phases me, and the truth is I don’t let it. I’ve had more surgeries then I can truthfully tell you off the bat and ever since the day that vision stayed with me I’ve quickly developed trust in the doctors,surgeons and nurses.

CHB for me is like someone squeezing your chest really tight when you try and run a bunch I can feel my heart struggling to pump the blood, I can feel the air in my lungs struggling to enter and bring oxygen into my system. It is somewhat like breathing through a straw while your heart feels like it wants too explode and just stop at the same time, I get shaky and my lips turn blue, but luckily that hasn’t happened in a while. Surprisingly I am very active, I stay fit and stay pretty consistent at a healthy weight. I stay at a healthy and happy me, and I have proven no one will change that, if I am in a relationship or not, I will still be very active and I will stay at my healthy state, because it works. Sports sports and more sports with CHB. I live in Canada for the people who don’t know, and everyone knows our favourite sport. Growing up I wasn’t able to play Hockey, football, rugby or soccer. I played basketball for a bit, and grew up golfing with my Grandfather but the one thing I loved was biking, I grew up in a sport family especially with my Brother Mike.

Music is the big thing, if you haven’t already realized I live for music, it has saved my life. I started drumming when I was 4 and a half, I remember going up the road too a family friends house and jamming with them, then when I turned five my parents surprised me with a drum set, a CB junior set we got in Moncton from the one man Ive always gone to since that day to get my drum stuff, when I was in middle school A few friends and I had a jam band and would just hang out and play music at each others houses, in high school I played a little more on stage, here and there. The rest well most of you know, When I was going into grade ten I was offered a position at the boardwalk and Ive been there since, I started volunteering and hustled and I am still there. In grade twelve we had a big drama festival coming up and I was approached with the idea of a full 30 minute soundscape, I was just given a few run throughs of the play and a script to work off of and for five and a half months I built one of the best things till this day that I have made, won multiple awards at the provincial drama fest and the Atlantic festival then It was off over seas.CHB has its times of pain and struggling but it also has a ton of good in it, I learn everyday about new things, new people and get too meet new warriors I like too call my heart family. Why did I write this? Well last night I had a struggle, a sudden heart pounding while I was driving home from work,so I pulled over put my car in park, Took a few deep breaths and thought one thing. F**k CHD.

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I Just Want to be.. #CheckInWithMe

I just want to be...
Replied too, remembered, checked on sometimes. No wonder we live in a lonely state. We can’t even check on our “friends” because we are so lost in this digital age. It should make it easier but its ruining our minds, we need more phone calls, visits and less messages online. Our lives are so busy and it makes it so hard. But one thing more important then money is time. #Friends #Depression #Loneliness

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Not feeling today #CheckInWithMe

Feeling lost, feeling lonely. Feeling hurt for some reason. My heart just wont stop pounding today. It was a stressful day literally. Today I had a cardiac stress test but it was like no other I’ve had before. I got there for 9am and got home at around 5. The mood was not pleasant in the room and was full of worrisome moments. They would not tell me anything until the end and that I will have too get my pacemaker changed within the next year. They said they think they found some other things that the doctor will most likely address this upcoming week. But now I am here, in my bed worrying about what they found, too tired to go out and feeling lost. Again. #MentalHealth #CongenitalHeartDefectDisease #CHD #heart #Anxiety #Worried

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Not feeling today #CheckInWithMe

Feeling lost, feeling lonely. Feeling hurt for some reason. My heart just wont stop pounding today. It was a stressful day literally. Today I had a cardiac stress test but it was like no other I’ve had before. I got there for 9am and got home at around 5. The mood was not pleasant in the room and was full of worrisome moments. They would not tell me anything until the end and that I will have too get my pacemaker changed within the next year. They said they think they found some other things that the doctor will most likely address this upcoming week. But now I am here, in my bed worrying about what they found, too tired to go out and feeling lost. Again. #MentalHealth #CongenitalHeartDefectDisease #CHD #heart #Anxiety #Worried

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Paranoid/Breaking Down

I Prevail came out with three new originals and two of them have some really strong meanings about mental health and illness. Some can’t even finish listening to Breaking Down, but for me it speaks to me in which I am not in that state anymore, but sometimes I find myself slipping up once and while. Ive listened to the two songs quite a few times since they came out because the messages are that deep and strong. What do you think of the two? #MentalHealth #Depression #Medication #Songs #Truth

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Pace maker friends I have a question about tattoos

I’ve been wanting a tattoo for awhile now and ai just brought it up to my Mom, and she said I really shouldn’t because I have a implanted device and I can get a infection in my heart. After doing some research I found that it is recommended to take the antibiotics you take when you go too the dentist but she thinks it wont be good enough. Any thoughts? Or do you have tattoos and a pacemaker or implant? #Pacemaker #heart #HeartDefect #CongenitalHeartDefectDisease #Doctors

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Spent the day in bed

<p>Spent the day in bed</p>
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