Why Getting an ADHD Diagnosis at Age 30 Was a Gift

This year, right before my 30th birthday, I received a surprise gift — a diagnosis of ADHD. The diagnosis was an accidental finding, discovered while completing cognitive testing for an unrelated illness. After 30 years of living with undiagnosed ADHD, I have no regrets for not getting diagnosed sooner in life — but I do have to admit that it feels impactful to finally get an official label for my learning differences. Here is what the diagnosis of ADHD means to me:

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It revises my history from one of a difficult, messy and disorganized child, to one of a child succeeding despite challenges. It edits out the times I was told or believed I wasn’t trying hard enough or that I didn’t care enough or that I was just difficult, and highlights my grit and determination.

It gives me permission to use my energy more efficiently. Instead of constantly trying to a jam square peg into a round hole, I can now use the tools I have in my toolbox to whittle down the square peg so it can do the job I need it to do. The diagnosis does not give me an excuse to give up, but an understanding as to why I need to complete tasks in a way that is different than everyone else.

I now have a name for my superpowers. ADHD has made me solve problems more creatively, given me a more energetic and bubbly personality, and it has helped me become incredibly self-reflective. My ADHD has always made me unique, and the label helps me to better describe the contents of that uniqueness.

It validates my intuition. I always sensed that I was struggling with certain tasks more than others, but I was never sure if I was making a mountain out of a molehill. Receiving a diagnosis validates my own sense of knowing.

It helps me help others. As a mental health clinician, and a member of my community, having a diagnosis gives me the opportunity to be role model to my clients and neighbors who have similar challenges. Being aware of my diagnosis allows me to show others what is possible when you have the right supports and tools.

ADHD has been one of my greatest struggles and greatest strengths. Getting a diagnosis right before my 30th birthday has been one of the greatest gifts I have received.