sarahjane_1119

@sarahjane_1119
I am a world traveler and most people don't know about my daily struggles with depression, anxiety, and narcissistic abuse recovery.
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Shishkebob

<p>Shishkebob</p>
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Good morning, have a blessed day.

<p>Good morning, have a blessed day.</p>
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Mother-daughter issues

Hey mighty family, I’ve got a question, kind of like a poll for you all today. Wondering if anyone can relate to this situation.

My mother wants me to do therapy with her. I have tried therapy with my mom before and it didn’t help in my opinion. We tried a couple different therapists and I felt that I still wasn’t able to get through to her so I gave up.

Has anyone had a positive experience going to therapy with a parent? No, not couples therapy. Parent and child. Keep in mind, I’m a 31 year old woman… my mom is in her 60s.

Please any experience positive or negative feel free to share!!
#CPTSD #Trauma #itscomplicated

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Easily Startled/Emotional Reactivity

I know that they are both symptoms of #PTSD but they seem to be getting in the way recently. It's little things that startle me not to mention lesser known things like people being upset with me. When triggered I tend to react strongly (and sometimes hurt someone in the process). In DBT therapy I am learning to regulate my emotions but I feel like that goes out the window when I'm triggered. I was diagnosed with #PTSD in 2019 and I take meds for the nightmares but I don't think that does much for being easily startled and reacting strongly. Does anyone else struggle like this?

#Trauma #PTSD #Abuse #AbuseSurvivors

*Not to mention the paranoia that comes on sometimes if I'm really anxious. That just makes things worse. #Anxiety #Paranoia

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Monika Sudakov

We Need to Talk About the Intersection of Femininity and Trauma

A couple of weeks ago, I saw an article pop up on Facebook titled “How to be more feminine.” My immediate reaction was like that of a cat being startled — hair standing on end and tail poufed up in anticipation of an attack. I guess you could say that I got triggered and my nervous system went into fight mode. You see, this was a common refrain I heard in my household growing up, and it has left deep scars that I carry with me to this day. I think most of us have some degree of disdain for tropes like this because society’s fixation on what is or is not masculine or feminine is constantly being shoved down our throats. What is considered to be “normal” or “attractive” has become a kind of formulaic image akin to Barbie and Ken, and it limits the opportunity for individuality while simultaneously objectifying those who fit heteronormative gender roles. For me, this goes a layer deeper. There was always a subtext beneath the messaging I received from my mother and grandmother (actually all of the women in my family) that a woman’s most important role in life was to find a man and that in order to achieve this she needed to embody a certain look to be desirable. As I got older, the messages became less subtle and more aggressive because, presumably, my clock had begun ticking, and at some point, my desirability as a female would have an expiration date. Lord knows I didn’t want to be the spoiled milk of womandom. That would bring shame upon my family and myself. My rules for femininity were clear: 1. All body odors are unacceptable at all times. Always wear perfume, and a lot of it, so that you don’t smell, even if you were working out. And actually, if you work out, don’t sweat. It’s unbecoming. Never have bad breath. There was a Hungarian saying that my mom would use to subtly inform me that my breath smelled that loosely translates to “Your mouth smells like dirty boots.” Make sure you don’t smell “down there” especially during your period, even if it means extreme douches or other means of deodorizing your lady parts, which is super unhealthy and can be dangerous (the link between excessive use of talcum powder and cancer has been well-documented). 2. Aging is unacceptable, so we must lie about our age once we hit 40. My grandmother insisted that we tell people that my mother and I were sisters so that nobody would know her age. I refused. Wrinkles and bags under your eyes are bad, so you should use any cream or cover-up necessary to hide them. Skin should be soft and caress-able. If you have dry skin, lotion the heck out of it, exfoliate, scrub, and otherwise treat until your skin is practically raw. Never appear in public without makeup on or at least lipstick applied. 3. Dress like a lady. Wear short skirts to “show off your pretty legs.” Wear low-cut blouses to “show off your big breasts.” Wear high heels even if they hurt your feet. Wear jewelry to adorn yourself — lots of it. 4. Being overweight is disgusting. Use any kind of spandex or shapewear necessary to smooth out any unseemly rolls of fat, even if you can’t breathe. Speaking of fat, don’t gain weight. The litany of insane diets, diet pills, enemas and other methodologies used in our house to try to lose weight were enough to make your head spin. 5. Have long hair. Short hair is for boys and lesbians. When I cut my hair short my mother said “You look like a dyke,” which is offensive on so many levels I don’t even know where to begin. Oh, and make sure it’s dyed to cover up any grey hairs. Because…refer back to rule #2. 6. Do everything necessary to have white teeth. I would regularly get “gifts” from my mother of tooth whitening strips for birthdays and other events because nothing says “I love you” like a reminder that your teeth are yellow and ugly. That’s not traumatizing at all (note sarcasm). All of these rules made me feel like there was no way I would ever be a good enough woman. The standards were unattainable, let alone cost-effective. I came to resent my femininity and rejecting these standards became my rebellious way of asserting my autonomy, which my overly enmeshed mother viewed as a rejection of her and everything the women in our family stood for. I want to be clear, I don’t care what anyone chooses to wear. If you like make-up, jewels, fancy clothes, and perfume, awesome. If you don’t, fine. The choice should be up to you, not something foisted upon you to adhere to a code of preconceived determinations of gender norms, and especially not by the individuals who are supposed to love you unconditionally. The trauma of constantly feeling inferior as a woman and having that inferiority literally rubbed in my face by the women in my family has made me hyper-aware of all of the ways I buck the system and am maybe a bit quick to chafe at comments or messages that in any way suggest that my shaving my head or wearing only pants is somehow not feminine. Honestly, I’d prefer to be viewed as human, not having my identity quantified by anyone or anything. What matters most about who I am lies between my ears and in my heart. In the end, what I want people to remember about me is not how white my teeth were or how great my legs looked in a short skirt. I want them to say I was smart, kind, caring, and someone who they valued for being a fully authentic human being.

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SSRI withdrawal symptom remedies?

Anyone find anything that helps the itchiness or brain shakes cause by SSRI withdrawal? I am tapering down as the doctor recommended and it is really uncomfortable. #CheckInWithMe

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What's your experience stopping antidepressants? #prozac #Depression #Fluoxetine

Hey, I've been in a good place lately and I've been thinking about quitting my #Antidepressants
I'm pretty sure I'm having some side effects to the medication and I've been thinking about quitting for 4 years. I'm just scared to try. The what ifs and all.
If you have any experience in quitting to take antidepressants, please share! Or any info at all about it

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What's one thing you can do for your mental health today?

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Hoping that theirs a more sophisticated being out there in the universe

I’m really hoping that a more sophisticated being is out in the universe watching over us. With the recent news of unidentifiable crafts by the U.S Navy or Air Force I’d say it’s very likely we’ve been observed. I probably sound nuts to some but it would actually give me great comfort knowing that we’re not alone. I just hope that they would be gentle with us mortals more so I hope that we as a species would not destroy or hurt them as we’ve done with our own planet. I’d love to have a dialogue with said sophisticated species but after all I’m just a lowly peasant of a human being. Peace everybody.
#Depression #Agoraphobia #AnxietyAttacks #PanicAttacks #Sadness #lonely #Pain #Life

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I’m terrified of other people

Does anyone else a debilitating fear of other people due to past experiences and or mental illness? You could call it trust issues but I think it runs deeper then that, I’m scared that people will come after me, I just want to be blissed out on benzos or ketamine so I don’t have to feel constant all consuming anxiety, I mean I just finished inpatient treatment and my family isn’t exactly thrilled that I called it at six weeks even though that’s over a month and a good chunk of time. I do feel like I gained a lot from that time as well. #Anxiety #PanicAttacks #Agoraphobia #Depression #MentalHealth

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