To Everyone Who Lights It Up Blue on World Autism Awareness Day

To everyone who will “Light It Up Blue,”

Wherever you are on April 2, you can make a huge difference for our community.

How? By turning the world blue!

Wear blue! Light your homes blue!

Light your buildings where you work blue!

Be all the blue you can be!

For me, going blue for autism is a cause close to my heart. When I was 4 I was diagnosed with autism. Growing up I wish there was an initiative like Light It Up Blue to start a conversation with me.

To backtrack a bit for those reading this who don’t know, in 2007 the United Nations proclaimed April 2 as World Autism Awareness Day.

Two years later, the Light It Up Blue campaign was born, and even more awareness became possible in our communities. Now every year I wear my blue T-shirt on April 2, take a selfie pledging to go blue, and finally go to Home Depot or my local hardware store to purchase a blue light bulb so my house can go blue.

To me, going blue is essential this year. Today autism is the fastest-growing developmental disability out there. The number of individuals being diagnosed with autism when I was a kid in the 1990s was approximately one in every 1,000 children; now, those numbers have increased to one in 68 children. Every day our lives are touched by autism, whether it is in your immediate family, a friend or maybe an acquaintance who you converse with over coffee every morning at work.

That’s why I’m thankful for people like you who go blue and, most of the time, stay blue throughout the entire month of April, which is Autism Awareness Month. I hope when you read this letter you know that you are making a difference by being involved with this important cause.

Blue is so much more than just a color now to us. Blue is a movement to help make people aware and more understanding of those with autism. For that I will be forever grateful for all of you who decide to get involved. With your continued support, we will make autism heard around the world, not only in April but all year round.

So in closing, I hope you will make the below your mantra and encourage others to do the same. Keep telling yourself that…

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Kerry celebrating World Autism Awareness Day.

“I will wear blue on April 2.”

“I will light it up blue on April 2.”

“I will help shine a light on the millions of individuals worldwide who have autism.”

“I will show people that autism is different and not less.”

“I will make a difference.”

Your friend,



A version of this post originally appeared on Kerry Magro.

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What I Want More Than Awareness for My Autistic Sons

Do you know that World Autism Awareness Day is on April 2? On that day, you’ll be asked to “Light It Up Blue” or “Color the World” to help raise awareness for autism.

How important is World Autism Awareness Day to me?

Meghan Hanley’s sons.
Meghan’s sons.

I booked my boys’ birthday party on that day. I looked at my calendar and there wasn’t a rainbow of appointments staring back at me on that day so it meant it was open. Then my girlfriend texted, “Oh, you’re so awesome having their party on that day. I bet you’re going to do something big.”

I sat there for a second and had to really think about what is so special about that day. I actually had to ask! See, the thing is I didn’t book my boys’ birthday party on April 2 because I knew it was World Autism Awareness Day.

We raise awareness every day no matter where we go — sometimes loudly! I talk about autism, write about autism, research autism. Hell, my van is covered in stickers to raise awareness and keep my boys safe for first responders just in case.

What I’m really looking for is acceptance and understanding. I want people to understand my boys.

When my son, Beast, was at the hospital, a doctor called autism a behavior disorder. And she said it as she was walking out the door. I was so shocked that I didn’t have a chance to correct her or ask her why she said that.

Then I thought about it — people can be aware of autism, but they may not understand autism. I feel like every medical professional who I’ve been talking to about Beast looks at the nonverbal piece and doesn’t listen to everything I have to say about my son. Because they don’t listen to a verbal account of what’s going on with him and don’t understand all of the nonverbal language, he’s being dismissed.

It’s the flip side of that coin for my other son, Bubba. That kid can talk! He will talk your ears off. That’s how he processes, controls or regulates a situation. I’ve heard it a million times that he’s smart and quirky. Not a big deal. Social communication is where he faces challenges. He’ll agree to anything and say anything if he thinks he’s in trouble. He has a hard time with executive functioning. He needs clear step-by step-instructions. He was getting punished and made an example of in school, and his self-esteem suffered because the school didn’t understand him.

I want people to understand and accept my autistic boys. 

My boys are snowflakes that are beautiful and complex.

Autism is an explanation and not an excuse.

I want people to look closer, see, listen and observe.

I need people to learn that my kids do certain things that may seem different, but it’s how they communicate, relate to you, express an interest, get your attention or get your love.

April 2 might be World Autism Awareness Day, but every day is autism acceptance day.

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110 Parents Describe Their Children With Autism in One Word or Phrase

I am honored to know a lot of parents of children with autism. So I took over 100 of them recently and asked them to describe their children to me in one word or phrase. The results are very powerful:

  1. Fun
  2. Lovely
  3. Affectionate
  4. Courageous
  5. Strong
  6. Emotional
  7. Always smiling
  8. Helpful
  9. Marvelous
  10. Train lover
  11. Intelligent
  12. Awesome
  13. Horse lover
  14. Precious
  15. Great artist
  16. Sweet
  17. Energetic
  18. Gorgeous
  19. Mischievous
  20. Loves outdoors
  21. Beautiful
  22. Clever
  23. Loving
  24. Caring
  25. Cat lover
  26. Xbox addict
  27. Informative
  28. Routine lovers
  29. Toothbrush fascination
  30. Gentle
  31. Chatterbox
  32. Kind
  33. Light of my life
  34. Bus obsession
  35. Charming
  36. Giggly
  37. Anxious
  38. Quiet
  39. Dalmatian collector
  40. Harry Potter’s greatest fan
  41. Cheeky chub
  42. Dancer
  43. Mummy’s boy
  44. Fragile
  45. Joy
  46. Smart
  47. Special
  48. Animal lover
  49. Complex
  50. Cute
  51. Loud
  52. Thomas fan
  53. Little monkey
  54. Quirky
  55. Aspiring author
  56. Cheeky
  57. Amazing
  58. Best friends
  59. Funny
  60. Creative
  61. Bubbly
  62. My world
  63. Sunshine
  64. Handsome
  65. Simply the best
  66. Gifted performer
  67. Hard working
  68. Unique
  69. Jokestar
  70. Perfection
  71. One-armed woodworker
  72. Lively
  73. Determined
  74. Superhero lover
  75. History buff
  76. Incredible
  77. Talented
  78. Dinosaur loving
  79. Brave
  80. Wonderful
  81. Water baby
  82. Minion fan
  83. Teddy loving
  84. Figure obsession
  85. Blessing
  86. Brilliant sense of humor
  87. Inquisitive
  88. Excitable
  89. Calm
  90. My hero
  91. Loved to the stars and beyond
  92. Big-hearted
  93. YouTube lover
  94. Always on the go
  95. Texture seeker
  96. Endearing
  97. Adorable
  98. Bundle of energy
  99. Timid
  100. Extreme sense of fairness
  101. Carefree
  102. The reason I live
  103. Heart of gold
  104. Nothing gets in his way
  105. Talents outshine his difficulties
  106. Laid back
  107. Sensory
  108. Full of character
  109. Lego lover
  110. Little princess

What wonderful words! What fabulous families, proving everyday how perfect every child is regardless of any diagnosis. They have said it far better than I ever could!

See all of the responses in Miriam’s video, “More Than a Diagnosis.” 

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When I Tried to See the World the Way My Son With Autism Sees It

You look may look at my son and see a child with autism. Or you may look at my son and think he doesn’t “look autistic” at all.

But when I look at him, all I see is his bright toothy smile, his infectious giggle and the long locks of brown hair he seems to hide behind when he talks to people. I see my son!

(Who has autism.)

One of the wonders of humanity is that two people can look at something and see very different things. It’s all a matter of perspective.

You could see a hurdle where I see a challenge.

You may see sadness where I can feel joy.

You may see difficulties where I see strength over adversity.

You may see weakness where I see bravery.

You may see a puzzle where I see wonder.

You may see a label where I see my son.

If all you see is the label when you look at him, then you are missing out on so much!

But this is the complex world my son has to navigate his way around. And as his mother, I had to learn how to support him to make sense of it all.

How could I do that when we live in a world in which people’s opinions differ so vastly, and their past experiences shape how they interact with him? How could I understand how he feels and help him make sense of this world, and help others see who he really is?

Simple… I had to change the way I viewed my son’s world. The ups and downs, the highs and lows, and the challenges he faces daily. Not to mention the inner strength and talents he has within. I had to change my perspective and try to step into his shoes to see the world as he sees it.

You see, people may think he just chooses not to leave the house and is a “recluse.” But imagine a world in which complex interactions and going beyond the safety of home floods you with all-consuming anxiety that can make you feel physically sick. Now can you understand why stepping outside is so daunting for him sometimes?

People may think he doesn’t understand what they are saying, so they talk over him or ignore him completely. However, try to imagine how it feels to struggle following the ebb and flow of conversations. Not knowing how and when you are meant to respond, or what people’s facial expressions actually mean. I feel it’s no wonder he avoids conversations with people who don’t know him very well.

People may think he has no sense of humor or can’t take a joke. But instead, try to imagine living in a world where people say things they don’t really mean and make jokes about things that just don’t make sense. It’s not that he doesn’t have a sense of humor, he is really funny and makes people laugh every day. In fact I say he has a giggle that is infectious.

People may think he wants to control things. For a second, just picture how it feels to not be able to predict what is going to happen next, and how out of control this would make you feel. And maybe then you will realize why he feels the need for control or routine.

He may have difficulty seeing the bigger picture of what’s happening around him and seem like he is in his own world, and people might think he is ignoring them. Just remember that his world is rich and full of intense experiences. He sees and feels things so vividly that sometimes it can be hard for him to switch his focus to anything else.

Sometimes people think he is rude or that he doesn’t care about other people’s feelings. Try and keep in your mind that people’s rules can seem unwritten, confusing and mysterious. Imagine not being able to understand how other people feel, what they could be thinking or even that they are giving clues about their emotions through their body language. It’s not that he doesn’t care, he just doesn’t experience emotions like you do. 

Just imagine…

woman putting her face on shoulder of young son
Michelle and her son.

How would you feel if you had a really creative mind full of amazing ideas but no one recognized your potential just because you didn’t have the words?

How would you feel if you had so much love to give, but people didn’t know because they didn’t enter your world to feel it for themselves?

How would you feel if you could see the beauty in the things other people might ignore and people dismissed the things you were passionate about?

How would you feel if people wanted to change you, and said that the things you like to do weren’t socially acceptable?

How would you feel living in a world that doesn’t recognize the potential that lies within you because of a label?


Just for a minute, put yourself in his shoes! How frustrating must it all be at times for him?

If people don’t learn to see things from a different perspective, my son’s perspective, then they may never see the wonderful talents that lie within him. They may never see beyond the challenges and labels he faces, to view what he has to offer the world.

And this is why I do what I do. This is why I fight so hard to raise awareness, understanding and acceptance. No matter what day or month it is. Because autism is part of who he is, but not all he is.

I want to open the window of perspective and blow away the cobwebs of ignorance, so my son can hopefully live in a world that is far less confusing, much more aware, and has a greater level of acceptance than ever before.

It’s all just a matter of perspective.

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Video Shows Sensory Overload From the Perspective of a Boy on the Autism Spectrum

Editor’s note: The video in this article shows flashing lights, bright colors and loud, sudden noises, which some readers may find triggering.

Alexander Marshall, 10, of West Yorkshire, England, is the star of The National Autistic Society’s new Too Much Information campaign, and he’s featured in a short video that shows what sensory overload can be like.

The video is shot from Alexander’s point of view during a trip to the mall. From noises to smells to bright lights, it shows all the things that might cause Alexander, who was diagnosed with autism two years ago, to have a meltdown.

After a number of triggering visuals and sounds, Alexander is unable to maintain his composure in the video. People pass by and give Alexander and his mother dirty looks as she tries to calm him down. “I’m not naughty, I’m autistic,” Alexander says at the end of the clip. “And I just get too much information.”

“When there are a lot of people barging past me, more often than not I will break down,” Alexander told The Guardian. “If I’m at home I would go to my bedroom, but if I’m in a public space I might just break down.”

“We’d love people to realize that he just can’t help it,” Alexander’s father, Ben Marshall, added during the family’s interview with the U.K. publication. “Judgmental looks and comments stop us being able to focus on Alex. He isn’t being naughty, he genuinely can’t help it.”

The National Autistic Society also released a behind-the-scenes video from the Too Much Information shoot, explaining how they cast Alexander and what those in the autism community wanted the campaign video to show.

“The alarms, the TVs, the stares you get from the public, even the sound of a plastic bag — these are things that autistic people told us they have to endure on a simple trip to the shopping center,” Mark Lever, Chief Executive of The National Autistic Society, said in the behind-the-scenes video.

“We want people to see the looks and stares Alexander and his mom get on a shopping trip and perhaps ask themselves, have they done that before in a particular situation?” Lever added. “And maybe after having seen the film, they might react differently in the future. Then in doing so, they really will have made a world of difference.”

The campaign aims to “bring about a lasting change in the public’s understanding of autism,” according to The National Autistic Society website.

World Autism Awareness Week is April 2-8 in the U.K., and today marks the first day of National Autism Awareness Month in the United States.

Autism and Hope: Why I Share Stories About My Son

mom hugging son Hope. Only four letters, certainly not a long word — but a big word.

Wikipedia defines hope as “an optimistic attitude of mind based on an expectation of positive outcomes related to events and circumstances in one’s life or the world at large.” Like most of what she wrote, Emily Dickinson’s definition of hope is much prettier. Miss Dickinson gives hope wings:”Hope is the thing with feathers that perches in the soul and sings the tune without the words and never stops at all.”

April is Autism Awareness Month, and there will be stories of hope and feathers everywhere you turn. From families of recently diagnosed children who are struggling to find the feathers in their souls to parents of adult children who found their feathers decades ago. Some days, as parents we experience more molting of our feathers than we like, which makes us feel exposed and vulnerable, but, in time the old feathers are replaced with new ones and our ability to hear the tune of our feathers returns.

Since the first moment I knew it was autism, I felt the feathers perch in my soul. At first the feathers were small as I had to grieve and accept that what I once hoped for him may change. I had a hard time feeling the feathers back then. As time passed, the feathers grew, and I clung to each and every feather that perched in my soul — for without the feathers, the only alternative was falling and crashing as I let go of hope. As one milestone after another passed him by, at first I would crash, but in time I felt the tickle of hope that one day perhaps, he would catch up. With every feather that fell away, a new one took its place helping me to hear the tune again.

When I would beg him to “look at me” I felt the feathers tickle my soul as I occasionally caught a glimpse of his eyes and saw his own hope reflecting back in my own. Ryan’s feathers tickled his soul hoping one day I would understand that he can see me and hear me, even if he is not looking at me. Ryan clung to the hope that I would hear the unique and beautiful tune his soul was playing while drowning out the tune I always expected to hear. Some days I listened more than others.

In those early days, the feathers that perched in my soul were small, thus the tune they played was quiet. Over time though, the feathers grew and the tune got louder. I began to feel and hear hope more frequently. Hope was found in an unexpected hug, a beautifully written essay, a song being sung from the shower and communication through scripts that brought him joy. Yes, I swear I felt the feathers grow.

Hope is a powerful word, and without it, Ryan would never be where he is today. It was hope that caused me to push, nag and prod him along. Not hoping for change, not hoping for him to be someone else, just hoping for him to be the best him he could be. And for me to accept that the best him, the perfect him, was better than the him I once imagined all those featherless years ago.

Decades ago, mothers were told there was no hope; not even the tiniest feather could be felt awakening their soul. They were told to institutionalize, give up, move on, stripping them of their feathers and muting the tune their soul was so desperately trying to play. Without hope, there were no feathers, there was no tune, there was no “optimistic attitude of mind;” there was just despair and hopelessness. My heart aches for the parents whose feathers were stripped away by those who thought hope was a waste of time.

Today, when I share stories of Ryan’s progress, of how far he has come, I write stories of hope, I share the gift of feathers. People tell me, “Ryan gives me hope for my son/daughter.” I love that, but at the same time it concerns me. I worry I may give “false hope” — false feathers, as each autistic individual is different, but then I question… is there such a thing as false hope? Who wants to live without hope? Without feathers perching in your soul and singing a tune? Sure, the tune is different for my child than yours, but we still need to find the feathers that enable us to hear the tune in the first place.

If I stop sharing my feathers then I am no better than the so called “experts” who stripped away the feathers of all those mothers years ago. So I will continue to share my feathers, my hope, my tune because just like birds cannot fly without feathers, dreams and hope cannot either. Although I am no Emily Dickinson and my words will not span into the next century, for parents loving a child with autism, I’d like to think in this century, in this moment, I too give hope wings.

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Hope is necessary. Hope is needed. Hope is real. Hold onto it. Feel the feathers inside you, inside him. They are there. Your child is trying so hard to fly, and he wants you to fly with him and hear his beautiful tune even if the tune sounds different than anything you ever expected to hear. The tune is beautiful, and with or without the words, you can hear it, but you have to listen, you have to hope so the tune for both of you “never stops at all.”

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