I Don't Self-Harm Because I Want 'Attention'

You know how people say you are an “attention seeker” when they talk about self-harm? I’m really sick of hearing this stuff and I’m done with ignoring it.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not promoting self-harm and I’ve been self-harm free for almost four years now, but it just keeps bugging me when I hear people say this.

I read it on the internet, I hear it in videos and all around me. But people need to realize how wrong this statement is.

If I was “seeking attention,” would I be hiding my scars?

If I was “seeking attention,” would I be ashamed about it?

If I was “seeking attention” would I never tell people about it?

If I was “seeking attention” would I tell people to stay out of it and mind their own business?

If I was “seeking attention” would I still be in therapy every week?

If I was “seeking attention” would I still be struggling with this every single day?

I don’t self-harm for attention.

I truly hope people will see this as a truth one day, because no one needs to hear they are “seeking attention” when they can’t help it.

If you or someone you know needs help, visit our suicide prevention resources page.

If you struggle with self-harm and you need support right now, call the crisis hotline at 1-800-273-8255 or text “START” to 741-741. For a list of ways to cope with self-harm urges, click here.

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