Maggie Morehart

@maggiemorehart | contributor
Maggie is a personal trainer, certified race director and leader in a growing fitness company. She’s faced multiple chronic health conditions and is passionate about helping others in similar situations find healing through fitness.
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Why Chronic Pain Can Make Sex Challenging

Sex is not a topic I’ve ever been super comfortable talking about. I’ve gotten way more open about it the last couple of years, but not publicly. I save these conversations for drives with my sister, or random texts to my best friends. Talking about it on a public platform where anyone can tune in? I’ve always been a hard pass. Until now. Before I came out of the proverbial closet, or was even able to acknowledge my queerness, I didn’t join in when my friends would relay details about their sexcapades because I wasn’t having any. Or, I was having very few. My friends seemed to really get the whole “sex” thing. Like, they really enjoyed it, found it fun and had loads of stories to share. I didn’t have any of that. Sex always freaked me out. I took an oath of celibacy as a teen. You know the whole, “I’m going to wait until I’m married,” thing. I even had a purity ring (if you don’t know, Google it. If you do know, how’d that work out for you?). But it was all a front. I didn’t care about people having sex before they were married. Hell, when I told my parents of my decision my mom’s response was, “But… what if you don’t get married until you’re like, 40?” My response was probably an eye roll and an “as if.” But, clearly my desire to wait wasn’t being influenced at home. Sex for me has been complicated for a variety of reasons. There’s been a lot of layers to sift through in this arena. Was sex not great because I prefer women to men? That would make sense. But, I’m not repulsed by the idea of sex with men. At least, not the men I’ve had sex with (minus the abusive one, but that’s a story for another day). But I also have little to no interest in ever doing it again, because now I know what it’s like to have sex with a woman, and holy shit, I get it now. All the things I thought sex was “supposed” to be, or “could” be, it all started to make sense once I started sleeping with women. But as it turns out, who I was having sex with wasn’t the whole challenge. I always had this feeling I’d be really good at sex. This was a mostly unsubstantiated feeling because with almost all my partners, I wasn’t ever comfortable enough to get out of my own head. I had a deep desire to be able to let loose, have fun, laugh and try new things, but my partners didn’t seem to reciprocate. A male partner and I even went to Half Priced Books once and picked up some Tantra books and something called “The Sex Bible” if memory serves. I was amped, and he seemed to be too. Guess how many times those books got used? Maybe once, and not for my lack of trying. I didn’t get it. Was I not desirable? Was I actually really bad at sex and no one had the heart to tell me? Why couldn’t I seem to connect? It took me until this year to articulate the real problem. Yes, I was a closeted lesbian. Also yes, I had some questionable male partners. But what I failed to take into consideration were the years of chronic pain I’d been dealing with since the age of 13. When you’ve been dealing with intense amounts of pain for so long, you kind of get used to it. It becomes a part of you. And because you’re used to it, you don’t realize that the reason you’re “ used to it ” is because you’ve learned how to compartmentalize and frankly, detach from your body. It’s survival. I couldn’t figure out why it was so challenging for me to get out of my head and into the moment, into my body. I thought it was me being insecure, but realistically, I’ve spent most of my life detaching from how I feel physically. I’ve had to. So why then, would I magically be able to flip that switch back on at a moment’s notice? My mind knows sex is supposed to be an engaged and fun time, but the second my mind realizes it needs to reconnect with my body in order to feel good and have fun, all bets are off. It’s not as easy as simply telling myself, “ Hey, this is sexy, fun time, you can come back to your body now. ” My mind doesn’t fully trust my body, and why would she? Our body = discomfort and pain. I have very little control over the automatic response that happens when I try to reunite them. I mean honestly, they’ve never really been united. So, needless to say, this is a process. I started realizing all of this once I experienced being with a truly patient and giving lover. Sex was legitimately fun for the first time. Not only did I discover that I was not, in fact, incapable of a full orgasm, but I also learned that I am, in fact, a very generous and talented lover. Talk about an ego boost. My mind was blown. This is how sex is supposed to be?! It really is fun!? I really am great at it like I always thought I could be?! I was elated. Honestly, total game changer. I wish I could say all these realizations make it easy to flip that switch, get out of my head and connect with my body when it counts, but like most things, it’s a work in progress. Dealing with chronic pain and chronic disease doesn’t mean you can’t have a thriving sex life. It might look a bit different than it does for able-bodied folks, but different doesn’t mean bad. In fact, in many ways, it might even be better, because we have to put more thought and care into it. Sex in our culture is so nuanced. There are all these expectations about what it’s supposed to be, when you’re supposed to do it, how often you should want it, how many partners is “too many,” and honestly, a whole lot of unnecessary judgment. There’s barely enough room for able-bodied people with all that pressure, let alone the medically complex. All of this makes it difficult to talk about, especially when you know you’re an outlier. How do you break into a conversation amidst your friends when they’re all swapping sex stories and you’re wondering how sex even fits in with having deteriorating hip joints that’ll certainly have you screaming out, but not from pleasure. I don’t need to be treated like I’m going to break. I’m not. But I do require a selfless and patient lover. I am that kind of lover, so it’s not too much to ask to have one in return. It has taken me a while to confidently state what I need and truth be told, I’m still working on it. I used to mask my disconnect by taking control and being the giver. It brings me immense amounts of joy to please my partner. And, if they’re totally blissed out, it takes the attention away from me. But, that’s not fair. And I don’t mean it isn’t fair to me, it’s not fair to my partner. Me being able to enjoy myself matters. It matters to me, and it matters to my partner. It’s honestly a bit of a revelation because I’m not totally used to my partners being able to show up for me in that way — to say, “ Hey, the way you feel matters, and it doesn’t matter how long this takes. I’m here. I’m not going anywhere. ” It matters that I can openly say, “ I’ve got 20 years of compartmentalization to overcome, but I’m trying, and I know I’m going to conquer this, it’s just going to take some time. ” We need to be able to talk openly about the ways chronic pain impacts our ability to have a thriving sex life. Or maybe it’s just me who needs to be able to openly talk about it, but something tells me I’m not alone in this. Here’s what I do know: I deserve the ability to fully connect with my body. I deserve to feel good. I deserve the ability to fully connect with my partner. I deserve to speak openly and honestly about what I’m experiencing, and have it be received without judgment. I deserve to receive as wholly as I give. Chronic pain takes a lot from us. I could say, “ but only if we let it, ” but I won’t because I hate that shit. No. It does take a lot from us. It’s exhausting to constantly have to find creative ways to maneuver around and through it — but that’s what we have to do, because we deserve pleasure. We deserve to feel good. Being able to enjoy sex isn’t only for the able-bodied, my friends.

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How have you dealt with an unsupportive spouse?

How have you handled a spouse that didn’t understand your illness? Or when did you know it was time to walk away for the sake of your health?

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My Migraines Make It Confusing to Talk, Understand and Communicate

Today I called the pharmacy and couldn’t understand the questions the pharmacy assistant was asking me. I asked to speak to the pharmacist and she said, “Can you tell me who’s calling, please?” All I said was, “a patient.” Usually, I would say my name, but I simply didn’t understand the question. I continued to repeat the answer every time she asked the question, until she said, “Can I have your name?” I was mortified to find out such a simple question could be so difficult for me to answer. This is the type of confusion I experience daily because I am no longer able to think as quickly as I once did. This may seem like a benign miscommunication, but it leaves me feeling lonely. I hung up the phone and thought about all the times I have missed out on being a part of things simply because I didn’t understand the context or purpose of a sentence or conversation. This frustrating quality has been bestowed upon me because I have, among other diagnoses, chronic migraine. I’ve spent the last two years, since my illness progressed, fearful of phone calls, meeting new people or bumping into old friends because I really struggle with picking up on social cues and understanding and following conversation. I’m afraid of what I might say next and how I might say it. I’ve offended people, forgotten names and interrupted. I’ve also naturally drifted away from friends because I find it hard to keep up. Following the obvious embarrassment that tends to ensue after a communication blunder, I feel lonely. I feel lonely because I find communicating with other people, expressing myself, or offering support to a friend is how I’ve felt involved in the world in the past. But when I am unable to do that I feel like I’m not living up to my full potential, and I have so much more to give to others, but I haven’t figured out what yet. I may have a lot of fear of my conversational confusion, but it has made me lean on other qualities I never really noticed I had. When I stumble over words or forget something and then continue with a conversation I am showing courage, bravery and vulnerability. Before, when I was feeling better than I am now, I would’ve been so uncomfortable and embarrassed I might’ve ended an encounter, however brief, out of sheer embarrassment. I now try to laugh at the situation and brush it off. Because, at the end of the day, that’s all I really can do. My isolation due to illness has made it difficult to embrace the social person in me, but I think it might open the door to helping me find other ways to connect with people. I remain open to new possibilities. Perhaps starting a support group in my area to connect with people who struggle with similar dilemmas will quell my need to interact while providing a safe space for others with illness. I’m trying to make my loneliness a haven for personal growth and development as opposed to a feeling that overwhelms and isolates me further.

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What it's Like to Look Six Months Pregnant All the Time

I recently had a laparoscopy to remove stage 2 #Endometriosis that had been causing symptoms for the last fifteen years. I’m now beginning a treatment plan that includes a major diet overhaul in an attempt to control my multiple chronic conditions and get my life back. While feeling good physically and mentally is my main priority, I’m also hoping the changes will have an effect on my belly.

I’ve never had children, and I don’t know if I will. But I know what it feels like to shop in the maternity section of a department store. I know what it’s like to pack up boxes of old clothes I can no longer wear because they don’t fit over my ballooning belly. Or to struggle tying my shoes. Every outfit has to pass a rigorous test before it leaves the house. “Will I get asked when I’m due?” If the answer is yes, I’m on to the next option.

Working in the fitness industry just makes things worse. While my coworkers are understanding and fully supportive of me in my role with the company, it can be difficult to watch them come to work every day in flattering clothing that hugs their athletic frames. Sometimes I feel like a fraud, giving exercise advice while I hide behind a flowy maternity top or an oversize sweater.

I will probably never have a six-pack, and that’s okay. I’ll probably never have a flat stomach either. But I would love to put on a pair of pants without having to figure out if the waistband should go over or under my bulging bump. Is that too much to ask?

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Accommodating Invisible Disabilities in the Workplace

Did you know that 133 million working Americans have a silent second job? These people are never sure when they’ll be called in for their second shift. They don’t know how long the shift will be or when they’ll be able to rest. Sometimes they get called in during the middle of the work day. Sometimes the shift lasts an hour, sometimes several months. Almost all of these people quietly plug away at these jobs whenever they have a free moment. Most of their co-workers and managers will never know they hold down another job. This is the life of the working immunodiverse. Immunodiverse people are those who have atypically functioning body systems. They manage invisible chronic illnesses such as multiple sclerosis or Crohn’s disease. They represent almost 10 percent of the workers in the United States, and yet they are often overlooked for accommodations because they present as well or “able-passing.” I am one of these immunodiverse people. I manage several complex chronic illnesses, originating from a tick bite that gave me Lyme disease back in 2003. My illnesses do not disable me completely and I love my job working in public policy as a lawyer. However, like most immunodiverse people, I have “flare cycles” that keep me swiveling between temporary remission and debilitating pain. These cycles are unpredictable, but they can be reduced or managed with the right support from willing managers. Receiving accommodations from our employers can allow us to contribute meaningfully even as we manage complex medical conditions. And we are worth it  —  not least because we represent the millions of people just like us who perceive products and services in different ways because of our unique experiences. We have access to an understanding of what life is like for millions of people whose voices aren’t usually represented in the workplace because of ableism. Immunodiverse people are very good at the work we do  —  and often determined to to it. That’s why companies are starting to wake up to this reality and accommodate immunodiverse employees. Many companies and states offer short-term disability for incidents such a one-time surgery or recovery from a car accident. Some companies are even doing better with addressing and accommodating those with mental health issues. These changes help people stay active, ensure employees don’t leave the workplace preemptively, and reduce the need for lifelong dependency on disability benefits. In spite of this progress, we are seeing a large part of the immunodiverse community opt out of formal work due to the difficulty of finding truly supportive employers. Many people move to consulting, taking on projects as their health allows. Some people use their creative side to make art or coach or teach online. Others set up some sort of relatively passive income like landlordship. In other words, when companies can’t accommodate us, we start our own small businesses. Of course, some people with chronic illness do have to make health management their full-time job and need to be compensated for it. Others cannot leave their jobs because of poor healthcare options. Others of us are eager to use our healthy days to contribute to the world around us through work at a company. And some of us want to do that work as members of teams, and enjoy the kind of work that requires sustained, long-term advocacy and expertise. I’d rather work in an office with a robust team and daily collaboration. All it takes is finding a company that’s as willing to work with me as I am to work with them. Which companies are doing this well? Unlike many disabilities, there’s no standard package of accommodations for the immunodiverse that could be legally mandated. We have different needs at different times. What we need most is a shift in how our employers view us. Instead of a binary between “sick” and “well,” we need to be seen on the spectrum that represents our lives, and we need our accommodations to be as agile as our illness. Below I’m going to detail some excellent examples of companies in the United States who have approached next wave disability accommodations with ingenuity and enthusiasm, to good results. GitLab GitLab is a tech company that helps software engineers write code in groups. I love them because they are super transparent with their diversity practices and values, call in specific disabilities that are normally discriminated against, and call out the need for “culture add” not “culture fit.” GitLab keeps their employee handbook public, so anyone who is interested in working for the company doesn’t need to ask about things like transgender medical services or parental leave, but can see their policies ahead of time. It also explicitly calls-in folks who are neurodivergent, describing them as a competitive advantage to the company. They say: “ Neurodiversity is a type of diversity that includes Autism, ADHD, and other styles of neurodivergent functioning. While they often bring unique skills and abilities , which can be harnessed for competitive advantage , neurodivergent individuals are often discriminated against, and sometimes have trouble making it through traditional hiring processes. These individuals should be able to contribute as GitLabbers. The handbook, values, strategy, and interviewing process should never discriminate against the neurodivergent.” GitLab has joined the ranks of tech companies that look for “culture add” rather than a “culture fit.” They explicitly say they don’t want a candidate because “we’d like to have a drink with them,”  but rather they want “cultural diversity instead of cultural conformity.” This is important for many minority groups, but also those with disabilities. We have a unique perspective on the world, on the social safety net, on what it means to believe other people’s experiences as they describe them. Clever Clever is an education technology company that helps connect students in classrooms with their education technology applications. Clever is great because they have a very accommodating food policy. While working at Clever, I was following the auto-immune Paleo protocol, a very restrictive style of eating that cuts out all inflammatory foods. Together, Clever and I set up an account with a food delivery service where I could custom order lunch that met my very strict diet requirements using the daily allotted money they spent per employee on food (minus delivery fees, they picked those up as a part of the accommodation). Every three months, HR checked in with me. Was I able to eat some of the snacks provided? Was I getting enough variety with my lunches? Did I still need the accommodation? Did I feel “othered” while eating my special meal? Was there any way to make it easier? I owe much of this to an incredibly empathetic woman named Ashley. (Thanks, Ash!) I talk more about this accommodation during a speech at the TechInclusion Conference, which you can watch here. Mighty Well Mighty Well is making having a medical condition fashionable for the 133 million Americans who live with a chronic condition by applying sportswear fabric technology to the medical industry and building a digital community of Friends in the Fight. The founder and CEO, Emily Levy, is an immunodiverse woman who manages chronic late-stage Lyme disease. Over half her staff also manage a chronic condition(s). As a part of the company culture, everyone on staff is able to take as much time as they need during a flare, procedure or treatment. Emily says, “If someone needs time off, we don’t ask questions. We would rather the employee be in a good place to produce good work than turn something in that isn’t their best work.” In many offices, this is the opposite  —  it’s considered taboo or invasive to speak about medical conditions. But because Emily is open about her health battles, she has created a culture where employees talk about their health and are “out” about their medical challenges. Creating the expectations that these conditions will be accommodated is paramount to ensuring the employee feels comfortable asking for what they need. These are just a few examples of companies who are working on the next generation of disability accommodations. If you have other examples or ideas, let me know in the comments and I’ll put them together in my next piece. The more examples we see, the more vision we’ll have on how to create a more inclusive and accessible future for the immunodiverse. Our illnesses still aren’t well-understood. We don’t have cures because we don’t have a perfect understanding of these diseases. Because we don’t have a perfect understanding of these diseases, we can’t offer a perfect set of accommodations. But I can offer a policy that is one-size-fits-all. Recognize what we have to offer. Collaborate with us to create the conditions that let us do our best work. Celebrate as we thrive together. It’s a policy that agrees to work with employees no matter what second jobs we have outside of the office.

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Does anyone else suffer with angular cheilitis (sores in the corners of the lips)?

I suffer with Hypothyroidism and PCOS, so my iron, vitamins and everything are forever lower than they should be. I’m taking supplements but it never seems to be enough. I’m now ashamed for anyone to look at me as my mouth now looks awful. Wondering if anyone else is going through this/has been through it. Just feels like yet another thing to deal with and I can’t cope with anything anymore. #Angularcheilitis #Hypothyroidism #PCOS #Depression

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Hey friends. After working in a job for about 18 months; one that I prayed for and wanted so badly... I’m starting to question if I should quit. It is absolutely exhausting to my emotional state. With #Depression and #Anxiety always hanging over me, I am always depleted by the time I get home to get my kids off of the bus. I don’t have energy to do things with or for my family. I feel like I can’t be the mom and wife (or friend, or daughter, etc) I want to be and maintain this job, as much as I want to. Before I abandon hope for this job, does anyone have any other ideas? TIA 💕

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Is bleaching or coloring your hair neon colors a stigma or stereotype to mental illness?

I fear that the decision to bleach or brightly color my hair sends huge red flags and blaring signs pointing at me that I’m bipolar and manic. Am I being self-conscious or is this my mental illness trying to judge me and label me? #BipolarDisorder #Manic #negativeselftalk

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Paige Wyant

12 Products People With Raynaud's Syndrome Recommend

Raynaud’s phenomenon, which is a common comorbidity for many of those with chronic illness, can be tricky to manage. The condition may be triggered by stress or extreme changes in temperature, causing decreased blood flow to the extremities (most commonly the fingers and toes). This not only causes your skin to change color, but can result in symptoms such as numbness, tingling or pain. While many people might naturally bundle up to protect their skin in cold weather, for those with Raynaud’s, it is much more critical to protect yourself from temperature changes – whether you’re going outside in the snow or quickly grabbing something out of the refrigerator. Dr. Usha Rallapalli, MD, who practices with Southboro Medical Group Family Medicine, says one of the best ways to manage Raynaud’s is to avoid cold temperatures and stress. “If you have Raynaud’s, it’s important to not let the cold cause skin ulcers which can lead to serious conditions like gangrene,” she wrote. Dr. Rallapalli recommended dressing in warm, protective layers and wearing mittens or gloves. To help others reduce pain and keep their blood flowing, we asked our Mighty community to share which products help them manage the symptoms of Raynaud’s. Of course, it’s always important to talk to your doctor about the best treatment strategies for your unique health situation – but hopefully the following list can spark some helpful ideas. Here are our community’s recommendations. 1. Hand Warmers These small, portable heat packs are easy to slip into a glove, pocket or shoe, allowing you to keep your hands and feet toasty while avoiding a Raynaud’s flare. “I keep chemical hand warmers and foot warmers everywhere – in my truck, in my home, in my desk at work. I buy them in bulk from places like tractor/farm supply and outdoor recreation stores in the spring when they go on sale. You can get a whole box of them for 10 bucks. I also have some gloves that have a special pocket for the hand warmer. SmartWool glove liners are light and warm too,” Mighty member colinnotjustin told us. Jennifer King Stumpf added, “ I absolutely rely on Little Hotties hand and toe warmers. I couldn’t make it through winter without them.” Abigail Robertson recommended HotHands hand warmers and Sheryl Fleming recommended Hot Paws hand warmers. Buy the HotHands hand warmers above (40 pair) for $28.55 from Amazon. Buy the Hot Paws hand warmers above (24 pair) for CDN$ 30 from Hot Paws Canada. For more recommendations from our community, check out these 14 portable heating products that can help relieve pain. 2. Compression Socks Although compression wear has become popular among athletes for improving circulation and performance, it is also an extremely important tool many of those with various chronic illnesses use to manage their symptoms. While compression can serve a number of purposes, including reducing swelling and preventing blood pooling, its ability to increase blood flow and improve circulation can be especially helpful for those with Raynaud’s syndrome. Wendy Joseph explained, “I wear compression socks, if it is really cold out I put another pair over the top. We don’t have hot water at work to warm my hands so I warm up tea or coffee and hold the cup to warm my fingers.” “ Compression socks,” suggested Abigail Robertson. “They help with blood circulation in my feet.” Buy the compression socks above (7 pair) for $34.99 from Amazon. For more recommendations from our community, check out these 20 brands of compression wear. 3. Heating Pad If you’re at home or have access to an outlet, a heating pad can help keep you warm, and may even help relieve some of your pain – whether it’s brought on by Raynaud’s or another chronic pain condition. Marissa North wrote, “ I have to put a heating pad or a hot pan by my feet under the blankets during winter. My toes will lose circulation otherwise. My hands? My fingers just turn black and blue lol teachers used to keep me in during recesses due to it.” Buy the heating pad above for £23.99 from Amazon UK. For more recommendations from our community, check out these 20 heating products that can help relieve pain. 4. Fingerless Gloves Although Dr. Rallapalli says that mittens are warmer and therefore more helpful than gloves, wearing mittens isn’t always practical if you’re working, using your phone or doing an activity that requires the dexterity of your fingers. Fingerless gloves may be a good compromise, as they still cover much of your hands without preventing you from doing necessary tasks. “ I wear fingerless gloves all the time. People think it’s a quirky fashion statement but really it’s just that my hands turn blackish if they get cold and, let’s face it, that is creepier than a 30-something rolling around in knitted fingerless gloves up to my elbows when it is 60 degrees out,” said Gwendolyn Ann. Tabitha Hodges recommended, “ Fingerless gloves so at least part of my hands are covered while working my desk job.” “ Compression gloves,” added Sophie Robinson. “They help with Raynaud’s and joint pain from fibromyalgia and MCTD. I was skeptical at first but I’ve been pleasantly surprised by the difference something as cheap and simple as a pair of gloves can make.” Buy the fingerless wool flip gloves/mittens above for $19.99 from Amazon. Buy the fingerless compression gloves above for $21.99 from Amazon. 5. Warm Skin Barrier Cream This cream moisturizes the skin and creates an insulating barrier against cold weather. This “barrier” against the cold can help your extremities maintain good blood flow and keep your hands and feet warm. Buy the barrier cream above for $21.99 from Amazon. 6. Thermal Clothing As you’re layering up clothes to keep you warm, consider adding some thermal leggings or a thermal undershirt to the mix. Thermal underwear is designed to trap body heat and insulate you against the cold – a necessity for anyone with Raynaud’s or cold sensitivity. Tabitha Hodges suggested, “ Cuddl Duds or other thermals I can wear under my regular clothes to hold in the heat. Their socks are amazing!” Buy the thermal leggings above for $30 from Cuddl Duds. 7. Breo Hand Massager With Heat Compression This hand massager uses air pressure, point massage and heat compression and employs a acupressure/reflexology massage. Both massage and acupressure have been known to help with circulation, which may be beneficial in improving blood flow to the hands for those with Raynaud’s. And the heat will prevent you from getting cold! “This Breo hand massager/heater works great. Gives massage and pressure,” wrote Ashley Ingersoll. Buy the hand massager above for $122.80 from Amazon. 8. ABEO Whistler Boots A cozy pair of winter boots that will keep your feet warm is essential for anyone with Raynaud’s – especially if you live in the part of the world where temperatures tend to plummet. “ ABEO Whistler boots,” wrote Sarah Bauer. “They’re very similar to UGGs. I pretty much live in them during winter.” Buy the boots above for $99 from The Walking Company. For more recommendations from our community, check out these 15 shoe brands to use during winter with chronic pain. 9. Electric Hand Warmers While the hand warmers featured as #1 are certainly a great option, rechargeable electric hand warmers are also an option if you want to go the reusable route. After charging these up, you can pop them in your pocket to warm up your hands on the go. “ Portable electric hand warmers,” said Brittany Koch. “Plus, you can put them anywhere like your feet while sitting at a desk at work. Small personal electric heaters are nice too.” Buy the rechargeable hand warmers above for $35.99 from Amazon. 10. Moisture-Wicking Socks Warm, durable socks are definitely a must – but those with moisture-wicking properties may be especially helpful for those with Raynaud’s. Thick socks are great when you’re outside in the cold, but if you head into a warmer area for a time, you may find your feet starting to overheat and sweat. The moisture-wicking properties helps clear sweat away to keep you both comfortable and warm. “When I lived in Nebraska, I struggled with staying warm. I tried the double socks and insulated boots, the problem was when I was outside it was great, but when I came inside I got too warm. If my feet got sweaty, then the wetness made me freezing,” Wendy Joseph said. “I found a solution. At sports clothing store I bought socks that are ‘moisture wick.’ They have waterproof socks, but they are more expensive that the sports performance socks.” Buy the moisture-wicking socks above (5 pair) for $24.99 from Amazon. 11. Steering Wheel Cover If your steering wheel tends to get extremely hot or cold, depending on the season, it’s important to protect your hands as you prepare to drive. A steering wheel cover can remain a relatively neutral temperature to help you avoid triggering your Raynaud’s. Buy the steering wheel cover above for $15.99 from Amazon. 12. Heated Blanket Heating pads are wonderful and blankets are beyond comforting – so it can’t get much better than combining them as a heated blanket, right? It’s the perfect way to stay warm and cozy and keep that blood flowing in your hands and feet. “ My electric blanket is sheer heaven,” wrote Stephanie Schultz. “Also thick socks.” “ My heated blanket! I put in on top of my covers and let it warm them up before I go to sleep. I fall asleep so much easier when I’m not freezing from Raynaud’s!” Anna Elizabeth Kerstiens said. “Please note that you should turn off the heated blanket before you actually go to sleep.” Buy the heated throw blanket above for $59.99 from Amazon. For more recommendations from our community, check out these 13 cozy blankets.