My Boy Is Not Naughty, He Is On the Autism Spectrum
To the elderly man at the supermarket last week who took it upon himself to growl at my son and then tell him he was a very naughty boy, do you realize how sacred you made him feel?
To the mother who openly ignored my child as he was trying to say hello to you and your child, and who then said to a mutual friend, “he doesn’t have autism, he is naughty and his mother can’t control him. Period.” Do you know how much you deflated his self-confidence by ignoring him?
To the mother who glared at me when my son was having a moment and then told her own son, “I don’t want you to play with that boy, he is very naughty.” Please, do not call my boy naughty.
Do not judge my son’s behavior based on your one chance encounter with us. You saw my son when he was at his most vulnerable, and you have judged him on that.
My son is not a naughty boy, he has autism.
You just happened to notice his behavior when he was overwhelmed by his surroundings and had entered into sensory overload.
Did you know autism is called autism spectrum disorder (ASD)? Did you know ASD encompasses many different attributes but not all individuals diagnosed will present with the same traits?
Did you know that my heart breaks every time either of my children are so over stimulated from their surroundings that they enter into a sensory meltdown? Do you know how mentally, physically and emotionally exhausting a meltdown is?
Do you know the difference between a tantrum and a meltdown?
Do you know what sensory overload is?
Many individuals on the spectrum also have sensory issues and these can affect how they process the environment around them. Sensory issues can make noise, lights and sounds seem much more intense to an individual on the spectrum. And at times, the only way that they can communicate how they are feeling is through a meltdown.
Every time they leave their home, their “safe haven,” they are entering an unfamiliar, ever changing territory where they can no longer control what happens.
We have learned how to minimize the impact of such environments for my son, but at times, he still struggles. The one thing I can’t protect him from is ignorant comments from individuals.
So on behalf of my son and others like him, please don’t make a comment or pass judgment on their behavior.
We need support, not your negativity.
A smile or nod that you understand means more than you can imagine.
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