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How a Facebook 'Like,' 'Love' or 'Share' Could Impact Mental Health


As a mental health professional, my approach to social media has always been cautious. It might be a novice psychologist or a cultural issue, but my feelings towards social media have taken a more flexible stance as I move forward in this digitally adept world.

I recently witnessed how a joint effort was successful in helping a person receive necessary medical attention due to their mental health condition. It was mind-blowing to personally witness the power of a Facebook “share” and the potential reach these simple practices have.

Another equally heartwarming example, was the outpouring support and love generated by Sinead O’Connor’s recent video, where she opens up about suicidal thoughts. I believe this was an evidence of the powerfully positive effects of social media.

While social media has received a lot of backlash by the mental health community — especially true with younger and more vulnerable populations — there might also be something quite compelling about social media and its uses to advance the mental health cause.

The mental health stigma is an issue that continues to prevail in society. When we look at high profile celebrities acknowledging their mental health difficulties — such as Selena GomezDemi LovatoSinead O’Connor and Kristen Bell — those experiencing a similar situation might feel a certain degree of relief. Relief in knowing there’s someone out there who has gone through the same thing they did.

These celebrities, with their glitz, glamour and seemingly perfect lives, are human first and foremost. When we — “simple mortals” — are able to humanize these celebrities, we often start practicing self-compassion almost instantaneously; an ability necessary to start practicing self-care.

There are countless websites out there dedicated to raise awareness of mental health (such as The Mighty), and how these companies use their social media to open up the conversation and start connecting with people, is doing wonders to the mental health community and the cause to finally end the stigma.

We hold in our hands powerful tools that, if used appropriately, can end up saving more than one life. In your social media life, I encourage you to give more likes, more loves, more shares. You never know who you might be helping in the process.

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How a Therapist Is Using YouTube to Combat Mental Health Stigma


Kati Morton is a licensed marriage and family therapist from California. Kati has created an online community surrounding mental health, with her YouTube channel at the center of it all. Her channel has nearly 200,000 subscribers from all over the world and is quickly growing. Her videos cover topics, such as anxietydepressioneating disorders, self-harm and much more. They have personally been a huge help to me and so many others. Kati’s focus is to decrease the stigma around mental health. The most important message she wants everyone to know is that they are not alone – even if it feels that way.

Over the past few years, there has been so much change in decreasing the stigma around mental illness through the media. But there seems to still be a long way to go. Kati has been proactive in creating accessible information for anyone, no matter where they are in the world. Technology is instrumental in decreasing the stigma and in encouraging help-seeking behaviors, especially in young people.

I honestly think the more we talk about mental health in school, work and with our loved ones…[and]…share positive mental health information online the more we combat the stigma. We often don’t realize our own stigma for mental health until we are asked to share it. Considering that and fighting against the urge to keep it a secret will lessen the stigma so much more! Also, I definitely feel that technology has moved things along much more quickly than traditional media did. It has given people a place to talk about their mental health anonymously, while reaching others around the world, and be reminded that they are not alone. — Kati Morton

One of Kati’s key messages is that everyone has their mental health, just as they do their physical health. Both need to be looked after. In an ideal world, just as we all go to the doctor every now and then for a check-up, we’ve really got to start doing the same thing for our mind.

We all have mental health, and if we catch any issues early, it doesn’t have to disrupt our life. Just like any illness or struggle, if we ignore it for a long time, it will only get worse. By talking openly about mental health, hopefully people will reach out for help sooner. — Kati Morton

Kati herself makes sure that she looks after her own mental health by seeing a therapist and thinks that it is a great resource for anyone to utilize, even if you don’t have a mental illness. We all need support and someone to talk to from time to time.

I personally see a therapist and I also have a lot of coping skills and other supports. If things are getting tough, I call my therapist, take a break, talk to my friends and family until I feel better. Self-care is so very important! — Kati Morton

The brilliant community that surrounds Kati’s videos are known as “kinions” (a combination of minions and Kati!) and are unique in the YouTube space. The community is very supportive and is a major factor in many people realizing that they are not alone. It has allowed so many to connect with others all over the world who are going through similar situations in their lives. Kati has really fostered such a loving and supportive environment around her videos which is quite different to many others on YouTube.

I think I hold my community to a higher standard than other YouTubers. Firstly, I approve all comments so that no hate or trolling happens on my channel or site. Secondly, because we always talk about how we are in it together and working together, I feel that our community takes pride in it and does their part to keep it happy and healthy. — Kati Morton

The “kinion” community and Kati’s channel is rapidly growing and reaching so many people. Her aim for the future is to continue to build on this, trying to get the message out to as many people as possible both online creating new styles of videos and in person at events and speaking at schools. Making sure everyone knows that they are not alone.

I asked Kati what advice she would give to someone who is struggling, but is unsure of whether they should talk to someone about it. I know personally for quite a while, I was a bit embarrassed and wasn’t sure if my problems warranted help. I realized that this wasn’t the case and if it’s bothering you, it’s enough to speak to someone about it — a lot of that has been to do with her videos. So I asked her, what words of encouragement would you give to someone in a similar position? She said:

Know that you are not alone, and there are many people who spend their whole lives helping those who are going through what you are going through. Also, we don’t have to wait until we feel terrible or at the end of our rope to reach out. Everyone benefits from therapy, and the sooner we start talking about it, the sooner we will feel better.

This was originally published on Story of the Mind.

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A Goodbye Letter to My College Therapist, From Your Thursday Afternoon Client


To my college therapist,

It’s a forever goodbye, a “see you never again,” a “have a nice life.” It’s closing a book I can never open again. After graduation, I won’t ever be able to see you.

This goodbye is difficult. For the past year and a half, we met pretty much every week I was at school. You were everything I needed in a therapist.

Sometimes, my time at the counseling services was the one hour a week I felt like I was able to, and deserved, to get help. And sometimes, I didn’t feel like I even deserved that hour. You changed the way I think and feel about therapy. I no longer feel guilty for getting help — no person is any more or less deserving of therapy.

I cannot thank you enough for caring, listening, challenging me and believing in me. You supported me in every way you knew how, and found me the support I needed if you weren’t able to provide it.

You stood by me through sessions where I was stubborn, exhibiting patience and kindness throughout our entire time together. You were an advocate for me and taught me how to become one for myself. Hands down, you helped me get through times I didn’t think I’d make it out of.

You showed me what a good therapist looks like.

Looking for a new therapist is a daunting task. It’s not something that many people talk about when discussing the changes that occur leading up to, and after, graduation. I haven’t spoken with anyone who is struggling as intensely with such a goodbye — and I talk to others about therapy a lot. The struggles I’m having are a testament to our relationship, because it’s hard to leave something or someone so good.

I’m looking for you in every therapist I call. I’m scared. I’m afraid to leave you. I’m easily discouraged as I talk and meet with other therapists. My expectations of therapists are high, and frankly, the others I’ve come across just don’t cut it. However, it’s also because of you that I know I am capable of forming a relationship like the one I have with you, with another therapist. So, thank you.

I will miss you. Not only are you a good therapist — you are a good person. I’m thankful to have met you.

Thank you for renewing my faith in therapy, thanks for working with me through some dark times, and thanks for being you.


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Sinead O’Connor Isn’t the Only One Struggling Alone With a Mental Illness


This week, Sinead O’Connor posted a video on her Facebook page. In it,  she said she felt alone, abandoned and like she was only living not to die. That the “stigma doesn’t give a shit who you are.” It’s an unbelievably raw video and one that hit me hard because, like Sinead, I too have bipolar disorder. And I too have felt the isolation, loneliness and fear that comes with the illness. And the facts are this: 1 in 4 people worldwide will struggle with mental illness at some point in their lives. The WHO states that depression is the leading cause of disability world-wide.

So why do people like Sinead still struggle alone and in silence? It’s mind boggling.

1. Mental health care is not a priority for governments.

The cost of treatment for mental illness is staggeringly high and the irony is, many individuals who are struggling with illnesses such as bipolar disorder simply cannot work. Social assistance barely covers basic necessities, if that. In my experience, treatment is an out-of-pocket expense, therapy costing upwards of 200 dollars per session, and even more if someone requires multiple sessions per week. You do the math. I’ve found many individuals who need immediate care are relegated to waitlists lasting six months to one year. The only option for many is the emergency room where they end up waiting hours, only to be either discharged or held in a facility which does not promote what the individuals needs most: love, care, support, kindness. It is simply to keep them alive until they are discharged back into the world. Alone.

2. Stigma kills.

The stigma surrounding mental illness is still a major issue in many communities. Homelessness, poverty and poor nutrition is a major concern for individuals suffering and we, as a society, have a responsibility to not only refrain from judgment, but to offer compassion and understanding. We have to educate ourselves, challenge norms, question policies and call out intolerance when we see it. By doing so, we help remove the fear many people feel when struggling with mental illness. Therapy appointments should never be hidden. Bad days should never be spent alone. And emergency plans should be implemented among loved ones and friends of those struggling. Mental illness is just that — an illness. It’s just like any other illness and no one is to blame for that. So let’s not.

3. Asking for help should never be scary.

Videos like Sinead’s are not the first and I’m sure they won’t be the last. But what if there was always someone to call? What if asking for help was as simple as saying, “Can you come over? I don’t want to be alone.” We often view asking for help as a weakness or a burden. But the weakness is refusing to offer help. The weakness is looking down on individuals who find the strength to ask for help. Asking for help is a terrifying experience because when we do ask, we aren’t sure how we will feel if we are denied. What will happen if we are left alone? It may make us worse and that is not a reflection of us, it’s a reflection of how we perceive weakness. Asking for help takes courage, but so does saying “I’ll be right there.” We aren’t asking you for a miracle — simply company. Be with us. Let us cry. Hold onto us. Love us and care for us for a while, just as you would with any other sick person.

In Sinead’s words, “if you have a family member suffering from mental illness, care for them, tenderness, love. Care for them. Visit them in the hospital.”

If you or someone you know needs help, visit our suicide prevention resources page.

If you need support right now, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255, the Trevor Project at 1-866-488-7386 or text “HOME” to 741-741. Head here for a list of crisis centers around the world.

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30 Songs That Have Helped People With Anxiety and Depression at Night


Nighttime has always been the most difficult for me. The “outside” world often serves as a great distraction from the internal battles I face during the day. But when I get home at night, the thoughts I’ve spent all day pushing to the wayside hit me like a freight train and semi-truck colliding — and I’m right there in the middle. My depression leaves me wondering what all of this is for while my anxiety causes my thoughts to spin endlessly. Meanwhile, all I want to do is rest.

So I put in my headphones to escape it all, if only for three minutes.

Music can be an incredibly effective coping mechanism. That is why we asked people in The Mighty’s mental health community who struggle with anxiety and depression to share a song that has helped them through the night. Because sometimes the only place to escape from the outside world, the inside world or the darkness of the night, are melodies and lyrics.

Here is what they had to say:

1. “Guns for Hands” by Twenty One Pilots

“It’s a very personal song about depression and suicidal thoughts. It’s message is acceptance from others and learning to overcome it; turn your gun into a fist.” — Ashely A

2. “21 Guns” by Green Day

“In the months leading up to my hospitalization for suicidal thoughts and actions back in late 2009 and 2010, I would listen to it on repeat to fall asleep because the juxtaposition of soft and loud worked perfectly to calm me down but also validate the way I was feeling and how it sounded inside my head.” — Myriah T.

3. “Praying” by Kesha

“It has brought me peace of mind and soul no matter the time of day. Every time I listen to it I feel like I am in control of my existence and I am worthy, which is one of the hardest things to accept when you are in that dark place. I let the tears flow and I am safe inside myself again.” — Rebecca S.

4. “Skyscraper” by Demi Lovato

“It really speaks to me and comforts me on those types of nights. The song is just so powerful and it gives me hope.” — Shanelle M.

5. “Let There Be Light” by Masketta Fall

“It has kept me going through rough times, it has a message that basically says no matter how hard it is, keep going, it gets better.” — Tayla E.

6. “The Night We Met” by Lord Huron.

“It just reminds me of good times and good feelings, like I’m floating in space or under a thousand stars. I feel ‘not in this world’ and just in a place where I feel only the good. Not this chaos in my head, but where there is another place I feel doesn’t exist.” — G.J C.

7. “Wonderwall” by Oasis

“As someone who struggles with depression and anxiety, it’s hard to get through a day, let alone a night. But one night, my husband sang it to me and told me when I’m feeling down to listen to it. It’s very calming. He said it will be like he’s there being my rock.” — Lizzie W.

8. “Breaking the Habit” by Linkin Park

“There are many habits associated with anxiety and depression and this song helps me scream out the words to break mine and tear my demons down. “ — Sheridan R.

9. “Demons” by Imagine Dragons

“The lyrics relate to how I feel with my own anxiety and depression as well as how I want to help my children to relate to theirs. — ‘Your eyes, they shine so bright / I wanna save that light / I can’t escape this now / Unless you show me how’ — To me, it says I want to help you and in turn you end up helping me.” — Melissa F.

10. “On My Own” by The Used

“It brought me down to earth and made me rethink a lot about what I was going to when I was younger. Sad song, but brings me back down. Everyone struggles and I’m not the only one. There is always a way to get help.” — Sean F.

11. “Breakdown” by Jack Johnson

“Aside from being very upbeat, this song reminds me to let go of the unnecessary stress in my life. Even if it’s for just a moment. Life can spin out of control in an instant and sometimes, the only thing you can do is breakdown. It reminds me that even when I do breakdown, theres so much beauty around. Look deeper into the tiniest of things and you will find great beauty! Sometimes, a breakdown is necessary to be able to carry on.” — Dania F.

12. “How Far I’ll Go” by Alessia Cara, from “Moana”

“It sounds silly because it’s a Disney song, but it just reminds me how much more there is out there and my life doesn’t have to be ruled by my mental health.” — Megan A.

13. “Superheroes” by The Script

“The first time I heard this song was when I was harming myself. I had my headphones in and this song came on in the middle of it. I stopped, listened to the lyrics and cried. It changed my life and I now have the lyrics from the chorus tattooed over my self-harm scars on my arm.” — Jordan E.

14. “Sleepwalking” by Bring Me The Horizon

“Actually all of their songs and Marilyn Manson’s songs. When my anxiety was at its worst, I felt grey; the world was a monstrous grey mess. I was afraid, I wanted to scream. And then their music happened. In the violence of the songs, in their power, in all the emotion, I felt whole again. I wasn’t the only one screaming. I wasn’t the only one suffering. I was not alone.” — Gianluca P.

15. “Under the Bridge” by Red Hot Chili Peppers

“I just love the feeling that this song gives me and just singing to it. It really relieves my anxiety. Many Red Hot Chili Peppers songs help me tremendously.”  — Rianna J.

16. “Peace Piece” by Bill Evans

“Bill Evans is my favorite jazz pianist and I have taken much strength and support from his song ‘Peace Piece.’ If serenity has a soundtrack, this is it.” — Matt L.

17. “Breathe Me” by Sia

“[It] embodies feelings of loneliness, anxiety, tortured thoughts, depression, relapse; being overwhelmed by your own inner demons and pain, having a breakdown and feeling suicidal, begging for help and hoping someone with listen.” — Rebecca H.

18. “Eye of the Storm” by Ryan Stevenson

“It came to me when I was driving home (literally in the rain) having a panic attack, scared I wouldn’t make it home. That song came on and instantly I felt the Lord’s presence in my car and I knew I’d make it safely home.” — Tia T.

19. “Try” by Colbie Caillat

“It helps bring me back into realizing that I don’t have to be perfect to be beautiful. This song helped me out a lot… It helps control the thoughts in my head saying, ‘You’re too fat. No one likes you. You never do anything right. You’re ugly. You only look good with a bunch of makeup on.’ Colbie has some amazing songs that seem to help with depression and anxiety.” — Sara K.

20. “Days Like This” by Van Morrison

“It tells my brain that days like this happen and they will pass. Sometimes it’s a real struggle and other means are necessary to cope, but sometime this song can lift the darkening veil over my mind.” — Shane E.

21. “Why” by Rascal Flatts

“It hits home for me because I struggle with depression/anxiety and have attempted suicide before. This song just makes me feel better and important. The words honestly speak for themselves. This song has kept me safe and from hurting myself.” — Stefanie L.

22. “Oh My Soul” by Casting Crowns

“When my depression or anxiety gets really bad I used to ride it out alone and in the dark. I know that’s not healthy, but I didn’t want to burden my family. I got to the point where I couldn’t function and I wanted nothing more then to be done with everything — with the anxiety and the pain, but especially with life. This song helped me realize one more day was all I needed over and over no matter how many times it was needed. I just needed to get through this one day at a time and that I was not alone.” — Morissa S.

23. “Let Go” by Frou Frou

“I first heard this song while watching one of my favorite movies, ‘Garden State,’ which also helped me through my anxiety and depression at the time. Some of the lyrics include, ‘There’s beauty in the breakdown,’ and that really resonated with me and helped me to start looking for the potential for growth in my depression and anxiety. The song is so calming and just amazing for a million reasons.” — Rhyan P.

24. “Beautiful Thing” by Grace Vanderwaal

“It’s a song she wrote for her sister and how she is her other half and wouldn’t be here without her. It has helped me realize I have so many people that feel that way about me, or I feel about them.” — Braydee H.

25. “The Lonely” by Christina Perri

“This has been my go-to song for years, and especially this past year. I find myself laying in bed, crying and contemplating whether to continue to fight or not. I’ll listen to this song on repeat and just get out of that dark emotional state. This song speaks to depression perfectly, at least how I see it and live it every single day.” — Sara E.

26. “Anemone” by Joywave

“I was struggling for a long time and this song specifically helped my to claw myself back from a difficult place in my mind. The tune is very calming, which is the first thing I latched onto. The more I listened to it, the more I realized the lyrics were resonating with me as well. They can seem a little convoluted, but it felt to me as though each line was expressing a different emotion. It cycles from a suffocating, inescapable anxiety into a warm and comforting embrace, ending with the line, ‘I’ve never felt alive in company,’ which is relatable for me.” — Wendy M.

27. “All That You Are” by the Goo Goo Dolls

“It’s on the soundtrack for ‘Transformers Dark of the Moon’ and isn’t very well known, but the lyrics resonate with me. I actually got a tattoo of some of the lyrics that reads, ‘I’m so wrong; I feel human and flawed. I’ll break down even though I’m still strong.’ It reminds me every day that even though there are times when I break, I’m still strong. I also love their song ‘Iris’ and that helps me as well.” — Chelsea S.

28. “Grateful” by Rita Ora

“The song really puts into perspective how much I’ve been through to get to where I am currently. It reminds me to be grateful for all the bad as well as the good. And that’s something I need a constant reminder of — that I wouldn’t be the person I am today without my anxiety and depression.” — Taylor S.

29. “Reflection” by Tool

“[It] has always helped me. The lyrics actually reflect my experience coming out of depressive episodes; it is at first a song about despair, but it becomes a spiritual awakening. I could only hope everyone comes out strong and awakened like that.” — Jayson H.

30. “Us Against the World” by Coldplay

“I feel as though the song takes me away from my situation and just gives me a break from all the negative thoughts and stress and just gives me a little bit of a breather. No matter what time it was, when I needed a break, I hit play and it just takes me to what feels like another world.” — Millie M.

What would you add?

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What Recovery From Childhood Abuse Looks Like for Me


Editor’s note: If you have experienced physical or emotional abuse or suicidal thoughts, the following post could be potentially triggering. You can contact the Crisis Text Line by texting “START” to 741-741.

Since January, I have worked so hard to grow as a person, a period of strong self-discovery. Facing up to the pain I have held inside for 34 years, I am now in what I think I’d like to call recovery.

I believe living through childhood abuse, of any kind (for me, physical and emotional), can often mean you do not gain an identity. You can grow up with a hole that cannot be filled. You can become an adult who truly believes it was your fault, that you are damaged — broken so badly you’ll never be whole again. That your childhood self must have been as disgusting as you felt. I often feel like the man in the story where everything he touches turns to gold — this is the effect I felt I had on everything and everyone in my life. Ruining anything I come into contact with.

Recovery for me means not just knowing these things were not my fault, but believing it. I am at the stage where I am believing it. OK, it’s not all day every day — I’m not even sure I’ve had a whole day yet. But it’s a start.

Writing has helped me gain the identity I should have grown as a teenager. I realized over the past few days especially, that my mindset is changing. At times, I find myself suddenly making “self-care decisions” automatically. That is coming from a person who didn’t know what self-care was, other than in destructive ways.

And I guess, recovery therefore also has to include forgiveness. Forgiving myself. I can look back, and feel angry and upset at the ways I’ve treated myself, the things I’ve allowed my brain to tell me, the way I’ve left the bully in my head to continue the abuse me into my 30s. And believe me, I am angry and upset at myself. But what does that produce other than more anger and destructiveness?

A few years ago, my mental health nurse at the time told me she was amazed at the strength I must have to still be standing. I shrugged off her compliments. She then told me she could see me one day writing a book about my life, and how I have survived. She said I should be proud, and could inspire others. I shrugged that off too.

That mental health nurse, although her journey with me was short, helped me more than she’ll ever know.

I have frequently thought about her words, when I see how far I’ve come in my journey. A journey which started a few years ago, with training I had about safeguarding and attachment. My world crumbled around me, as I realized I had been one of those children who needed safeguarding. I was a child who had displayed disorganized attachment. This was the cause of my mental health issues. My core beliefs all stemmed from my childhood.

I tried to ignore these truths, but deep down I knew. I just knew. I had always known. Even at the age of 4 or 5, I knew. The abuse I endured was not as extreme as cases you hear about in the news, but it was still damaging in every sense. It destroyed every part of who I was, who I could have been and who I am now.

Recovery has meant letting go of who I could have been. It has meant letting go of what I have been though. Letting go has meant looking at who I am now, and acknowledging the pride I feel. I have survived. I have survived physical and emotional abuse. I have survived two complete mental breakdowns. I have survived such extreme pain due to hypermobile Ehlers-Dalos syndrome.

Most of all, my pride surrounds my parenting. There have been no concerns about my children in the whole 9 years I’ve been under the mental health team. In fact, I’ve been praised over and over that I am ensuring my girls have the life I deserved. They are happy, polite, funny, intelligent and a general joy to be around. They are well-behaved when we are out and strangers often compliment me about my children — which I am often so taken aback at. And all of this is not caused by fear. They do not fear a battering or verbal abuse, nor being bellowed at in their faces. All of this is down to good parenting and mutual respect.

I am not perfect, I have made mistakes. All parents do. But I have made genuine, heartfelt apologies to my children, with no strings attached. And yes, at home, they shout and scream and argue with me. At times I’ve been hit, and told I am hated. Not once have I ever retaliated with my fists, nor my words.

The hardest thing to let go of, has been my fantasies. Fantasy is one of the methods that kept me alive. I got lost in books — without those books I read over and over, I’d not be here. I’m sure of it. Matilda by Ronald Dahl was one of them. I have lost count of the times I’ve read it. We took my children to see the theatre production last year. I cried silently, watching my children — so full of joy, watching one of their favorite stories, safe… And as I silently cried, I started to let go of the “Miss Honey” fantasy. No one was coming to save me.

All of these steps of recovery have come with great periods of grief. So much that it suffocated me. Some days, even weeks, it still does. But I have been through enough to know at some point, I will fight through it.

The grief often emerges as flashbacks fill my mind, of me at my girls’ ages. The pang of pain, like I’ve been stabbed not only in the centre of my heart, but in the centre of my soul. One of the toughest parts too has been to learn the quickest way to deal with this pain is to let it come. To let it wash over me like a tsunami — to stand and face it, but to remain standing until it has lost its power. Tears normally help with this. Lots of tears. But there are still many times, functioning as a protective mechanism, that my brain disconnects from the pain and my emotions. I cannot cry.

It took 10 months of therapy to get me to even be able to cry at all. That psychologist told me, if she could prescribe me anything, it would be tears, four times a day, every day. I thought this was such a strange thing to say, and I was so determined to not let anyone see my pain, that I fought it for years. I look back and think, What a silly girl I was. But this is where the last piece of the puzzle fits in. I now look back with kindness. I understand. I can empathize and be compassionate to all of my younger selves. Even the ones I’ve spent my life wanting to destroy.

I wanted to share with you a poem I wrote at the end of February, and the significance it’s had in defining my recovery from childhood abuse. The words obsessively went round and round my head until I put them to paper. It’s one of the easiest things I’ve written, the words flowed onto the page so smoothly.

Recovery for me means this poem, these words, they are still inside. They still visit me. They always will. Recovery for me means accepting that. Recovery means believing these words. My own words. Words that came so easily to my paper.

I realize, finally, that I have saved myself.

Death is calling

Death, you are calling me.
You call my name,
Louder, louder, louder.
Death, some days, all I can hear is you calling my name.

Death, you intrigue me.
Why do you call my name so loudly?
You have called my name since my earliest memories.
Death, you are persistent, but so am I.

Death, sometimes I beg for you.
Please, just make it stop,
Louder, louder, louder.
Death, you taunt me, just make it stop.

Death, you pretend to be my answer.
I have held you in my hands,
Many, many times.
Death, you are a liar, I am stronger than you.

Death, I will laugh in your face,
Over, and over.
This is my life, my precious life.
Death, now is not the time, I am not ready.

Death, you still may taunt me,
You still may call my name,
Louder, louder, louder.
But death, I will reply with life… My life.

If you or someone you know needs help, visit our suicide prevention resources page.

If you need support right now, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or text “START” to 741-741.

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