Valentine's Cards in the Store Won't Say What I Need Them to as a Person With Depression


I have always loved Valentine’s Day. Loved the idea of it. I haven’t celebrated many, but now I have an amazing partner who celebrates with me.

The issue is what do you say, write or do that explains how you feel? Love is personal. Love comes in many different forms. And loving some one who has difficult mental health issues can be shown in many different ways.

Also expecting someone’s love when you have mental health can be really difficult too, especially if you don’t feel too great about yourself.

This year I wanted to use Valentine’s Day as a way of saying a big thank you to my partner.

But there are no Valentine’s cards that thank you for reminding me to take my medication every day or for making sure I shower. Or balloons that say “I love the way you hold my hands when I want to hurt myself.”

I have decided to plan Valentine’s evening in advance so I can have a calm and happy time. And I’ll write the following in a card: thank you for loving me even when I can’t.

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