When Delta Air Lines Went the Extra Mile for a Boy With Autism

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I have a friend with a son named Jonah. Jonah is on the autism spectrum, is mostly nonverbal, attends occupational therapy with my son, G-Prime, and he likes Delta Air Lines. I mean reeeeeally likes them. He draws their logo and makes Delta costumes and gets massively excited when he sees their name. He’s their superfan! When his mother heard I would be flying Delta, she asked if there was any way I could get a selfie with a plane in the background and maybe some of their cookies. Easy peasy!

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Before my flight, I ran around the windows at my gate, taking pictures of Delta carts, Delta planes and Delta baggage carts. When I explained what I was doing, the Delta employees working the gate let me take a selfie with them in the background.

Once I was on the plane, I spoke with the flight attendant in my section and asked if I could take pictures of him and get some packets of cookies for my buddy, Jonah. Not only did this gentleman oblige me, but several of the passengers behind me passed forward peanut and pretzel packets and wished me and Jonah the best. You fellow flyers are awesome!

After we landed, I snagged a picture with the flight attendants and pilots and was satisfied that I accomplished what his mom had asked. Plus, I had extra goodies for him. Yes!

On the return flight, I got to the airport early, checked in, found my seat and settled in for a three-hour flight. But it didn’t happen. There was a mechanical issue, and a part needed to be fixed. We had to de-board the plane and wait for six hours until the next flight would be leaving. People were stressed out, disappointed and upset. But to Delta’s credit, they handled things beautifully. Pizza, snacks, board games and activities were provided for those forced to wait, and they assisted the rest of the passengers on finding new flights and making necessary connections. I understand how hard this delay was for most of my fellow flyers, but for me it was the perfect opportunity to get a few last shots of Delta planes, baggers loading luggage and, best of all, the pilot of the plane agreed to record a special video message for Jonah!

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That four-second, five-word video meant the world to Jonah. His momma messaged me that he was jumping around, and we had made his day! Everything I sent had been downloaded onto his iPad, and he was gleefully going through the pictures and videos over and over. Mission accomplished?

I sure thought so, but Delta wasn’t done. A certain flight attendant named Nicole had been on both the flights that I had been on and had heard me talking about Jonah and his intense interest in her employer. During the flight, Nicole sat down next to me and asked me questions about Jonah and my son. She asked what Jonah would like best from them, and then this sweet woman brought me a Delta swag bag filled with goodies, a snack box, a lunch box, baggies, a coffee cup and extra packets of cookies.

Some people may not get why this was a big deal. It was just a few pictures. The video was only a few seconds long. The items donated aren’t that expensive. All those things are true, but for Jonah it meant so much more. This boy faces challenges in terms learning, growing and connecting with others on a daily basis. The world assaults his senses in a million ways, and he doesn’t have the words to communicate all of his needs. He works hard to overcome this. His mother works hard to help him. And those few pictures, videos and goodies told Jonah and his mother that they matter. They are important and people care! It communicates they are not alone in this journey of autism. And that makes every little effort given worth more than you may know.

Thank you, patient passengers. Thank you, kind captain. Thank you, Nicole. Thank you, Delta! Thank you!

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Why Living With My Disease Makes Me Want to Become a Doctor

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My odyssey with Parkinson’s disease began at only 14, when a form of Parkinsonism slowly started to affect my ability to move. My life would never be the same. The pains in my ankle signaled an awareness that my body had stopped working and that my health would slowly decline. Over time, that pain in my ankle spread throughout my entire body. Something was twisting all the skeletal muscles within me while my ankle pronated inwards at 80 degrees. Bradykinesia came and made my movements so slow, people much older than me would pass me in the aisles of the grocery store.

High school was marked by baffled doctors, endless medical tests and declining motor functions. That’s when I discovered a passion for chemistry and science, along with a growing desire to find my own diagnosis. Four years passed and I had gone to college under the assumption that I would graduate in a wheelchair, with a drive to do and achieve as much as possible, while able. In October of my freshman year I finally got my diagnosis – Parkinsonism and dystonia. Starting Parkinson’s drugs changed my life. It was like my body was free for the first time in years. My muscles remembered again how to engage properly. The instant I realized this was working became a moment that defined the course of my disease. The hope that something could help me live with my symptoms gave me the inspiration to fight this disease and others — to become a doctor.

Successful treatment lasted for two beautiful years. It wasn’t a cure, but I was living. The medicine and my passion for what I was learning was enough to get me through every day. Over the next two years, my medication had to be doubled, then supplemented with a second class of drugs to stop the fluctuations I had endured — even while taking pills every four hours. Junior year of college began with me feeling on top of the world. I was doing great, excelling academically with two very successful summer research internships behind me. October came, I turned 20 and we celebrated those two years since the diagnosis. All was well until one Sunday of that same month, when I started to feel my arm flailing uncontrollably.

Levodopa-induced dyskinesia. I knew what it meant: the end of my era of successful treatment. Dyskinesia was the symptom that changed my life forever. It began a rapid downward spiral. The next eight months were spent trying every medicine prescribed until there were no more options. Nothing worked. Some days I could not get out of bed, fainting upon standing because my blood pressure and heart rate were becoming erratic. I lost the ability to eat and feared starvation.

On top of the non-motor symptoms, the spasms became so severe that at times I could not move or talk. There was no doubt — things would keep declining unless something drastic happened.

I am one of the lucky ones. I am so fortunate that there exists a surgery that could save me: deep brain stimulation (DBS). On June 1, 2015, I had DBS. During the procedure, an electrode was implanted in my brain while I was awake. They turned on the electricity and knew they targeted the right area when my body began to work again. I felt that moment when the surgical team turned on my electrode and I was suddenly capable of coordinated movement and felt my shoulder’s rigidity relax. I could physically smile again like I had not in so long. I kept saying over and over again, “This is amazing.”

These are the moments that define my trials with Parkinsonism. These moments define who I am, not because I am my disease, but because I live and love life through this all. Every day the effects of this disease remind me of the fear of that first realization and how far I have come. The first time the Parkinson’s drugs started to work, just when all hope seemed to be lost, this medicine came and changed my life. That moment energizes me whenever I am feeling lost, remembering that there is constantly the potential for something wonderful to come and surprise me. When things are going well, I remind myself to be thankful — because I know what it’s like to have everything come crashing down. I don’t take life for granted because of that night when dyskinesia found me. Every day I wake up alive, no matter how bad of a day it is, and I hold dear to that moment when surgery changed my life forever. I smile, why? Because now I can. 

My desire to become a physician is intrinsically linked to my experiences with Parkinsonism and dystonia. Every day I am inspired by the people in our community who fight this disease, some of whom look up to me now as a fellow survivor. Throughout the process, they offered me words of encouragement, of hope. It has been such a joy and a blessing to be able to share my experiences, to encourage and support others with the disease and those who pursue DBS. My doctors have shown me the amazing difference good physicians can make in someone’s life.

I want to be that doctor for someone like me, for the scared little girl I once was. I know not everyone gets the kind of second chance that I got, but my second chance was only possible because of people who fought for me. It would be an honor to be that doctor for someone else.

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How Becoming a ‘Floating Head’ Breaks the Ice About My Disorder

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I go to my acupuncturist a couple times a month for a treatment, but I visit her office a few times a week to use her infrared sauna. It helps loosen and relax my muscles that are tight and sore from living with dystonia, a neurological disorder I have had for 15 years. I’m only there for about 20 minutes, and while I talk to pretty much everyone, I recently learned that there is a lot more conversation going on than I was aware.

You see, this sauna is unique in that it’s in the waiting room where I can interact with other patients. It is also a funny-looking contraption so it attracts attention. I sit on a chair inside of what looks like a tent. My body is fully covered to let the infrared heat penetrate my muscles, and my head sticks out of the top. It’s bizarre looking, especially to those who never saw it before.

It didn’t take long for me to be known as the “floating head.” Everyone who walks in the office — from patients to caretakers to kids and even the postal carrier — either says something, asks something or at the very least smiles and/or laughs. It always sparks some sort of personal exchange.

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People want to know what it is, how it works and how it helps me. This always leads to a conversation about dystonia and chronic pain, which I love to talk about because it increases awareness.

I recently learned that the conversation doesn’t end with me in the waiting room. My acupuncturist told me that when her patients go into the private treatment room, they ask her more about me, dystonia, chronic pain and why I use the sauna. This then gives her an opportunity to educate her patients even more about dystonia and chronic pain and how the infrared sauna helps. When people learn more about my story, they want to use the sauna for what ails them!

Little did I know that doing something for myself a few minutes a week would spark such an interest and help others. I love talking to people in general, and the funny-looking “floating head” in the waiting room is such an easy icebreaker that it breeds even more conversation. It’s hard to look at my silly head popping out of a “tent” and not say something, or at the very least, do a double take and break into a smile.

What I find so interesting about all of this is how I often go out of my way to educate others about dystonia and chronic pain, when sometimes all it takes is something incredibly simple, and often unintended, to appeal to the interest and curiosity of others. It serves as a reminder that when we live with any challenge in life, as long if we go about our business doing the right thing, not be ashamed of how we look or feel, smile, laugh and engage people, we will always make an impact on someone beyond ourselves!

September is Dystonia Awareness Month. To learn more about this neurological movement disorder, contact the Dystonia Medical Research Foundation. To sign the White House petition to have September formally recognized as Dystonia Awareness month, click here.

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To the Dads of Children With Autism, From a Fellow Dad

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I put my son on the school bus today. He was excited and happy because he enjoys the bus ride to school. The bus pulled up and I walked with him up the driveway and to the bus door. I told him goodbye and after a little prompting, I received a goodbye in return. He boarded the bus and the bus pulled down the street to turn around. I waited at the end of the driveway and waved to my son as the bus went by (I did this more for myself than for him). He did not wave back. 

I am the father of an autistic child. My wife and I have three children: our oldest son is 11 years old, our middle son is 8 years old and our baby girl is 9 months old. Our middle son was diagnosed as autistic when he was 2. As luck would have it, my wife taught as an early childhood special education teacher for several years prior to our son’s diagnosis. She is patient, understanding, caring and loving. The same cannot be said for me. I was quick tempered; impatient and high-strung doesn’t begin to cover it. However, after eight years and counting and through good times and hardship, our family is getting by. 

This is a father’s perspective on autism. I’ve typically maintained silence or vagueness regarding my thoughts and feelings on my son’s autism. I think there are a lot of fathers like me in similar situations. We were raised to be the backbone of the family. We think we should not show doubt or fear, so we bury those feelings and only expose them to our spouses (if at all). Typically we don’t even talk to our friends or family about our concerns because, unless you have an autistic child, you simply cannot understand exactly what it’s like. I don’t mean to imply that friends and family don’t care, only that they may lack the true understanding of the situation. I’ve seen the judgmental eyes of family or friends that seemed to say, “Yes, their child is autistic, but there is no excuse for that kind of behavior. It has to be upbringing or lack of discipline,” or “I cannot believe that child can’t use the bathroom, dress themselves, be quiet, etc.” Once again, this is not out of malice, but misunderstanding. Also, as much as my friends want to be helpful on the subject, guys’ advice is usually oversimplified: “Keep your head up,” “It’ll be all right,” “Rub some dirt on it,” just to name a few suggestions. 

For all these reasons and more, I’m writing this to let other fathers of autistic children know they’re not alone. I know some of your fears and worries. 

I believe I know how you felt when you heard the diagnosis. Maybe you had to hold back tears and be strong. I might know your first concerns, too: Will they ever talk or be able to express themselves? Will they be potty-trained or dress themselves? Will they understand danger or dangerous situations? Will they have friends, and the most heartbreaking, will they understand how much their family loves them? As your child grows and you begin to see answers to your initial worries (that can be good news or bad), adolescence quickly approaches and new questions take hold. Will they ever get to drive a car, play a sport, go out on a date, get a job, live on their own, fall in love, get married and have their own child?

I know you love your children and wouldn’t trade them for the world. I know when people tell you, “Have hope, have faith, pray and God will give you the answers,” that doesn’t console you when you’re changing an 8-year-old’s diaper, stopping them from hitting themselves or watching them cry, unable to tell you what’s wrong. I know what it feels like to be pessimistic. I know and understand the weight on your heart.

I also know you’ll never give up on your child. I know you will fight harder (more therapy, more activities, more time together, more understanding). You will do everything you can think of because you love your child. Then through all the heartache and worry, I know you are rewarded. Every time that child smiles, it will be that much brighter. Every hug you get will be that much tighter. Every time they laugh, it seems that much louder. 

I believe there are no little victories with autism. Every step forward, every improvement no matter how slight is a huge accomplishment — not just for your child but also for you. Children with autism do not have an easy road, but they need their parents to get down it.

I did not write this for pity or praise. I’m writing to tell all fathers out there — I know how you feel. I’m one of you. I’m sympathetic and respectful of you. You are not alone. I believe we all feel the same things. Don’t let those feelings own you. Love your children; they will give you hope. Love your spouse; they will give you love in return. Love your family and friends; they will give you support even when you don’t realize you need it.

Sincerely,

A Dad

P.S. To all the mothers of autistic children, please don’t take offense to this letter. I certainly do not mean to imply you don’t have the same thoughts, feelings and concerns. I could not do anything without my wife. She is the reason I have made it this far. I simply wrote this from a father’s perspective because I think men are less vocal on this subject, and I wanted to give a voice no matter how small.

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8 Things People Searching for a Diagnosis Want You to Know

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It’s warm today, and Erin’s resting on her beach chair. The sun warms her face as she quietly hums the song playing on her headphones. The beach is noisy today, but she’s trying hard on focus on this relaxing moment. She concentrates on the cool air that wisps across her toes, and despite the noise, she drifts slowly off to sleep.

“We’re done,” cuts in a voice that interrupts her music and startles her awake.

“Thank goodness,” she sighs as she begins to move forward and out of the MRI machine. Her daydream was over. She felt fortunate to have drawn her focus away from that confined and noisy space. But a feeling of disappointment came over her. She wished her moment away wasn’t just a dream. In fact, the last few months for her have been like living in a nightmare.

A few months ago she began to feel sick. She was tired, her body ached and she felt like she was coming down with the flu. She took a couple days off work, and when it was time to return, she still didn’t feel better. The weekend passed, and she still couldn’t shake what she thought was the flu or some sort of virus. She returned to work and held strong, hoping her symptoms would improve, but they never did. The symptoms and the addition of widespread pain was beginning to disrupt her life. She couldn’t concentrate at work, and by the time she got home, the extreme fatigue and pain kept her from keeping up with her normal responsibilities at home. Deep in her heart she knew something wasn’t right.

It began to slide into every aspect of her life, and she knew she needed answers. She was disappointed to learn that when she went looking for answers, she’d only end up with more questions.

“So, what’s wrong with you?” she would be asked.

“I don’t know.”

“What do you mean you don’t know? Didn’t you just have an MRI?”

“I did but they couldn’t find anything,” she said, feeling defeated.

“All that money spent for nothing?” Her heart sank hearing those words. She had hoped others would see her quality of life would be worth the investment.

The time and money she invested in searching for an answer was only feeding her increasing guilt, but she kept reminding herself of why she was searching. She often had to keep going even when she felt like the doctors had also given up.

No one wants a diagnosis, but everyone deserves a chance for treatment and hope for a better quality of life. Those living in the gray area between health and a diagnosis are lost. They’re always searching, researching and asking questions. They’re often seeing various specialists and submitting themselves to tests that can consume time and strain finances. Their symptoms aren’t in their head. They’re like Erin in my story. She’s an intelligent, loving mother of two who works for a living. She is active in the lives of her children, but she also knows something with her health isn’t right.

But the woman my story could also have been my own mom who searched for 55 years before receiving a diagnosis. The woman could also have been me. I knew something wasn’t right with my own health for more than 10 years. After various doctors’ appointments, tests and questions, I found my own diagnosis after plenty of research. My diagnosis finally came after I asked my physician, “Could you please test my blood for rheumatoid arthritis?”

People searching for a diagnosis want you to know:

1. I do need answers.

2. I need support and understanding.

3. I need help.

4. Do not judge me.

5. Don’t ask me questions about my search and then cut me down.

6. Please don’t offer alternative healing until I have a diagnosis.

7. Don’t tell me it’s all in my head.

8. Listen to me.

As for Erin, she’s going to keep searching because she needs answers so she can have hope for a better future, for herself and for her children. She desperately desires the chance to experience life without the disruptive symptoms attached to an unknown diagnosis. She deserves to get up each day and know what she’s facing. She deserves a chance for a fair fight. She and all people living in the gray zone of the undiagnosed want and deserve the same.

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This Chart Proves Just How Small 4% of Something Really Is

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About 10,380 children under the age of 15 in the United States will be diagnosed with cancer in 2015, according to Cancer.org. Cancer is the second leading cause of death in children after accidents.

Despite this, of the $4.9 billion 2014 National Cancer Institute (NCI) budget, only 4 percent went to research around childhood cancer, according to the Coalition Against Childhood Cancer (CAC2).

To put that in perspective, this is what 4 percent of something looks like:


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According to Vickie Buenger, President of the Coalition Against Childhood Cancer (CAC2), the number itself isn’t the only problem.

“Anytime we start talking about childhood cancer, it is appreciably different from adult cancer,” Buenger told The Mighty. “The causes of the cancers are different, the way they act in the body is different and the treatments for adults may or may not be helpful in children’s cancer because they are affected by different kinds of cancer.”

Because of this, treatment options for children with cancer are often limited and sometimes outdated. Buenger’s own daughter, Erin, who diagnosed with neuroblastoma and passed away in 2009, was at one point taking a medicine that Buenger’s grandmother took as a treatment for breast cancer in the 1970s. Buenger says her daughter spent close to three years of treatment on drugs that were developed in the 1950s and 1960s.

“We were happy to have those drugs because they kept her alive. I don’t want to complain that we had those drugs,” Buenger told The Mighty. “I’m just saying there have only been four or five drugs developed specifically for children.”

Since 1980, only three drugs have been approved in the first instance for use in children, and only four additional new drugs have been approved for use by both adults and children, according to the Coalition Against Childhood Cancers.

This in part has to do with how cancer research is funded.

“The funding picture is incredibly different for adult and children cancers, the difference is that for adult cancers, except for the rarest, there’s also going to be efforts being made not just through federal dollars but also through pharmaceutical companies running clinical trials and trying to do development,” Buenger told The Mighty. “They are using corporate dollars as well as the federal dollars; more than half an annual budget is still being spent by the private sector. In childhood cancer, that is just not true.”

Because children are often diagnosed with rare diseases and the profit pot for pharmaceutical companies developing a drug for a pediatric cancer patient is limited, most of the breakthroughs come from the funding given to childhood cancers by the NCI — the 4 percent.

This means that not only are childhood cancers getting a small portion of federal funding, but they are more dependent on this small portion because developing cures for children’s diseases is seen as less profitable than cures for adults. The financial motivation to develop drugs for children just isn’t there.

“It’s not a matter of raising the [4 percent] number or even doubling it, although that would be nice,” Buenger told The Mighty. “It’s about thinking as a community… My goal as an advocate is making sure children have all kinds of reasons to be a priority so we dont think of them as second-class citizens and we don’t give them 50-year-old medicine. We need to incentivize private industry to think about developing drugs for kids and we need to be a higher priority at the NCI.”

Childhood cancer advocates argue that pediatric cancer should be a higher priority both because other cancers have private funding options and because children have more years of productive life following diagnosis.

“I don’t want to play cancer olympics where we say children are worth more or adults are worth more because I think we’re all affected by cancer,” Buenger told The Mighty. “The 4 percent is the starting point to a question that really has to do with priority for children to take advantage of the great science going on in the United States… We can do better as a nation than we’re doing.”

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