17 Texts People With Social Anxiety Would Love to Get After Canceling Plans


For people with social anxiety, getting invited to a party or even a simple get together isn’t as simple as, “Let me check my calendar.” Social anxiety is an extreme fear of being scrutinized and judged by others, and when someone with this kind of anxiety disorder “flakes” on a plan, it’s not because they don’t care about their friends — there’s probably something more going on.

We asked people in our community who live with social anxiety to tell us one text they’d love to receive after canceling plans — because the last thing someone with social anxiety needs is more guilt.

If you have friends with social anxiety, here’s what they might need to hear:

1.

"I understand, and I'm not angry. We'll try again if you're feeling up to it."

2.

No problem! Please let me know when you are able to hang out. Is it OK to keep inviting you to events? I want to make sure you're in the loop!

3.

Take all the time you need. 4. 

That's totally fine. If you think you need to talk things through, just text.

 

5. 

Would you like to do something one-on-one?

 

6. 

I understand and I don't hold it against you.

7.

We'll miss you! Don't feel bad about canceling. We will always keep inviting you.

8.  No problem! I'll take a rain check.

9.  I'm always here if you need me. Alright, talk to you soon!

10.

I may not understand your anxiety, but I do understand it's difficult for you, and I appreciate that you're taking care of yourself..

11.

Don't worry, we'll find something fun to do that works for you.

12.

It's OK. It's not your fault and I completely understand. Stay strong.

 

13.

I will miss you, but I totally understand. Take care of yourself.

 

14.

What can we do instead that won't be too overwhelming?

15.

I'm so glad you're doing what you need to do to take care of yourself!

16.

I'm here for you whenever to do whatever.

17. 

I could just come over and hang out if that makes you feel more comfortable. Please let me know how I can help.

Editor’s note: Not everyone experiences anxiety in the same way. These answers are based on individuals’ experiences.

 


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