What This Small but Significant Gesture Can Show Us About Loving Someone With Depression
It’s easy to feel hopeless when your significant other is caught in the clutches of depression — because if you can’t “love” depression away, what can you do? While small gestures can’t cure depression, they can help — and Reddit user bovadeez shared an adorable and creative example of what significant others can do when their partners are struggling.
On Reddit, he posted a photo of a jar filled with different colored popsicle sticks, with a label to show what each color means. On each popsicle stick he wrote something his partner might need to hear when she’s struggling with depression. He explained:
For the yellow, [they are] reminders… So for example I said things like, ‘You’re beautiful,’ ‘I love you,’ ‘Don’t be afraid to ask for help.’ The quotes were taken from some of my favorite authors that were based in inspiration and positive words. For accuracy and other quotes I just searched for inspirational quotes. The relaxation portions were things that I know she forgets to do like, ‘Take a break,’ ‘Listen to your favorite song’ and so on.
He also left a section for white slips of paper, where she could add her own happy memories.
Other Reddit users were touched by his gesture, TheWorldCanBeAwesome said, “Wow this is a really great idea. Sometimes depression makes it really hard for people to hear what you are trying to say and sometimes talking doesn’t help. I’m gonna pass this idea along if you don’t mind.”
Another user, chiprana, who struggles with depression, called the gesture “life saving.” “Thank you for deciding to help her instead of treat[ing] her like a burden. I’m glad to know I live in a world with people like you,” they said.”
To find out what other small ways concerned partners can help their loves ones with depression, we asked people with depression in our mental health community to share little, but significant, ways their partners help them. Here’s what they shared with us: