Let me start by clarifying something. When I refer to my “anxiety,” I’m not simply talking about my fears or situations that make me nervous. I’m not talking about the kind of anxiousness that everyone experiences throughout their life. I’m talking about generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) — a mental condition that affects nearly every aspect of my life in one way or another.

You’ve probably noticed my nervous behaviors: Bailing on plans last minute. Making excuses to stay at home. Chewed nails and sudden crying. Shortness of breath, restlessness, fearing new situations, the inability to go to places alone and panic attacks.

I try to hide my struggles but I know you see it. You see it because you care. And because you care, you often try to help. You tell me to take deep breaths. You tell me to calm down or to stop worrying. With good intentions, you quote Philippians 4:6 to me. “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” You try very hard to diffuse the situation. But it has never worked. Not even once.

I’m writing this letter because I want to be fair to you. I want you to understand what my anxiety is and what it feels like, because I want you to know I’m not ignoring your advice. I know my emotions can be hard for you to deal with and our relationship isn’t an easy one. For that reason, I feel like I owe you an explanation.

Anxiety feels like an ocean. When it hits, I struggle to keep my head above water. It’s overwhelming and every single moment feels like I’m one breathe away from drowning. It’s so big, so vast and extends further than I can see. The water is dark and heavy. And the more I struggle against it all, the higher the waters gets.

The words “calm down” force me to struggle against my anxiety. And the water rises just a little more.

It should be obvious, but please remember: If I could stop my anxiety, I would have done so by now. These emotions are not a choice, or something I’ve invited into my life. I’m not a victim, but I’m certainly not a willing participant. So please stop telling me to calm down. Please stop using phrases that imply I should be able to control my anxiety.

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I know you want to help me — you wouldn’t be reading this if you didn’t — and I love you for that. But you need to stop trying to help me rationalize the feelings I’ve spent my whole life trying to understand. Irrational fears and emotions cannot be understood. Instead, try this: When my anxiety is pulling me under, let me know you see my struggle, even if you don’t understand it. Pray for me, but don’t ask me to do the praying. Listen to me, but don’t offer “easy” solutions. Most importantly, know that you don’t have to fix me or make my anxiety go away. I want you to be my friend, not my therapist. I will never put those kinds of expectations on you.

I wish you didn’t have to deal with this. Ironically, you seem to feel the same way about me. So this is a learning process for both of us. I promise to keep trying to find new ways to cope with my anxiety. In return, I simply ask you keep being my friend. Friendships like ours are often what keep my head just above the water. And that means everything to me.

Thank you,
Your Friend 

RELATED: 31 Secrets of People Who Live With Anxiety

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When John William Keedy first started using art to explore how anxiety is experienced, he wasn’t intending to get so personal. Now his series, “It’s Hardly Noticeable,” explores the world of a character with an unspecified anxiety-based mental illness, based on both his experiences with anxiety and his fascination with the cultural standard of “normal.”

Keedy graduated from Trinity University with a B.A. in studio art and psychology and moved on to receive a Master of Fine Arts from the Rochester Institute of Technology. During his undergrad he was diagnosed with a anxiety disorder.

“The images began as a way of revisiting some of the thoughts and beliefs that I had at the time. I didn’t originally intend to display these images widely, but as I continued to make the images, they received a very positive reaction and I realized they had the potential to resonate with others going through similar experiences,” he told The Mighty in an email. “As I continue to add images to the series, I hope they can help to open a wider dialog about anxiety and mental illness.”

You can see more of Keedy’s work by visiting his website.

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You’ve probably seen lists like these all over the Internet. Maybe you’ve even purposely looked them up like I have:

“Got Anxiety? Read This List On How To Conquer It!”

“Introverted? Here’s a Step-By-Step Plan For Coming Out of Your Shell!”

“Socially Awkward? Here’s How to Become the Life of the Party!”

Please.

I know what it’s like to read a headline like that and think, “There’s something wrong with me I need to completely fix right now.”

But instead of telling you how you should change yourself, I’m going to tell you you’re an all-star. If you struggle through tasks and experiences most people think are a walk in the park, I’m going to tell you you shouldn’t give up.

But most of all, I’m going to tell you it’s not your fault. I know you’re already trying your best to stay strong. Here are some some guidelines to cope with social anxiety without changing yourself in the process.

1. Try to reach out to people.

When I actually muster up the courage to talk to someone, I become this mumbling, bumbling, ranting person who doesn’t know when to stop once I start. Once someone finally gives me the time of day, the flood gates break. Despite this, a few weeks ago I reached out to an old co-worker. Non-anxiety filled, and mostly not awkward social interactions take time and practice! You don’t have to be the next Martin Luther King Jr. in public speaking, just start a conversation with, “Hi, how are you?”

2. Don’t permanently live in your comfort zone.

Even people who don’t have anxiety have comfort zones. I imagine mine is a warm, comfy padded cell with lots of books. Comfort zones are made for just that: our comfort. But that doesn’t mean we should permanently unpack and live there. It’s difficult, but I have no doubt you can enjoy life every once in awhile without hiding from it or being terrified of it. Sometimes I picture myself tucking my problems into a filing cabinet in that padded comfort zone room and putting it away for a rainy day.

3. When your fight-or-flight response is making you want to take flight, remember that sometimes you can stay and fight.

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In that moment of hesitation when entering a social gathering, you always have a choice. You can choose not to run away or hide behind a mask of “I’m definitely having tons of fun over here!” Anxiety doesn’t control you. You do. That’s probably the most important lesson I’ve learned in the midst of an anxiety attack or an urge to run after an especially awkward and embarrassing social encounter: If you can acknowledge that you’re in control of yourself, everything else starts to fall into place. You are so much stronger than you think.

4. Discover where your triggers come from. 

Sometimes you can feel like the coolest of the cool. Sometimes a certain song comes on and you want to scale the wall like Spider-Man. I can assure you, you’re not losing it. Certain triggers that initiate our anxiety can be unbeknownst to us. While I still don’t understand most of my ridiculous reactions to social situations, I assume that some of it comes from not being social enough as a kid. Triggers are sometimes amidst the dustiest corners of our mind. Don’t be afraid to dust them off — knowing your triggers will only help you conquer them in the future.

5. Never, ever feel like you’re alone in this.

If you’re like me, I hope you read this and know you’re not alone. I hope you know that someday you will get better, and that every fear you have is conquerable. Big or small, you have a support system. Even prom queens have some anxieties, so don’t stress thinking you’re one in a million. Sure, we all have different levels of anxiety and introverted mindsets, but in many ways we’re all one and the same. Growing up as a socially-awkward, anxiety-filled introvert made me feel like I would always and forever be alone, but that wasn’t true. When you eventually open the door of fear that you’ve been shut behind, you’ll realize how many people were actually waiting for you on the other side.

Stay strong fellow socially-awkward, anxiety-filled introverts! You are so much more than meets the eye.

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Anxiety in very young children, or all children for that matter, is a pretty normal part of their development. They’re getting used to the world and making sense of their place in it. But for some kids, anxiety can have a more intrusive impact on their lives.

Explaining what anxiety is to older children and why it feels like it does will make a huge difference. They can do pretty amazing things with the right information. For younger ones, though, this can be a bit more difficult, particularly if their language is still developing. The good news is that there are plenty of things the grown-ups in their lives can do to help them through. The truth is there’s no one better.

1. Offer a comforting touch. 

Humans were meant to be touched. It’s why we’re covered in skin and not spikes. If your little one is feeling anxious, touching them will initiate the release of neurochemicals that will start a relaxation response. Touching is one of the most healing things we humans can do. Try touching your child gently on the shoulder or the back — as long as he or she is OK with this, of course.

2. Or even better, hold them.

Even better than touching them is holding them. Anxiety feels flighty. It feels insecure and turbulent. Help your child feel grounded by holding them.

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Research has found that hugging brings on a significant reduction in cortisol (the stress hormone). The huggable target doesn’t have to be human – just something huggable. (Though does it get much better than human?)

Let them feel you as a steadying presence. One of the symptoms of anxiety is clinginess. This isn’t surprising; actually, it’s another brilliant adaptive human trait. Young children might not be able to articulate it, but their body knows it needs to be grounded. If it’s what they need, give it. This won’t always be convenient, but if you can, let them fold into you. Stop cooking dinner, put down the phone and just for a couple of minutes, let them feel you keeping them safe. Make sure your own breath is steady so they don’t feel you as flighty. They’ll pick up whatever you send out.

Having said this, make sure after a quick cuddle, you also encourage a brave response. You don’t want to inadvertently reinforce their anxiety by giving them something positive (a cuddle) every time they become anxious. Cuddle them, then encourage them to try something that will ultimately move them toward learning an effective response, even if it’s just holding steady and breathing.

3. Use a soft toy pet to teach them about self-calming.

Make sure it’s an animal that’s fairly lifelike – a dog or a cat or something else that they would be happy to have against them. If you can get one that’s sleeping, all the better. At bedtime, tell them the puppy/cat/whatever has fallen asleep, too. Put it against their tummy or nestle it into the side of them and tell them they have to try to keep the toy pet asleep by breathing and moving very gently so as not to wake it up. This will focus them on their own body and develop their capacity to control their breathing – a valuable, relaxing skill.

4. Make sure their breathing is just right.

In the midst of anxiety, breathing changes from slow and deep to short and shallow. This is one of the reasons for the physical symptoms of anxiety in children, or anyone for that matter. Have your child practice breathing every day so that when he or she is in the midst of anxiety, it’ll be easier to call on effective breathing. Effective breathing comes from the belly, rather than the chest. Have your child practice their strong breathing by placing a soft toy on their tummy when they lie down. If the toy moves up and down, their breathing is perfect.

5. Use this specific kind of storytelling as a teaching tool.

We love stories because we can relate – to the characters, the feelings, the situation. As well as being good fun, stories can also be a powerful tool, particularly with kids. Let’s start with an example of a story and then we’ll talk about how you can use it. Make up a story about a child who has the same fear and shares other similarities with your child – maybe in relation to favorite foods, where they live, what they like.

Here’s one idea to get you started. Add detail however you like:

"Once upon a time there was a little boy. When I say boy, I actually mean superhero. Superheroes, you see, come in all shapes and sizes. This superhero was human-shaped, kid-sized. His name was Mitch, and he loved the color yellow. During the day, Mitch did the usual things superheroes did, like capture baddies and clean his room, with no trouble at all. But bedtime did cause a little bit of trouble. Mitch struggled a little because he didn't like the dark. Even superheroes get a bit scared sometimes - of course they do - but what makes them superheroes is that when they get scared, then they get brave. Mitch needed a plan. He had a few ideas. He could sleep with a small light. Yes. That would work. He wouldn't be scared of the dark if it wasn't dark. He could be brave for 10 minutes at a time and then have two minutes with his mom or dad, or he could try special ways to relax so the dark didn't matter."

This is just an example and as you can see, it doesn’t have to be a complicated story, just one they can relate to. A good story should do these things:

Help them understand more about the issue: Kids might find it easier to talk about feelings when they don’t have to own them directly. Stories facilitate this perfectly. Asking kids about the thoughts and feelings of a character can reveal a lot about where they’re at because their answers will be influenced by their own thoughts and feelings. For example, if you were telling the story above, ask your child: What does Mitch think might happen in the dark? What does Mitch need to feel better?

Involve them in the solution process: If kids feel as though they have some control and input, they’re more like to stick to the strategy you put in place. In your story, include the different strategies you might use to ease the bedtime ritual, and ask your child to choose. “So, if you were Mitch, what would you do? … You’re a bit of a superhero, I think this could work for you. Let’s try it.”

Help them find an anchor: An anchor is a word or phrase they can call on when they’re feeling anxious. Chances are, in the thick of an anxiety attack there will be no words, which is why it’s important to decide on the word or phrase beforehand and remind them of it when they need it. It might be as simple as “relax,” or “I’m OK.” Ask what would be a good thing for Mitch to hear when he gets scared.

6. Practice mindfulness with them.

If your child is worried, ask them where in their body they feel their worry might be living. Is it in their tummy? Their head? Arms? Legs? Chest? Ask them to gently put their hand on it, or they might prefer yours. Next, have them concentrate on their hand (or yours) and feel it comforting them. Remind them to breathe slowly in and out. As they breathe in, invite them to  imagine the air going straight to their worry spot. Then imagine that when they breathe out, the breath is taking some of worry out with it. Just enough to make them feel more comfortable with the feeling. It doesn’t matter if it doesn’t go completely. The idea is to make it manageable.

7. Try the stepladder approach to anxiety-inducing situations.

The idea of the stepladder approach is to gradually expose kids to the feared situation or object so they can get used to it gradually. Start with a mild version of whatever it is that causes your child to feel anxious. Expose them a few times until they can handle it (make it super easy to start with), then move on to something a bit more anxiety-inducing. Expose them a few times until they get used to it. It’s important you don’t force them, but let them go at their own pace.

Here’s an example for someone who’s scared of dogs:

  • Start with a book about dogs. Spend some time looking at the pictures.
  • Move to a fluffy toy dog. Touch it and hold it with them.
  • Look at dogs on television.
  • Hold a friendly little dog and encourage them to look at it.
  • Hold the little dog and encourage them to touch it.
  • Let them hold the little dog.
  • Encourage them to look at a big friendly dog.
  • Encourage them to pat a big friendly dog.

8. Explain to your child there are better places for worries than keeping them inside.

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Have them draw their worries, and when they feel done, invite them to rip up the paper and throw it away. Whatever you do, don’t forget to explain this is what you’ll be doing. You don’t want to be ripping up any precious masterpieces.

9. Create a source of comfort they can carry in their pockets.

This is a powerful technique for kids who struggle with separation anxiety. Copy a photo of you and a photo of your child onto a piece of paper. Make sure the photos are touching. Then cut the paper in half and fold it up – to keep it safe. Give them the photo of you and you take the photo of them. When they’re away, the photo of them stays in your pocket and the photo of you stays in theirs. At night, the photo comes back together and stays on the fridge or their mirror, or wherever it can be visible.

10. Don’t encourage avoidance.

The more your child avoids a situation, the harder it’ll be to face. Though you don’t want to push them too hard, don’t go out of your way to avoid the feared object. This could inadvertently reinforce the fear by communicating to them it’s scary and should be avoided. Praise any attempt they make to show brave behavior.

11. Avoid labels like “anxious” or “shy.”

It’ll become a part of their self-concept and they’ll behave in such a way as to reinforce the way you see them. Anxiety usually means that brave behavior is coming. Even if it doesn’t come straight away, generally they’re working on it. Focus on their attempt to be “brave,” rather than their “anxious” behavior.

For kids with anxiety, parents and the people who love them are so important and can really make a difference. Decide on the strategies that seem to fit for your child and stay with those strategies. Don’t worry if they don’t work the first time, or the first few. Anxiety can be robust and persistent, but with you behind them, your child can be even more so.

A version of this post originally appeared on Hey Sigmund.

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11 Ways to Help Young Kids Cope With Anxiety


Dear moms struggling with depression and anxiety,

I know how you’re feeling and you are not alone. That’s the first thing I want you to know.

I know the lies depression and anxiety tell you: That you’re a failure because you didn’t finish everything you should’ve today. That your kids deserve a better mother than you. That no one cares and no one would miss you if you were gone.

I know that tight feeling you have in your chest that prevents even the best-practiced yoga breathing from relieving your anxiety. I know the teary breakdowns from overwhelming tidal waves of emotion. And I know that racing-mind feeling that won’t let you fall asleep at night.

You probably deal with a seemingly endless cycle of ups and downs. A medication works for a while, you feel like yourself again, and you dare to dream you’ve found the answer. Then a few months later, the symptoms return. You try to increase the medication, but the side effects are too rough. So you begin the process of switching meds, hoping the next one will work. Or you add another to what you’re taking. Or you try alternative therapies to manage mental health. Something works for a while, then it doesnt.

Up. Down. Up. Down.

Such is the challenge of dealing with a chronic illness, physical or mental. I know people with Parkinson’s who deal with the same ups and downs with medications. It sucks.

I get it.

But listen. Even though things seem really bad right now, I want you to hear this: It’s worth it to keep fighting.

It’s sometimes hard to believe, but it’s true. I think it’s especially hard to believe when you’re someone like me who’s been dealing with depression and anxiety for over six years, and you’re really, really tired. You’re down, you’re beaten and you’ve had enough.

When you’re in a low point, it’s really easy to forget how it feels to feel good. Normal. It seems like you’ll never find normal again. But you will. I did, and I’m relishing that normal right now because I know it likely won’t last for longer than a few months. But I’ve come to peace with the crappy ups and downs of depression and anxiety. I enjoy the good times and fight my way out of the bad. This is my challenge in life, my mountain to climb, my burden to bear. Everyone has something, and this is my something.

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But let me tell you this: I know I can tell you to keep fighting and that things will get better because I’m in a good place right now. When I’m down and feeling depressed and anxious, though, I sometimes wonder if my kids would be better off without me. I worry I’m negatively affecting them and ruining their lives, wondering if maybe they had a different mom, they’d be better off.

I can’t feel the love in their hugs. I can’t see the adoration in their eyes. I can’t understand that if I wasn’t here, they would be inconsolable.

That is how depression lies to me.

Yet now, because I’m feeling like me, my kids get off the bus in the afternoon and nothing feels better than their happy hugs. I revel in hearing stories about their days. I see their love for me in their faces, feel it in their skinny little arms wrapped around my waist and in their sticky smooches on my cheeks.

So I want you to reach back into your memory and find these kinds of happy times with your friends, family and loved ones — times you had fun and laughed and enjoyed life. You might not remember how great those happy feelings felt. But I’m telling you, you felt them. And you will again.

It’s worth fighting because the happy times — the normal times — those are things that are worth existing for. You’ll feel them again. You will. Just keep going and you’ll get there.

xoxo,

JD, a.k.a. Honest Mom

PS: I really, really want to encourage all moms dealing with depression and/or anxiety to reach out to a doctor if you haven’t yet. Call your primary care doctor and ask for an appointment right away. And of course, in an emergency dial 9-1-1 or the national suicide hotline at 1-800-273-8255. They have trained professionals available to help you 24/7. There is no shame in asking for help. Ever. We are moms. Being a mom means doing hard things. And sometimes the hardest thing is asking for the help you need.

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Anxiety is unpredictable, confusing and intrusive. It’s tough. Not just for the people who have it but also for the people who love them. If you are one of those people, you would know too well that the second hand experience of anxiety feels bad enough – you’d do anything to make it better for the one going through it.

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Whether we struggle with anxiety, confidence, body image – whatever – there are things we all need to make the world a little bit safer, a little bit more predictable, a little less scary. We all have our list. If you love someone with anxiety, their list is likely to look a little like this:

1. They’ll talk about their anxiety when they feel ready.

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In the thick of an anxiety attack, nothing will make sense, so it’s best not to ask what’s going on or if they’re OK. No, they don’t feel OK. And yes, it feels like the world is falling apart at the seams.

Ask if they want to go somewhere else – maybe somewhere quieter or more private. Don’t panic or do anything that might give them the idea that they need looking after. Go for a walk with them, or just be there. Soon it will pass and when it does, they’ll be able to talk to you about what has happened, but wait for that. Then just listen and be there.

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2. They’re pretty great to have around. You’ll want them as part of your tribe.

Because of their need to stay safe and to prepare against the next time anxiety rears its head, people who struggle with anxiety will generally have a plan – and they will have worked hard to make sure it works for everyone involved, not just for themselves. They’ll make sure everything has been organized to keep everyone safe, happy, on time and out of trouble. Notice the good things they do – there are plenty. Let them know you love them because of who they are, including who they are with anxiety, not despite it.

3. Remember: anxiety is a normal physical response to a brain being a little overprotective.

There’s a primitive part of all of our brains that’s geared to sense threat. For some people, it fires up a lot sooner and with a lot less reason than it does in others. When it does, it surges the body with cortisol (the stress hormone) and adrenaline to get the body ready to run for its life or fight for it. This is the fight or flight response and it’s in everyone. The “go” button is a bit more sensitive for people with anxiety.

4. There’s a lot to know, so if you try to understand everything you can … well, that makes you kind of awesome.

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It makes a difference to be able to talk about anxiety without having to explain it. On the days they don’t feel like they have it in them to talk about it, it means a lot that you just “get it.” If you’ve tried to understand everything you can about what it means to have anxiety, then that’s enough. Anxiety is hard to make sense of – people with anxiety will be the first to tell you that – but it will mean everything that you’ve tried.

5. Make sure there’s room to say “no.” And don’t take it personally.

People with anxiety are super aware of everything going on – smells, sounds, people, possibilities. It’s exhausting when your attention is drawn to so many things. Don’t take “no” personally. Just because they might not want to be doing what you’re doing, that doesn’t mean they don’t want to be with you. Keep offering – don’t assume everything you offer will be met with “no” – but be understanding and “no big deal” if you aren’t taken up on your offer. They are saying no to a potential anxiety attack. Not to you.

6. Loads of lovin’ never hurt anyone, so be compassionate and there for them.

Talk up the things you love about them. There will be times that people with anxiety will feel like they are their anxiety and that they are a source of difficulty. (Who hasn’t felt like they’re making things harder than they need to be?) Specifically, I’m talking about when plans have to be changed, when you need to book a few rows back from the front row, turn the radio down, take the long way. If this is the worst you have to deal with in a friend, sign me up.

7. Anxiety has nothing to do with courage or character. Nothing at all.

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Courage is feeling the edge of yourself and moving beyond it. We all have our limits, but people with anxiety are just more aware of theirs. Despite this, they are constantly facing up to the things that push against their edges. That’s courage, and people with anxiety have it in truckloads. They’re strong, intelligent and sensitive – they’ll be as sensitive to you and what you need as they are to their environment. That makes them pretty awesome to be with. They can be funny, kind, brave and spirited. Really, they’re no different than anyone else. As with everyone, the thing that trips them up sometimes (their anxiety) is also the thing that lifts them above the crowd.

8. Anxiety can change shape. It doesn’t always look the same way.

Anxiety can be slippery. Sometimes it looks the way you’d expect anxiety to look. Other times it looks cranky, depressed or frustrated. Remember this and don’t take it personally.

9. People with anxiety know their anxiety doesn’t always make sense. That’s what makes it so difficult.

Explaining there’s nothing to worry about or they should “get over it” won’t mean anything – it just won’t – because they already know this. Be understanding, calm and relaxed and above all else, just be there. Anxiety feels flighty and there’s often nothing that feels better than having someone beside you who’s grounded, available and OK to go through this with you without trying to change you.

10. Don’t try to change them.

You’ll want to give advice. But don’t. Let them know that to you, they’re absolutely fine the way they are and that you don’t need to change them or fix them. If they ask for your advice then of course, go for it. Otherwise, let them know they are enough. More than enough, actually. Just the way they are.

11. Don’t confuse their need to control their environment with their need to control you. Sometimes they look the same. They’re not.

The need to control everything that might go wrong is hard work for anxious people, and it also might make you feel controlled. See it for what it is: the need to feel safe and in control of the possibility of anxiety running the show – not the need to control you. You might get frustrated, and that’s OK; all relationships go through that. Having compassion doesn’t mean you have to go along with everything put in front of you, so talk things out gently (not critically) if you need to.

And finally …

12. Know how important you are to them. 

Anyone who sticks around through the hard stuff is a keeper. People with anxiety know this. Nothing sparks a connection more than really getting someone, being there and bringing the fun into the relationship. Be the one who refuses to let anxiety suck the life out of everything. And know you’re a keeper. Yep. You are. Know they’re grateful – so grateful – for everything you do. And they love you back.

A longer version of this post originally appeared on Hey Sigmund.

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