Without Saying a Word, Military Wife Spreads Heartbreaking Message

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Without uttering a single word, Stephanie Lembo made a heartbreaking video to send a message about military suicide.

Her husband and father of her two sons, Anthony Lembo, died by suicide five years ago.

Using a mixture of handwritten and printed cards, she explains in the video (below) that when she met her husband in 2005 it was love at first sight, and they were married six months later. Anthony was in the Navy, but when he got back from a training in November 2010, he was, according to Lembo, “a completely different person.”

“The symptoms were there,” her card reads. “I didn’t know what to do.”

After his death she looked up his symptoms and realized her husband was probably experiencing post-traumatic stress disorder and sleep deprivation. Now, her mission is to spread awareness about PTSD.

In a call to action at the end of the video, she suggests educating military wives and their families about the warning signs of suicide, and making it easier for veterans/active service members to seek help outside the VA.

Watch the moving video below: 

 

On November 7th, Active Heros is hosting a walk in honor of Lembo’s husband. You can donate to the cause here.

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You’ll Love How This Tot With Down Syndrome Became a Model

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Ellie Stafford is a model to her family — and now to the world.

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The 2-year-old from Aurora, Oregon, who has Down syndrome, is clearly photogenic, although her mother, Tiffany Stafford, never really thought to pursue a modeling career for her daughter, Statesman Journal reported.

It wasn’t until her two older boys, 6 and 8, spotted a girl with Down syndrome in a toy ad for Target that Stafford realized how beneficial it would be for them to see more people like their sister in the media.

“I like the idea of her face being seen and other kids with disabilities to see that and say, ‘Hey, that’s like me,'” Stafford told Statesman Journal. “It’s like she’s just any other kid.”

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Ellie got involved with modeling through Changing The Face Of Beauty, an organization co-founded by Katie Driscoll, a photographer and mother of six, including a daughter with Down syndrome. Driscoll decided to take action after failing to find advertisements showing kids with disabilities and has since launched a global campaign to make advertisements more inclusive.

“I believe globally we’re changing the way people look at models as well as people with differences,” Driscoll previously told The Mighty in an email, “and that makes me so very happy.”

To see more photos of Ellie, view the Statesman Journal photo gallery here

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Bully Attacks Boy With Autism Because of His Shoes, ‘Sneakerheads’ Respond

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Jonathan Moran has more than a few supporters on his side (and his feet).

The 12-year-old from Linden, New Jersey, has autism, and was only at his new school for about a week when a bully attacked him on the school bus, WIAT News reported.

[He] started making fun of my sneakers and calling me fat, plus he called me stupid,” Jonathan told the outlet. “[He] started punching me, he broke my glasses, split my lip and gave me bruises around my face.”

The story touched the EMT and firefighters who treated Jonathan and then drove him home. They decided to surprise him with sneakers, a t-shirt, socks and a wooden American flag.

But they weren’t the only ones who Jonathan’s story struck a chord with.

 

Devlin Braswell, a student at the Fashion Institute of Design & Merchandising in San Francisco, read about Jonathan on a website about shoes called Sole Collector.

Braswell, who also runs his own custom sneaker business, FBCC, posted on Instagram about how Jonathan’s story moved him. He decided to put together a care package of shoes and clothing to send to Jonathan.

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“When I read the story I was heartbroken because it was yet another story about a child getting bullied over his shoes,” Braswell told The Mighty in an email. “I didn’t know Jonathan was autistic until the end of the story but I had already made up in my mind I was going to send him some new shoes.”

Braswell contacted Jonathan’s mother, Hope Moran, to find out Jonathan’s shoe size and address. The package, which is en route, includes seven pairs of shoes as well as some shirts and jackets.

“I wanted to send him seven pairs of new shoes so every day of the week he could wear a new pair, if he wanted to,” Braswell told The Mighty. “I don’t know why but in my head I was like, ‘I bet no bully has seven pair of new shoes at once…’ I genuinely hate to see anyone getting picked on because of what they don’t have, especially materialistic items. We have to treat each other better at the end of the day. Instead of putting each other down we should be picking each other up.”

Moran expressed her gratitude to Braswell for his kindness.

It’s been amazing,” she told Sole Collector. “I think Jonathan’s going to have shoes for the rest of his life… I can’t imagine his face when he sees this box of sneakers.”

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Target Shows Halloween Is for Children of All Abilities

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Target is once again being commended for its inclusion of people with disabilities in advertisements.

The retailer’s Halloween ad this year features a little girl dressed as Elsa from Disney’s “Frozen” and using a mobility aid, CBS Los Angeles reported. The little girl has spina bifida.

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Lucy Castillo, 8, also has spina bifida, and she’s planning on being Elsa for Halloween this year as well. Her mother, Elizabeth Castillo, appreciated Target’s effort to show her daughter kids she can relate to.

I think it kind of just shows her it’s possible for her, too,” Castillo told CBS News. “You don’t see it often, and when she’s out, everybody kind of stares at her… They’re kids, just like everybody else. My daughter can do anything that any other little girl can do.”

This isn’t the first time Target has included differently-abled people in its advertisements, and the retailer says it will continue to showcase the diversity of its community.

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Applebee’s Employee With Autism Reportedly Unpaid for a Year

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Caleb Dyl, from Middleton, Rhode Island, has been working three days a week at a local Applebee’s for about a year, but he is reportedly yet to be paid for any of his work.

The 21-year-old has autism and was placed in a training program by a state-funded organization called Resources for Human Development (RHD), WPRI 12 News reported. His initial placement in the training program at the restaurant was without pay to see if he took to the position of prep cook, however, Dyl was supposed to start receiving minimum wage in August of 2014 for the part-time job. His job coaches reported that he was a “capable and tireless” worker.

Despite several inquires by Dyl’s parents to RHD, the checks never came and Applebee’s says they were completely unaware of the matter until WPRI 12 News called to inquire.

Eleanor Clancy, regional director of operations for the Applebee’s chain, said a check will be mailed to Caleb Dyl for 166 hours of work as soon as possible. Dyl did not clock in for work, so the 166 hours is an estimate based on records kept by RHD for the job coaches who went to the restaurant with him. Dyl’s parents estimate their son worked about 350 hours.

He was enjoying the job, so we really weren’t focused on the income so much,” Caleb Dyl’s father, Bob Dyl, told the outlet. “But after that amount of time, you kind of wonder what’s going on.”

WPRI 12 News reached out to RHD for comment, but we were told confidentiality regulations restrict any comment about the case. The Mighty has reached out to the Applebee’s for comment but have not yet heard back.

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7 Ways Having a Child With Down Syndrome Makes My Life Better

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We have celebrated three incredible years with our son, Knightly, our little knight in shining armor.

As I look back, I’ve discovered a simple truth: having a child with Down syndrome makes life better. Here are some of the ways:

1. I’ve enjoyed the baby stage longer.

Sometimes my jaw drops when I hang out with kids the same age as Knightly. When did they become these running, talking, complicated little adults having full on conversations, driving cars, buying houses and getting jobs?! Or whatever the other typical things 2-year-olds do nowadays.

Usually around the time I start to dwell on when Knightly will get to that stage, Knightly happily babbles and waddles over to me to give me a hug. He’s quite content at his pace of development. And I’m filled with joy holding my little cuddly marshmallow for more time than a typical parent might.

2. Every milestone is a big party.

When Knightly finally rolled over for the first time, it was like winning an Academy Award. Whenever your child shows a new skill, as small as it may seem to anyone else, you know how hard they’ve worked and how hard you’ve worked to get there — and it’s truly amazing. My heart jumps with joy every time, and I’m in awe of how much a miracle each milestone is.

3. My child changed my worldview and constantly pulls me out of the rat race.

Hello, I’m Drexelle and I’m an overachievaholic.

I believe one of God’s greatest gifts was giving me a child with special needs to rock my worldview and constantly pull me out of the rat race I so love to join in on. 

I’ve heard this from many other parents and have found it true for me. Greater than any education or class I’ve attended, Knightly has been my best teacher of what it means to be a better human. He slows and steadies me. He makes me stop and smell the roses (or, more likely in his case, grab for all nearby living things and objects).

At times, I’ve found strangers staring at his inability to do something, and as I grow self-conscious about how they feel about him or what they think, he’ll surprise them by blowing them a kiss. And they smile. And inside I couldn’t be any prouder.

4. My child has made me a fighter.

I was a hopeless people pleaser ’til Knightly was born. Confrontation felt so impossible for me. But becoming a mother makes you stronger (biologically and emotionally). And becoming a mother to a child of special needs pushes you into scenarios where you become a fighter.

Whether it’s at the doctor’s office, with insurance, with schools, with specialists, with random strangers or even family, you learn to have a voice and to use it loudly when needed. You have to fight for your child, and you’ll get opportunities to practice and get better at doing so.

5. I’ve gotten awesome parenting advice.

As a first-time parent, I can’t rave enough about how helpful all the therapists, doctors, nurses and specialists have been in teaching us how to become better parents and how to raise, grow, discipline and challenge our child.

Since Knightly was 6 weeks old, we’d see at least five therapists in specialized playtime at early intervention every week. And every week, we were able to bring up any parenting question we had — whether it was on teething, sleep training or behavioral issues, they’ve been absolutely invaluable.

And even more importantly, the people who have helped us along the way have been there with so much love, inspiration and encouragement. They’ve held my hand and kept my head up high through some of my toughest moments of grief. I know if we have other children, we’ll be putting to use everything we’ve learned from Knightly’s therapies to our next child.

That poor child.

6. I’ve joined a community that became my family.

It’s been called Joining the Club You Never Knew You’ve Always Wanted to Be a Part Of — and it’s true.

The parents we’ve met through Knightly’s therapies and through the support groups we’ve joined have been walking answers to prayer. They’ve become like family. We’ve seen each other go through incredible ups and some horrendously hard downs. We cry over each other’s hardships. We scream and cheer when each other’s kids accomplish a milestone. We understand each other’s journeys. And we’ve made lifelong friends (in fact, we’re already arranging marriages among our children).

It’s incredible to watch these kids and to know these families have watched Knightly grow since he was just a few weeks old.

7. I get to be my child’s parent.

Since the first heartbeat, baby belly kick and moment I held him in my arms, I couldn’t believe this child was mine. But he is. And this baby has taught and challenged me more in life than I ever would’ve imagined. As he waddles and falls down and gets back up and smiles with wonder at the world, I get to view his world more closely than if he were just some kid I’d heard about or someone else’s kid I knew. Every day, I get to see his journey and watch him grow. And I thank God that I get to be a part of it — that I get to celebrate it.

I thank God that, at the end of the day, I get to hold him in my arms, sing a lullaby and tuck him into bed at night to sleep. And that every morning, as soon as I open his door, I’ll see him standing up in his crib, smiling and reaching his arms out for me to hold him again.

When I first heard his diagnosis of trisomy 21 two years ago, all I could do was cry, praying to God that He would cure my baby and take it all away. But if it weren’t for Knightly having Down syndrome, I wouldn’t have met so many people who’ve moved, inspired and encouraged me and become dear friends to me. I wouldn’t have developed the panic disorder that caused me to be challenged, faced fears, get fit and ultimately start pursuing my lifelong dream of writing and speaking. My husband wouldn’t have turned his life upside down. He, a man who never cared to exercise before Knightly was born, now works out seven days a week to train for an Ironman.

I believe so many of the great things God has brought our way these past three years were because we got to be Knightly’s parents. And despite the hardships you might have to face as a parent to a child with special needs, your story will have those great moments, too. And those moments would’ve never happened if you hadn’t walked this path as your child’s parent.

This is dedicated to parents who have just found out their child has a special need. You are in for an incredible journey.

Follow this journey on Drexelle.com.

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