To My Boyfriend When He Thinks He Can't Help My Depression


boyfriend kissing girlfriend You may feel responsible at times when I just can’t “snap out of it,” but you help more than you’ll ever know. Just you being here listening and caring is enough.

You don’t have to search for the perfect thing to say to try to make everything better. Because sometimes nothing anyone could say will make it better.

Thank you for always assuring me everything’s OK and for reminding me you’re never leaving my side.

Thank you for asking me if I’m OK and asking a second time after that when you know I’m far from “fine.”

Thank you for holding me and just letting me cry, wiping the tears away when they flood my eyes. You mean the absolute world to me and knowing I have someone who loves me as much as you do honestly helps me get out of bed in the morning. You never fail to make me feel important, and for that I am so grateful.

Thank you for showering me with kisses and loving me unconditionally.

Thank you for sticking by my side through all of this and hugging me so tight that all of my broken pieces seem to stick back together.

Next time you feel like you can’t seem to help, know that you help so much.

I am so thankful for you.

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