36 Texts People With Fibromyalgia Would Love to Get From Their Best Friends


In the midst of a tough moment, you don’t always want to hear advice, however well-meaning. Sometimes what you need the most is your best friend saying, in so many words, “I’m here for you.” Knowing you’re cared for and supported — even if it’s through a random, middle-of-the-day, just-thinking-about-you text — can make all the difference.

We asked members of the National Fibromyalgia Association community what text messages they’d love to receive from their best friends. Their answers are so powerful — and so needed. We’ve included some of them below.

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Here’s hoping everyone receives a text like this today, no matter what they’re going through.

1.

“I'm spending the entire day with you doing anything you'd like to to get your mind off your pain.”
Submitted by Amy Paris

2.

"Are you OK? I know physically you're hurt, but emotionally are you OK?”
Submitted by Samantha Emmons Popowitch

3.

"Just wanted to let you know that even when you are a woman down for the moment, you run circles around everyone else when it comes to loving me and contributing to my life.”
Submitted by Kristen Chazaud

4.

“No matter what you are going through, I love and care about you! I will always be your friend.”
Submitted by Deb Henderson Blanchard

5.

“I'm bringing you some food. What would you like?”
Submitted by RoyandAlaina Douglass

6.

“Let's do nothing together.”
Submitted by Nicole Michelle

7.

"Hey, how are you feeling?”
Submitted by Kylie-Sky Lindsey

8.

“Do you think I would bail if things get tough? No, it’s tough luck on your part, as I am here to stay. When you need support, I am here. And when you can no longer support yourself, I will carry you.”
Submitted by Siobhan Bernadin

9.

“You're not alone, and you're not invisible.”
Submitted by Judith Phillips

10.

"I'm so sorry you're hurting so bad. What do you need? Company? Peace and quiet? Booze and chick flick? Just say the word, and I'll be there!”
Submitted by Pamela List Myhree

11.

I have a big shoulder if you need one to lean on.
Submitted by Cheri O’Dell

12.

      “You are the Chuck Norris of fibro!”

13.

“I know you don't feel well, and I want to do something to help you or make you happy. Tell me what you need today, and I'll do it. You don't have to do anything you don't feel up to.”
Submitted by Cheryl Lynn Gray- McCann

14.

“I know you're in pain, but you are truly a warrior in my eyes. You struggle every day with pain, work and taking care of the house. So today I'm going to take care of the housework and dinner for you while you relax with a professional massage and a pampering day.”
Submitted by Tammy Akers

15.

“I know you’re not OK, even when you say you are. I'm here for you to lean on when you need it most. I'll help give you the strength you need to get through this.”
Submitted by Stacie Reeves

16.

“I would love to hug you, but that may not be possible today. I still love you and try to understand how you feel.”
Submitted by Anne Palethorpe

17.

“I will stick with you through thick and thin. I will never leave you, no matter how bad things get for you. Your pain is not only real, but I see the devastating effects it's having on your body. Just know I love you always.”
Submitted by Donna C LeBlanc

18.

"I'm here."
19.
“I believe you, I believe in you. Let me help you carry your load for a while ’til you're able to again.”
Submitted by Becki Wolf Williams

20.

“When I don’t understand, explain it. I want to know. When I don't understand what you need, tell me. I want to help. When you just need me to love you, remind me that the other stuff can wait. I love you, I’m with you and I always will be.”
Submitted by Faith Anne

21.

"I wish I had a magic wand to make all of your pain go away.”
Submitted by Linda Groome Vincent

22.

“I love you, I'm sorry you're not feeling well today. Is there anything I can do to make your day better?”
Submitted by Angela Worsley

23.

“If you're hurting, please tell me. I don't know what it feels like, but I want to be here for you. I want to understand what you're going through. I'm on your side. You are not in this alone.”
Submitted by Paula Medina Park Lane

24.

"You're doing a good job!”
Submitted by Grace Edwards

25.

“Make room on the bed because I'm coming to sit with you, and I'm bringing coffee. I'm not going to look at your house, so don't you dare worry about cleaning anything. I just want to chat, or watch a movie, or whatever you need. I can even take the kids so you can nap if that helps.”
Submitted by Melinda Charlton Cassel

26.

“It's not your fault you hurt and are exhausted. You're not imagining it, nor are you being lazy. Take the day off, stay in bed and read or sleep as your energy allows. Take care of yourself the same way you would take care of the person you love most in the world.”
Submitted by Harriet Levy

27.

“I want you to know I've done some research on your condition, and although I can't possibly know what you're going through, I believe you, and I love you. We'll get through this together.”
Submitted by Sherry VerWey Sweeney

28.

“Please let me stop by and bring you and your family dinner. I don't care what your house looks like — just lie down with your heating pad and rest. What else can I do to help?”
Submitted by Suzanne Shaft

29.

“Honey, I know you did what you could handle today. Don't worry about dinner, I'm taking you out. How about a nice back rub when we get home? No strings attached!”
Submitted by Mary Jo Snyders Duffy

30.

“Thinking of you.”
Submitted by Kristin Sciarappa

31.

“Hey girl, I was just driving past the Dairy Queen, and I could just hear that Butterfinger Blizzard calling your name, so I'm bringing it to you now!”
Submitted by Sandra Wyatt-Casey

32.

“Don't worry about meeting me out for drinks. I'm on my way with a bottle of wine and takeout. And I'm wearing my PJs, so no need to change!”
Submitted by Tamara Joy Smith

33.

“Fibromyalgia does not define you. Do not let it think it does.”
Submitted by Kimberly Jones

34.

“I know your needs change from flare to flare. Tell me what you need this time and I’m on my over with it.”
Submitted by Sheri Fitzgerald

35.

You are the strongest person I know.
Submitted by Linda Warner

36.

"You've got this, and I've got you.”
Submitted by Debi Johnson

Editor’s note: Some answers have been edited for brevity and clarity.

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