People Are Sharing 'Bad' Coping Mechanisms in Viral Twitter Meme and It's Hilarious
When the going gets tough, the first thing that pops into your mind probably isn’t a healthy coping mechanisms you’ve been honing for months with your ever-patient therapist. In fact, you might default right back to some of the same unhelpful coping skills that landed you in therapy in the first place. The latest meme sweeping Twitter this month shows just how relatable some of those “bad” coping mechanisms really are.
By now you may have seen the format of this new meme. It starts by posting a line your therapist would say while trying to encourage you to use new coping skills in a difficult situation, like what you would do when you feel sad or stressed. The next line is your response, an unhelpful (yet hilarious) coping mechanism your therapist is most likely to shut down immediately. Here’s an example from Twitter user Priyanka Aribindi:
my therapist: and what do we do when a new meme format is sweeping across twitter?
me: I do the meme
my therapist: no
my therapist: and what do we do when a new meme format is sweeping across twitter?
me: I do the meme
my therapist: no
— Priyanka Aribindi (@priaribi) July 22, 2019
As you can imagine, Twitter had a heydey with the new meme from shrines dedicated to Nicholas Cage to self-care face masks gone wrong and the all-too-relatable moment when you shut out the people you love most after your stress kicks into high gear.
Therapist: And what do we say when we feel like this?
Me: COOOOKIES!!!!
Therapist: No
— Cookie Monster (@MeCookieMonster) July 23, 2019
therapist: and what do we do with our trauma?
me: give it to a character
character: NO
— rebecca mix says drink water (@wordmixrr) July 24, 2019
Therapist: “and what do we say when life disappoints us?”
Me: “called it”
Therapist: “no”
— Bree Escobar (@breevicc) July 16, 2019
My therapist: And what do we do when the Sunday scaries kick in?
Me: So many consecutive face masks I shed a layer of skin?
My therapist: No
— Ella Cerón (@ellaceron) July 21, 2019
therapist: and what do we do when we’re feeling stressed?
me: stop making plans, avoid text messages, and accidentally alienate myself from all of my friends
therapist: no
— Dani Donovan (@danidonovan) July 16, 2019
therapist: and what do we do when we are sad?
me: add to cart
therapist: no
— katelynn (@katelynn_rae01) July 18, 2019
therapist: and what do we do when we’re filled with existential dread?
me: keep refreshing twitter?
therapist: no— Sarah Lerner (@SarahLerner) July 15, 2019
my therapist: and what do we do when we feel like this?
me: identify the oppressive social systems responsible and dismantle the fuck out of them
my therapist: oh yeah that’s way better than what i was gonna say
— remi fuxaplenti ???? (@archangelcommie) July 21, 2019
Therapist: and what do we do when we feel sad?
Me: [holds up photo] go to my happy place
Therapist: no pic.twitter.com/N6EPuZlvSe
— Joshua Mauldin (@joshuamauldin) July 13, 2019
therapist: and what do we do when our hands are shaking?
me: turn them into jazz hands ????
therapist: no
— abbie (@abbiergnbm) July 18, 2019
therapist: so what do you do when you achieve something that you really wanted?
me: think of all the other things i wll never get to achieve
therapist: no
— touro vegano (@rexoitnb) July 24, 2019
therapist: and what do we do when we feel like this?
me: [googles hours of the local plant store]
therapist: no
— danny nett (@dannynett) July 16, 2019
Part of the reason this meme is so hilarious is because we’ve all been there. It’s hard to do what’s in our best interest when we’re overloaded emotionally. Even after years of therapy, it’s easy to default back to where we started. As Mighty contributor Anna Lente wrote in her article, “10 Reasons Why My Struggle With Mental Illness Will Make Me a Better Counselor,” using more effective coping skills is something that takes a lot of practice:
Over my 15 years of recovery, I have learned about an enormous number of coping skills, which I constantly practice. I will be able to share this knowledge with my clients. I have coping skills I’ve invented myself and have been effective for me. Coping skills are how I’m able to manage my illnesses.
What would your therapist meme say? Let us know in the comments!
And for some coping skills and self-care tips, check out these articles that helped others in The Mighty community:
Header image via Priyanka Aribindi’s Twitter