99 Lessons From My Recovery Journey


1. My passion for mental health.

2. Mental illness doesn’t define us.

3. Self-reliance.

4. It’s OK to not be OK.

5. There are no good or bad emotions, but there are good and bad ways of expressing emotions.

6. Resiliency.

7. Self-compassion is a priority.

8. Self-awareness is key.

9. Coping skills that best work for me.

10. We don’t owe anyone an explanation for self-care.

11. Beauty lives in our differences.

12. The benefits of therapy.

13. Mindfulness.

14. The more I loved myself – the more I fell in love with my kids.

15. To not feel guilty for self-care.

16. Patience and understanding for others

17. Recovery comes first

18. How to stand up for myself and fight against stigma.

19. Things will always work out – do not give up.

20. We are not broken, weak or worthless.

21. It’s never too late to become the person you want to be.

22. The present moment is all you ever have.

23. Who my true friends are.

24. My story has helped make a difference.

25. Internal vs. external locus of control.

26. How to be at peace.

27. I am brave.

28. I’m an introvert and value my alone time

29. To let go of my past mistakes; they do not define me

30. I am emotionally intelligent.

31. I gained more self-esteem.

32. Judgments are a confession of character.

33. Happiness is found within.

34. Self-Confidence is the best outfit; own it.

35. Mental Illness is nothing to be ashamed of.

36. Self-love is the most important love.

37. I am a stronger and healthier mother to my two kids.

38. Without the dark and stormy days, we can’t learn to appreciate the good days.

39. The minds like ours are beautiful

40. Our feelings are valid; don’t justify them or seek approval – they are your feelings.

41. Our behavior is driven by our emotions.

42. Helping others makes me feel good – we rise by lifting others.

43. Your worth is not defined by someone loving or not loving you.

44. My worst days in recovery are by far better than the best days in my manic episodes.

45. A bad day doesn’t equal a bad life.

46. The words, “f*ck it” do come in handy every once in a while.

47. You are not a burden.

48. You have to learn to love yourself before you can fully love someone else.

49. Do not be afraid to walk away from toxic relationships/friendships.

50. It’s OK to sometimes embrace the sadness.

51. It’s OK to be different.

52. Be patient with yourself.

53. Recovery isn’t strictly about being “happy,” it’s about learning to become whole.

54. The bad things people say about you are actually reflections of what they think of themselves, not you.

55. I am unique

56. Ultimately it’s only your opinion of yourself that matters. Do what makes you happy.

57. The art of meaningful conversations.

58. Stigma’s three components are: stereotyping, prejudice, and discrimination

59. When you can, be your own advocate.

60. Step outside your comfort zone – you might actually have fun.

61. You are worth much more than you think.

62. It all starts with willingness.

63. I am a fighter, survivor and a warrior – so are you.

64. Be acutely aware of your thoughts.

65. No, we can’t just “get over it.”

66. Good things take time.

67. Expect nothing – appreciate everything.

68. How beautiful it is to be alive.

69. How to live less out of habit and more out of intent.

70. We are the directors of our own mindset.

71. Strength.

72. Life’s a bitch sometimes.

73. Mental illness is not a choice.

74. If you make friends with yourself, you will never be alone.

75. I no longer want to compete with anyone but myself – I hope we all make it.

76. Hold on to hope.

77. Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing we will ever do.

78. How not to lose myself in the process of loving someone else.

79. How to magnify your strengths, not your weaknesses.

80. We can’t fix ourselves by breaking someone else.

81. My appreciation for music.

82. We are exactly where we need to be

83. Breathe! 

84. Protect yourself with the Americans with Disabilities Act

85. How to maintain a balanced life – parenting, career and education.

86. I am emotionally sensitive — my emotions are more intense than the average person and that’s OK.

87. Face your fears – It’s liberating!

88. Be gentle with yourself.

89. Your time is important – spend it on things you’re passionate about.

90. Make time for yourself.

91. The part you play is sacred – you are priceless.

92. How to manage impulsiveness.

93. The value in our stories.

94. Trust your intuition.

95. Everyone carries a piece of the puzzle; start a conversation.

96. Your speed in recovery doesn’t matter; forward is forward.

97. Life gives you challenges that you can overcome; be strong.

98. Emotional awareness means recognizing, respecting and accepting your feelings as they happen.

99. How to discover who I truly am.

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