What I Want People Who Touch My Wheelchair Without Permission to Know


For over a year now, my condition has meant that I’ve started to use a wheelchair more frequently, and this has definitely taught me a lot about the people around me and strangers in the street. Sometimes it’s difficult to self-propel myself in my chair, and I’ll ask family members to help me. This is totally OK. However, what isn’t OK is people just randomly starting to push me. This goes for family members and strangers.

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Shona in her wheelchair.

Just because you know me well, that doesn’t give you the right to start pushing me without my permission. When I use my wheelchair, it becomes part of me, and if you start touching it or moving it without asking, it makes me feel extremely uncomfortable and anxious.

What makes me even more angry, though, is strangers in shops, mainly in lines, pushing me forward a little or standing really close. I can only go so fast when I’m using my chair, and I’m quite often moving as fast as I can so I don’t hold others up, so please stop trying to give me little pushes to speed me up.

There are also the people who feel it’s OK to lean on my wheelchair. Let me tell you that is most definitely not OK. As I’ve already pointed out, my chair is part of me and replaces my legs when I use it. You wouldn’t come up to me and start touching my legs, would you?

The public can be so uneducated when it comes to how to respond to someone in a wheelchair, so I’m almost willing to accept that it might not entirely be someone’s fault.

To put it simply, unless I give you permission, please don’t touch my chair or attempt to push me in any way shape or form. You probably wouldn’t like it if I start wheeling into you, so please don’t do it to me.

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