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I have been diagnosed with IIH (idiopathic intercranial hypertension) there is to much pressure on my brain. They dont know why which is why its called idiopathic. I had a cerbal venos stent place in my brain in February. My headaches were better for 2 months now they are back to what they were when i started. Excrutiating pain, (i would have 5 babies instead of this pain) my doctor wants to treat it as migraines and im telling you this is not migraines..they did a spinal tap and found raised pressure still after the stint. No shit sherlock!! I am starting another water pill. Which sucks! And just having a hard time functioning and not relapsing. I find it very hard because i have nothing dor pain except these injections i go to get. They help for 12 hours but i also in a way "crave" them because it kills the pain. I have been dealing with this for 6 years constantly in pain. I have a very high pain tolerance but the headaches now are taking me down and out for the count. Somedays i feel like it would be better just to let go. But at the same time i cant do that because I have kids and couldn't do that to them or my husband. He has been my strength through all this. Tomorrow i start a new pill...again! To try and help. Idk what im trying to gain by telling you all this...maybe i just need to vent. All I want to do is sleep and kill the pain. I'm very scared about relapsing and also can't help but wonder if what i use to do is now considered as "karma" now??? This diaghas also given me memory problems. I have also been told there are abnormalities in my ways of thinking so now i go in for more testing because of that. Im tired of being poked with needles, im tired of being told what this is not... im tired of hearing well we could do this. Fucking fix me please just fix me. I lride my self on always being different but just this once I want to be "normal" i am tired of being in chronic pain. Im tired of being knocked out from injections. Im tired of going to the fucking doctors. Im scared. Im depressed. Im tired. If you read this all the way through thank you and I appreciate you!! Thank you for reading my venting session.

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When is going to get better ?#Depression

I’m tired of crying
I’m tired of being sad
I’m tired of not getting any better
I feel like people just had enough
I’m not getting better
People around me just leave .
This depression is making me less and less
I can’t do much .., barely surviving
I’m so lonely
I crave social interaction…
I’m just the shadow of who I was
I’m tired of needing help
I’m tired of not seeing any improvement
I’m scared I’m gonna lose my job
This life is not what I wanted
I do everything I’m supposed to
I take my meds . I try to reach out
But I’m not getting better
I’m so tired

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How do you respond when someone tells you to “suck it up”?

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Living With High-Functioning and Hidden Anxiety

High-functioning anxiety looks like… Achievement. Busyness. Perfectionism. When it sneaks out, it transforms into nervous habits. Nail biting. Foot tapping. Running my fingers through my hair. If you look close enough, you can see it in unanswered text messages. Flakiness. Nervous laughter. The panic that flashes through my eyes when a plan changes. When anything changes. High-functioning anxiety feels like… A snake slithering up my back, clamping its jaws shut where my shoulders meet my neck. Punch-in-the-gut stomach aches, like my body is confusing answering an email with being attacked by a lion. High-functioning anxiety sounds like… You’re not good enough. You’re a bad friend. You’re not good at your job. You’re wasting time. You’re a waste of time. Your boyfriend doesn’t love you. You’re so needy. What are you doing with yourself? Why would you say that? What if they hate it? Why can’t you have your shit together? You’re going to get anxious and because you’re going to get anxious, you’re going to mess everything up. You’re a fraud. Just good at faking it. You’re letting everybody down. No one here likes you. All the while, it appears perfectly calm. It’s always looking for the next outlet, something to channel the never-ending energy. Writing. Running. List-making. Mindless tasks (whatever keeps you busy). Doing jumping jacks in the kitchen. Dancing in the living room, pretending it’s for fun, when really it’s a choreographed routine of desperation, trying to tire out the thoughts stuck in your head. It’s silent anxiety attacks, hidden by smiles. It’s always being busy but also always avoiding, so important things don’t get done. It’s letting things pile up rather than admitting you’re overwhelmed or in need of help. It’s that sharp pang of saying the wrong thing, the one that starts the cycles of thoughts. Because you said too much, and nobody cares, and it makes you never want to speak up again. It’s going back and forth between everyone else has it together but you, and so many people have it tougher than you. Get your act together. Suck it up. You’re not OK, you’re messing everything up. You’re totally OK, stop being such a baby. It’s waking up in the middle of the night sobbing because the worst-case-scenario that just went through your head at high speed seems so real, so vivid, that even when it’s proven to be untrue, it takes hours for your heart to slow down, to feel calm again. Because how “OK” are you when a day without a plan is enough to make you crumble? When empty spaces make you spiral at the very anticipation of being alone with your thoughts? When you need to make a list to get through a Sunday: watch a show, clean your kitchen, exercise, answer five emails, read 10 pages, watch a show… ? It’s feeling unqualified to write this piece because I’m getting by. It’s when you’re social enough to get invited to things, but so often find yourself standing in a room where it feels like no one knows you. It’s being good at conversation and bad at making close friends because you only show up when you feel “well” enough. Only text back when you feel ready. Because you’re afraid they’d hate you if they really knew you. That the energy would overwhelm them, and you’d lose them. So you learn to rein it in. Channel it. Even though sometimes you do everything right (exercise, sleep, one TV show, five emails, 10 pages…) and you’re still left with racing thoughts, the panic. The not good enoughs. When will it be enough? Having anxiety means constantly managing motion that can be productive or self-destructive, depending on how much sleep you got. Depending on the day. Depending on the Earth’s alignment with Mars. Depending on… It’s when “living with it” means learning how to sit with it. Practicing staying in bed a little longer. Challenging the mean, unrelenting voices that say you’re only worth what you produced that day. It means learning how to say, “I need help.” Trying to take care of yourself without the guilt. It means every once in a while, confiding in a friend. It means sometimes showing up even when you’re scared. It’s when answering a text impulsively and thoughtlessly is an act of bravery. It’s fighting against your own need to constantly prove your right to exist in this world. It’s learning how to validate your own feelings. That even though you don’t feel like you’re enough, and you’ll never be enough, it’s knowing you’re at least anxious enough to benefit from help. That admitting you need it doesn’t confirm voices’ lies. That taking a break doesn’t mean you’re a failure. It’s finding your own humanity in the anxiety, in your weaknesses. It’s trying to let the energy inspire you, instead of bring you down. It’s forgiving yourself when it wins. It’s a way to live, with this constant companion. Your bullying twin. Collapsible luggage you can bury away at a moment’s notice. Shove it under the bed. Pretend it’s not there until you can’t fit anymore. Until you can no longer ignore it. Until you have to face it. A first good step is staring at it straight on and calling it by its name. High anxiety can be a natural consequence of a busy lifestyle, but its existence is akin to the chicken and the egg. Which came first, the anxiety or the busyness? Am I always moving because I’m anxious or am I anxious because I’m always moving? Either way, it’s not a noble way to suffer. It’s not a “better” way to be anxious. Just because you’re “functioning” doesn’t always mean you’re happy. And just because you’re functioning doesn’t mean you shouldn’t slow down, breathe and take one damn second to be happy the way things are. In this very moment. This quiet, short moment. To remember the peace you found in that second of silence, until the electricity starts again, and you’re forced to move. MORE ABOUT ANXIETY: While everyone experiences some level of anxiety , not everyone has an anxiety disorder . For those with anxiety disorders, anxiety can become so severe and persistent, it interferes with their daily life and functioning. Anxiety disorder symptoms include excessive worry, panic attacks and other physical symptoms including shortness of breath, nausea, headaches and tremors. Click here to join our anxiety community and connect with people who get it.

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How do you over come the feeling of never being good enough?

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How do you over come the feeling of never being good enough?

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