Self-Sabotage – Why Do We Do This to Ourselves?
Why do I always feel the need to ruin things before they even end? Why do I assume the worst?
These questions echo in my head every time my imagination runs wild—creating scenarios that never happened, outcomes that don’t exist. All based on… assumptions. Assumptions born from past experiences, heartbreak, disappointment.
And then what happens? I make myself angry. I start plotting, preparing for retaliation, planning ways to regain control. Acting as if the world is against me. But why?
The truth is, this often happens when you’ve spent most of your life in survival mode—fighting for crumbs of happiness, constantly on guard. You build walls to protect yourself. Even when you try to tear them down, they rise again in an instant, taller than before.
It’s exhausting. It feels like a never-ending cycle of healing → relapsing → healing again, until you finally defeat the “end boss” of your own game: your fears, your triggers, your old patterns.
I’m still in that fight. Some days I win. Other days I fall back into the trap. And if you’ve ever been here too, you know exactly what I mean.
If you’re walking the same path—trying to break free from self-sabotage—what helps you? How do you quiet the storm inside your head before it turns into a hurricane?
Let’s talk about it.