In the commercial, a young girl named Emily describes what she imagines “The Wizard of Oz” to look like, and then it’s animated and brought to life before our eyes. Her interpretation of the classic film is strange, beautiful and completely captivating.
“I think about the shape,” Emily says in the video below. “I think about color, and I also think about sound. I take it into my brain, and I think about what would it look like to me.”
My daughter Namine is certainly no stranger to staring, but as she has gotten older she has become more attentive to when it happens.
We had to go to the grocery store the other day. As Namine and I waited for Jessica, we noticed two children staring at us (in all likelihood, more so at Namine than at me). One was probably too young to know better, but the other one definitely was not.
Namine raised her hand to say hello, but the children were dragged off by a person I assume was their mother before she had a chance.
Namine turned to look up at me. “Daddy, I don’t like it when people stare at me.”
“I know exactly what you mean, sweetie,” I replied. “But remember not everybody stares out of rudeness. Sometimes they just want to say ‘hi,’ and they don’t know how.”
I thought about how much it bothered me — and it still does, some days — when I’d catch people staring. But I have to remember my own advice, too.
I gathered my thoughts and continued, “The best way to respond to someone staring is to say hello. If they’re staring out of rudeness, then they’ll get embarrassed and leave. But if they’re staring because they don’t know how to say hi, then you’ll be showing them it’s okay.”
“Okay, Daddy,” she said. “I’ll say hi and show them how to be friends.”
Beth Fairchild has stage IV metastatic breast cancer, which means the cancer has spread from her breast to other parts of her body.She’s tired of seeing money spent on “pinkwashing” and awareness campaigns rather than on researching treatments that could help keep her and other stage IV patients alive. So she launched a social media rally, Stomp Out BC Monday, to make her message heard. All day Monday, March 2nd, she’s inviting everyone to use the hashtags #metsmonday, #bckills and #dontignorestageiv on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook to get the topic trending.
“It’s important that we’re heard because people are spending literally hundreds of thousands upon millions of dollars on pink ribbon merchandise, donating to Susan G. Koman, doing the walks for a cure,” Fairchild, who lives in Craven County, North Carolina, told WCTI12 News. “Two percent of the money [raised for breast cancer research] — 2 percent — goes toward research for [metastatic] treatments that keep me alive and for research that will find us a cure.”
In a film industry that tends to glamorize and oversimplify disease and disability, autism isn’t always accurately depicted. It’s a frustrating reality, especially if you know firsthand what it’s like to live with the condition.
The Mighty decided to take a look at seven films released over the last 30 years that received praise for how autism was portrayed. Take a look:
When his grandmother and caretaker passes away, Luke (Lou Taylor Pucci), a sheltered 25-year-old with autism, must learn to navigate an unfamiliar world. Luke determinedly sets out to find a job and fall in love.
In an interview with Disability Scoop, Alonso Mayo, the film’s writer and director, said students at the school his mother runs for people with developmental disabilities inspired him to write the script. “They wanted a girlfriend, they wanted to start living life on their own,” Mayo told Disability Scoop. “I started seeing these young adults having the same issues everyone else has around relationships and independence.”
This moving film centers on Jeanne (Beth Broderick) and her relationship with her daughter, Mandy (Ashley Rickards), a teenager with autism. As Mandy gets older and her needs change, Jeanne works to reconcile her own goals for daughter with what is actually best for Mandy.
Janet Grillo, the film’s writer and director who has a son with autism, told Bitch Media she hopes families who have children with autism find solace in having their stories told. “This is a community that has been in a great deal of pain and continues to be engaged in a very profound struggle,” Grillo said. “I felt it was important for us, first and foremost, to honor through storytelling.” She added that she sees the film as a tool of activism and hopes it has an impact on the way society views adults with autism.
This romantic comedy centers on Adam (Hugh Dancy), an electronics engineer with autism who strikes up a relationship with Beth (Rose Byrne), his upstairs neighbor.
Adams exhibits obsessive behavior, social awkwardness and a tendency to feel overwhelmed that’s characteristic of people on the spectrum. In a review for The New York Times, Jeanette Catsoulis wrote that Dancy’s performance is “credibly eccentric yet still accessible” and that the actor “reflects a mind drawn to symmetry and familiarity. So when the dreamy Beth moves into his building and his life, Adam… is forced to develop a whole new set of coping skills.”
This clay-animated black comedy begins in Australia in 1976, when Mary Dinkle (Bethany Whitmore), an 8-year-old who has trouble fitting in, picks up a New York City telephone book, chooses Max Jerry Horowitz’s name at random and writes him a letter. Max (Phillip Seymour Hoffman), 44-year-old man, initially experiences an anxiety attack upon receiving Mary’s letter but decides to write back, and the two strike up a lifelong friendship.
Preferring to be referred to as an “Aspie,” Max sees nothing wrong with his condition. He writes to Mary (clip below), “I do not feel disabled, defective or a need to be cured. I like being an Aspie. It would be like trying to change the color of my eyes.”
“The Black Balloon” portrays an Australian family with two sons. The oldest brother, Charlie (Luke Ford), has autism and ADD. Having just moved to Sydney, the younger brother, 15-year-old Thomas (Rhys Wakefield), is desperate to make friends and live a normal life, but Charlie constantly embarrasses him. With the help of his new girlfriend, Jacki (Gemma Ward), he learns to accept his brother for who he is and stops trying to hide such a big part of what defines his family.
The film depicts the nuances of what it’s like to live with someone who has autism. Charlie can be lovable and endearing, but he also throws tantrums, screaming and inflicting physical harm on his family members. “The story elements of ‘The Black Balloon’ could have been manipulated to make the film false and cute,” Roger Ebert wrote in his review. “The film tries to be true. The uplift comes in how the family and Jackie respond to Charlie… They are focused on doing what needs to be done. Charlie is theirs.”
With his father dead and his mother unable to care for her children on her own, Gilbert Grape (Johnny Depp) becomes the primary caregiver for his younger brother, Arnie (Leonardo DiCaprio), a teenager who has autism. Gilbert becomes fiercely protective of Arnie, who, because he doesn’t understand social expectations and norms, is always getting into some kind of trouble.
Simon Baron-Cohen, the director of the Autism Research Center at Cambridge University, wrote that “the film has a powerful message for our society, which remains just as relevant today: that people with autism need huge levels of support and so do their (often overlooked and forgotten) families.”
Eric Gibb (Jay Underwood), a teenager with nonverbal autism, has a tendency to stand on rooftops and window ledges as if he can fly. His behavior alarms those around him, but when he saves Milly (Lucy Deakins), the 14-year-old girl who moved in next door, from a deadly fall, everyone begins to wonder if he really can fly after all.
This film is notable for demonstrating how people with nonverbal autism communicate with others before communication technology and devices were more widely available. “One of the things that appealed to me in ‘The Boy Who Could Fly’ is that the kid doesn’t speak,” Underwood told The Orlando Sentinel. “I would have to rely on other things rather than just my voice, like facial expressions and body language.”
How well do you think these films represented autism? Let us know in the comments below.
Read about “Rain Man” and other films that portray disability here.
When you first entered our lives you took over everything. All of us. My son, TJ, obviously, but also his brother, Peter, me and his dad, Sean. You controlled everything. But thankfully, over time and with a lot of research and learning, you’re now just another part of our lives. You’re no longer all encompassing. You’ve helped us become a stronger family and better parents. You’ve brought some wonderful people into our lives. You’ve helped us to learn not to take anything for granted and that even the smallest of accomplishments is cause for celebration. You’ve made a lot of things clearer for us. You’ve helped us separate the things that really matter from the things that simply don’t.
We’ve weeded a lot out of our former lives to make room for you. You’re messy sometimes — really messy — but there are lessons for all of us, even during those times. And finally, you’ve helped us understand both of our boys even better than we would have otherwise.
You’ve been a troublemaker, autism, but you’re also a gift in so many ways. And you’re a part of all of us forever. Just a part — you’re not everything. But for that part, I want to thank you for bringing out the strength and power in all of us Jordans. We’re a mighty force to be reckoned with because of you!
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