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What I Learned About Grief After Losing My Grandmother

Grief isn’t a map you follow; there are no set destinations you have to meet in order to heal in the right way. Grieving is different for every person who’s experienced loss. It’s a deeply personal experience and one you should allow yourself to feel. In the wake of loss you’ll likely feel and have a spectrum of emotions and thoughts. Feel all of it in its entirety.

Some days are going to be unbearable and feel like you can’t survive them; believe me you can. Remember you are strong enough to withstand anything.

Some days will feel like a daze, as if you aren’t apart of your body and things aren’t real. It’s important to stay connected to yourself and the supports around you.

Some days won’t feel so bad and you’ll feel guilty. That’s a natural reaction, but try and get some relief while you can. You aren’t forgetting them or dishonoring the memory of them, you are healing and moving forward.

The most important thing to remember is there is no wrong way to grieve nor is there a time frame on the grieving process. Everyone grieves in their own ways, no two people are alike. You can take comfort in knowing you’re never alone in your pain. Support is available when you’re ready. While I don’t believe time heals all wounds anymore, I do believe it lessons the blow of them, and I take heart in that.

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