The author's son on the news

One day, my son’s psychiatric doctor contacted me with a special invitation that may never come along again.

“How would you both like to attend a movie screening and panel discussion for a new movie coming out about bipolar disorder, and be interviewed on the radio?”


“The movie is called ‘Touched With Fire.’ Katie Holmes is in it. The director, Paul Dalio, has bipolar disorder.”

“I will check with him, but I’m sure he would want to do it!”

My son is a movie fanatic. He knows the names of nearly every director, and can speak intelligently about intricate plots and multi-faceted characters.

His doctor appreciates that about him, and they enjoy talking about movies and music.

She knew that not only would he jump at this chance, but he isn’t afraid to speak openly about his bipolar disorder.

The radio interview would feature his doctor and the child and adolescent mood disorders clinic where she works. She was asked to choose a patient to be interviewed.

“Naturally, I thought of our guy,” she said. “It will be a great experience for him. I’m excited for you both to join us on this journey.”

I was thrilled and touched that of all the teens she works with, she chose him.

She referred us to the clinic’s public relations director, and we made plans for the big day. The interview would take place at their office before the movie screening. After the screening, clinic doctors, the “Touched With Fire” director and actors from the movie would be part of a panel discussion about bipolar disorder.

Would Katie Holmes be there? 

The day finally arrived. It meant an absence from school for my son, which of course he was ecstatic about.

We met his doctor and the public relations director in the office. I was relieved when they told me they would only be interviewing him, and not me.

“Sit down and relax. The people from WBBM will be arriving soon.”

The camera crew and interviewer arrived.

The interviewer had dark hair tinged with gray. He had a calm demeanor and a warm personality.

He introduced himself and shook our hands. “It’s nice to meet you. I’ve heard a lot of good things about you. Go ahead and make yourselves comfortable while they set up the cameras.”

Why are there so many cameras being set up for a radio interview?

The interviewer chatted with my son, and told him about his brother, who has bipolar disorder. The focus of the movie is the astounding creativity associated with bipolar disorder, he noted. There are so many talented people diagnosed with bipolar disorder.

He asked about his interests, and my son told him about his interest in film, his work at the radio station at school and his writing projects. He told him about a poem he had written about his struggles with bipolar disorder.

Do you have a copy of the poem, or can you get one?” he asked me.

“No, but I can get one.”

I left the room and phoned my husband to send a copy of the poem.

The interview began, lights on, cameras focused on the interviewer and my son.

He’s a natural. He doesn’t even look nervous. I would be a wreck!

They talked about how it feels to have bipolar disorder, his creativity and his current stability in comparison to when he wrote the poem.

My son read his poem, “Twister,” which compares his bipolar disorder to a storm that sweeps in quickly and leaves all its wreckage behind.

I’m so proud of him.

The interviewer asked him how his illness feels. He described it: “You can either be amazingly happy….or really angry…..or you can be really depressed and feel like you want to die.”

The cameras paused.

“Do you mind if we go outside?” the interviewer asked me, and my son.


They went for a walk outside, wrapping up the interview.

The interviewer invited us to come to the news station anytime for a tour. He definitely had a soft spot for my son.

Who doesn’t? He’s a great kid.

After the interview was over, my son’s doctor and the public relations director pulled us aside.

The interview would be on the Chicago evening news in a matter of hours, they told us.

The news! I knew it wasn’t a radio station with all those cameras!

As a person who doesn’t enjoy much attention, my son sure was smiling broadly, and his eyes were bright.

They told us he would have a chance to meet the director at the screening.


When we left, my son and I were practically jumping out of our skins with excitement. The news, tonight! We phoned my husband immediately.

“Oh wow, I have to tell everyone! Post it on Facebook!” he exclaimed.

Later, waiting in line for the movie, my cell phone began to blow up with messages. The news broadcast must have just aired!

I checked my messages.

“I saw him on the news! He was amazing!”

“He’s so brave….” I heard over and over.

I never really thought of it that way, him being brave. It just seemed so natural, so him, talking about how having bipolar disorder feels. He really was speaking out for himself and for others. An advocate.

By the time the movie started, my son was exhausted. It was a long, exciting day, starting early that morning when we woke up and drove to the city.

His anxiety was kicking in. I hoped he would be OK. He asked for an extra large soda for the movie.

“I need it,” he said. “I don’t know if I’ll make it.” I understood. That happens.

I hoped he would make it to meet the director afterward.

The movie was incredible. Yellows and bright colors of mania, blues of depression. The leading characters, a couple with bipolar disorder played by Katie Holmes and Luke Kirby, nailed it. I glanced over at my son a couple of times, worriedly. This sure hit close to home. I was nervous it would be a trigger for him because it was so true-to-life.

He just stared, quiet, sipping his drink through a long straw.

“How’d you like it?” I whispered to my son after the movie ended.

“It was really good.”

Katie wasn’t there for the discussion following the movie, but actor Luke Kirby was a thoughtful, intelligent spokesperson. He discussed his and Katie’s intensive research into bipolar disorder for their roles. He talked about method acting. I was impressed.

When the discussion ended, my son’s doctor ushered us over so he could meet the director.

I saw them talk for a few minutes, and then my son came back.

“I’m ready to go home.”

“That was quick! How did it go?” I asked.


And that was that.

Afterward, watching the news interview, it was even more impressive when it was all put together on television. My son was so composed. I may be biased, but this was a comment often made by people outside the family, too.

“You must be so proud of him,” they said.

I was so darn proud of him and his moment in the spotlight. He deserves this, and so does every person out there living with bipolar disorder. They are beautiful souls.

Thank you, Paul Dalio, for bringing this true-to-life portrayal of your illness to the screen. Thank you, Katie Holmes and Luke Kirby, for doing your research on bipolar disorder and working with Paul Dalio to create characters as realistic as possible, and putting your hearts into the role. And most of all, thank you to my son’s doctor for giving him this amazing experience to speak out about his bipolar disorder, and for always being there for our family.

There is hope. My son’s doctor is a shining example of someone who fights for these kids every single day.

Editor’s note: This story has been published with permission from the author’s son.

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I have bipolar disorder, but that by itself isn’t the answer. Here’s why I write about mental illness and mental health:

It’s what I do. I’m a writer. It’s what I would be, bipolar disorder or not. I’ve been writing since I was a kid, and writing and editing professionally for decades. But that isn’t the whole answer either.

It’s what I have to do. I have plenty of topics to write about besides mental illness. Over the years I have written poetry; a few children’s stories; and articles about martial arts, religion, cats, education and teachers, technology, architecture and other subjects. In addition to this blog, I have another in which I write about whatever crosses my mind or my path – books, news, humor and the things that made me name my blog Et Cetera, etc.

But this blog is the one I have to write. It started as journaling but quickly – in a matter of weeks – became more.

It’s what I am. Mentally ill, that is. A lifelong acquaintance with – or rather, experience of – a mental illness makes the subject one that goes to the bone. I can’t call up a memory from my childhood that doesn’t involve desperation, sobbing and disaffection, or fragile, giggling glee at things no one else noticed or cared about. My college years were marred by distress, anxiety and apathy. My adulthood has been marked by breakdowns, immobility and psychotropics. I can’t get away from the subject, even if I try.

I have the skills for it. I have read a lot about mental illness and bipolar disorder, in self-help books, more scholarly works, memoirs and even fiction. I have an academic background and an intelligent layperson’s knowledge of science and psychology. I can share that perspective with others.

It helps me and others understand. Examining aspects of bipolar disorder necessitates I learn more about it – and therefore about myself. Planning, writing and editing posts help me clarify my thinking about this illness I live with every day. Sometimes I am just too close to it until I step back and look at it from a different or even new perspective. That’s one of the benefits for me.

The feedback I get – comments from readers and other bloggers – leads me to believe what I write has value for them too.

It needs to be talked about. The general public – society at large – sometimes doesn’t understand mental illness. There are widespread jokes, misunderstandings and inaccurate media portrayals. Above all, there is discrimination – in jobs, housing, medical treatment, the legal system and more. There is more trash talked about mental illness and psychotropics every time there is a mass shooting incident or a domestic terrorist bombing.

One of the solutions to these problems is education. Most of the writing I’ve done in my life has been on (or near) the subject of education. I consider myself an advocate for education, and now I am an advocate for education about mental illness. That education should start in public and private school health or social sciences classes. It should continue into adulthood for those who never learned it in school.

Celebrities like Glenn Close and Richard Dreyfuss have big names and big audiences and a vital message to spread about mental illness. I don’t have the big name or the big audience, but I do what I can.

Because the people — including me — who live with bipolar disorder and other mental illnesses every day need messages of hope and sympathy and experience and activism and explanation and thought and outrage and kindness.

And that’s why I write about mental illness.

Follow this journey on Et Cetera, etc.

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I roll over lazily and look at the time on the alarm clock: 1:30 a.m.


I had only been asleep for an hour, yet surprisingly, feel I am ready to get up and start my day. I fight this energetic high and snuggle back into my sheets. My mind races with everything under the sun from my recent breakup with a boyfriend, to what I would want to name a fish if I got one, to how terrible of a person I am.

Gently, after about an hour of this, my eyes flutter closed and drift me back to a land where my thoughts can’t reach me. When I awake I think I surely slept through the rest of the night. Roll over. Clock. 3:30 a.m.


“What is wrong with you?” hisses the dark, black voice in the depths of my being. “You’re pathetic.”

This time I give in and get up to do my morning routine. Makeup complete with sparkles and blue lipstick to match my mood, shine on my face. Satisfied with the spunky look, I glance towards the clock again: 4:30 a.m.

There is nothing open or fun to do at this time in the morning so I float towards the kitchen to do some cleaning. I find that almost everything is spotless from the energy I had the night before. Time: 5:15 a.m. Ah! Finally! My favorite coffee shop down the road is opening in 15 minutes! Tiredness from the lack of sleep the night before never fills my chest. I am wide awake.

Dr. B., as I fondly referrer to him, looks at me over his clipboard that holds all of my medical records.

“How are you?” he begins.

“Oh! Good! I feel really good,” I assure him.

“Liz, I notice you haven’t been reporting much sleep. Tell me about that.”

“Well, I just don’t feel tired,” I shrug.

He nods then scribbles a few more things on the board.

“Liz, I’m going to diagnosis you,” he states matter-of-factly.

“Oh. Uh. Well, I feel fine, Dr. B.”

“I know, and that’s what I am concerned about. It seems you have been especially hyper and this is curious to me. I have seen no other emotion from you except cheerfulness. You seem to get along with everyone very well, and when you talk to me you are almost tripping over your words you talk so fast. Would you agree with me?” he asks.

“Well, yes,” I start, “But I don’t really feel like that’s a problem. I like feeling this way.”

“Liz, I know that you are bipolar,” he says boldly. “Have you ever heard of that? I very much believe you are hypomanic right now and that explains all the symptoms I just stated,” he continues.

“Bipolar? Manic? Those are crazy words! You are crazy,” yells the voice in my head.

I don’t want to admit that it very much describes me. Can I really be these things he is diagnosing me with? Only out of control people have bipolar disorder, I think. Only “crazy” people are manic. What is hypomania anyway? This is a big scary word. Surely it doesn’t portray who I am. …Right?

World Bipolar Day has inched its way into my heart and created a passion that I must share with the world. I bought into the stereotypes surrounding bipolar disorder when I was first diagnosed, but have come to realize how liberating the diagnosis is. No longer do I have wild highs or deep lows, but rather have a name for my mood swings. And because of this I have been given the right medication and treatment. Bipolar disorder doesn’t have to be a life sentence: there is help and relief. Today especially I am grateful for those who have supported me along my journey and for the professionals who have worked diligently to help me get better.

Today is a wonderful day to fight stigmas and the marginalization of fellow people. We are not crazy or to be feared: we are loving human beings learning to navigate the world through a lens of mental illness. I will keep fighting and hope you will, too.

Happy World Bipolar Day, friends.

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I have bipolar disorder. As part of this disorder, occasionally I have psychotic episodes with hallucinations or delusions. Sometimes the hallucinations are terrifying, and sometimes they are so bizarre I find myself laughing instead of crying. I don’t realize until after the episode is over how “bizarre” I was acting.

College was such a rough time for me. College can be a stressful time for anyone; being in college while having a mental illness can be especially hard. No one seemed to understand me. So much was going on. I felt so different and alone; having psychotic episodes certainly didn’t help.

I was in an art class one time. I had been manic for a few weeks and had been creating all this art super fast, completing my paintings three times as fast as my classmates. I was happily painting one day and started having a bizarre episode where I thought the walls were caving in and the floor was melting. For some reason, I thought this was hilarious. I started laughing and telling my classmates that the wall looked like it was caving in and the floor was sinking in the middle. I kept laughing, but no one else was laughing and I didn’t understand why. A few classmates were whispering to each other and left, and I started to become a little worried I was going to slide through the floor as it melted. I had been standing at my easel and walking around the room. Now I sat down on a chair and watched the floor with concern.

My classmates came back with the head of the counseling center. I was still staring at the floor, and then suddenly there was this head right near mine. This serious, older man was crouched by me asking me questions. I was startled, then I snapped out of the hallucination and came back to reality. I felt my face flushing as I quickly told him I was fine so he would leave. I was completely mortified. He finally left, and I went back to painting, very quietly.

A week later, I was on Facebook and I noticed a few classmates making jokes about me on their Facebook walls. I was so embarrassed and furious at the same time. I messaged both of them, telling them I have a mental illness and it is nothing to make fun of. One classmate didn’t respond. However, the other sent me a very angry email about how I should be ashamed of faking a mental illness. He said I was making a joke of mental illness by the way I acted in class. He said he knew about mental illness. He said he could tell I was faking to get attention, and that doing so is offensive and wrong. I continued to email him explaining my illness, and his emails just got meaner and meaner. It is hard enough having an illness with psychotic episodes, but being told I was faking it and I should be ashamed was more than I could handle. It didn’t help that I had had a crush on him. I had thought he was amazing, and then suddenly he was a bully who was calling me names and didn’t understand me.

Finally, I stopped emailing him, and his words left a wound that took a while to heal. I forced myself to delete the emails so I would stop obsessing over his words. Maybe he will never understand. I know some people will never understand my mental illness. I am OK with that right now, but I want to keep telling my story so more people will understand.  As a friend said to me once, “Psychotic episodes are no joke.” Psychotic episodes are serious. My psychotic episodes can seem scary or hilarious in the moment, but the experience is real to me.

I’m not faking. I am dealing with my illness the best I can. Be patient with me and try to understand.

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Editor’s note: If you experience suicidal thoughts, the following post could be potentially triggering. You can contact the Crisis Text Line by texting “START” to 741-741.

They say what goes up must come down, which is certainly true in the bipolar disorder realm. What really sucks is when you open your eyes one morning and you realize it’s “down” time.

You may push through. You may get up and pretend like you’re fine, get a cup of coffee and carry on like nothing is happening. But you feel all wrong inside. It’s like looking out the window at the clouds and rain and saying “It’s sunny out today!” Pretending only takes you so far when reality is staring you in the face.

You may get the kids to school and realize once you’re at work you’re petrified to be there. You may look at the floor and pray no one needs to talk to you. For no reason whatsoever, you may feel like you cannot take one more step in this “sham” of a life you are living.

So you may gather your things and decide to work from home — you’ve got a lot of admin work, thank God, that will keep your mind busy while you hide from the world.

You get home, change into pajamas and get out your assignments for the day. You make more coffee. You may tell yourself you can get through this, while at the same time you may wonder how you will possibly live the rest of your life like this. Every task is like climbing a mountain, every movement around the house is like dragging yourself across the desert on your belly.

Why is it like this? It makes no sense. Brain chemistry can screw with you like nothing else in this world. Recently, the University of Texas released a study in which they identified the place in the hippocampus where bipolar originates. There are abnormalities in bipolar patients. For me, it makes you want to rip out your hippocampus and stomp on it and scream at it. Maybe research will bring better treatment in the future, but for right now it is what it is.

So after the day is done, you may go lie down to ponder whether or not you can live this life, but something hits you.

You’ve got no choice, dear.

In my opinion, you can’t give up. You may need to cry on the bathroom floor at length. You may need some work at home days here and there to hide away.

You get up and make the bed. And start the laundry. And write about it. Because it’s all you can do to fight.

If you or someone you know needs help, visit our suicide prevention resources page.

If you need support right now, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255, the Trevor Project at 1-866-488-7386 or text “START” to 741-741.

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When we talk about what it means to live with bipolar, to be a person with bipolar, it’s too easy to find one-demential, bleak views that focus on the negative — rather than talking about what it means to be bipolar as a whole.

When Paul Dalio, director of “Touched With Fire,” told his story to the International Bipolar Foundation (IBPF), he said the narrative he was told about bipolar when he was first diagnosed made him feel as though he would just be able to get by. “But the human spirit needs more than pity,” he said at the IBPF Luncheon.

To help change the narrative about what it means to have bipolar, and in honor of World Bipolar Day on March 30, IBPF is asking people to share what bipolar fuels their passion for. You can join in the conversation by submitting your answer here and by using the hashtag #bipolarfuelsmypassion4.

Here are some of the answers they’ve gotten so far:

1. “It fuels my passion to make the world a better place. Your tomorrows are finite. Be the change today.” — N.M.W.

2. “Helping people bipolar/ADD.” — Janice G.

3. “To create new things, to explore the world and to get to know others better.” — André W.

4. “Well, I guess I’m myself because of bipolar — bipolar only fuels my passion for myself to be the best me I can be.” — Sarah R.

5. “Bipolar has fueled my passion to paint abstracts in encaustic wax and acrylic. It has made me more understanding and kind to other people. I have learned about myself too.” — Rita H.

6. “Creating my ‘Bipolar Me’ blog and writing in it every week.” — Janet C.

7. “Helping other people with bipolar! Get rid of the stigma!” — Brenda C.

8. “Writing!” — Kathryn D.


10. “I’m a composer, artist, and musician, and the bipolar side of my schizoaffective disorder definitely assists in the creative process. The lows of depression usually create an idea or feeling from which I can draw creative perspective, and the highs of mania help me to see the idea through. Sure, bipolar disorder is tough, but I may as well make something out of it!” — Charlie S.

11. “Bipolar fuels my passion to understand my illness and my parents illnesses better so I can do whatever I can to help them. It also gives me the motivation to create my art which hopefully one day I can support myself on after college.” — Angie B.

12. “My bipolar fuels my passion for motorcycling.” — Angela R.

13. “It fuels my creativity.” — Christan A.

14. “It fuels my passion for music. Nothing tastes as good as music makes me feel.” — Becca G.

15. “Mental health care! I never knew how important it was before it was crucial for me.” — Katy I.

What would you add?

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