I’ve Learned to Say ‘No’ During the Holidays
Growing up, the holidays were always a special time for me. There were lots of loved ones, holiday food and decorations to enjoy. However, I began to notice adults showing signs of stress due to the extra load of “stuff” to do that time of year.
As I got older, I started to feel that stress, as more and more commitments were put in front of me. It’s a nice problem to have, if I think about it: being invited to parties, having loved ones in your life to buy gifts for, having the resources to bake and share lots of desserts!
I can’t help but feel the obligation of wanting to participate in all these things this time of year. Yet, I also have to admit to myself that being stressed isn’t the reason I celebrate the holidays. I want to focus on the feeling of thankfulness, love and giving. Being stressed helps me with zero of those things.
I can’t do everything, I can’t be everywhere and no one expects me to. Sometimes, I say no to last minute invites, to multiple events in one night, sometimes even to multiple events in one weekend during December. I don’t over commit myself on the number of gifts I’m giving or items I’m baking.
It is OK if I spend a quiet evening at home with my Christmas tree lights in the background. This allows me to recharge, and gives me the health and energy to give to others. I feel I can enjoy the holidays for the reasons I want to. I enjoy the fellowship of loved ones, the warmth of decorations and indulging in the delicious holiday treats more than I used to.
I don’t over do it, even though it’s tempting during the holiday season. We all need rest, and I am no exception. Now, I try to know my limits, listen to my body and rest when I need to. That way I can better absorb and enjoy the season!
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