When My Disability Went From Visible to Invisible


“Eliana the camel has two humps.” That’s the chant I heard more than once as a teen. I don’t think it was meant to hurt my feelings, but it did. At that point, I lived with a very visible difference and with it came the stigma behind it. I was Eliana “the camel,” and I did have two humps. As kids, as people in general, it’s hard to see past what is visibly in front of us. It’s hard to see a person beyond their visible disability, because it’s so clearly there. How do we look away? I get it. I am a person too. I am not free from judgments. But what I’ve found to be interesting throughout my life living with scoliosis is that the stigma that came with my scoliosis was mostly erased after I had surgery (that is of course, with a few exceptions).

Prior to having my scoliosis surgery, I lived with two very visible spinal deformities. At first, I did as much as I could to hide them. I would wear baggy clothing, and I tried my hardest never to show off my shoulders. I was uncomfortable in my own skin and I didn’t want anybody else to see it. Eventually, I grew out of that stage and became a teenager, and just like everyone else, I wanted to blend in. I too wanted to wear spaghetti strap shirts and form-fitting clothes. It was my desire to look and dress like everyone else that made it easier for the world to see my scoliosis, and it was virtually impossible for me to blend in like the other kids. As soon as my scoliosis became visible to the world it came accompanied by stigma. But, it wasn’t like I was stigmatized by everyone. It was mostly people who I didn’t really know or who didn’t want to know me because of it. Stigma came because I was different. I didn’t look like everyone else, and that was difficult for people to accept and move past.

Post-surgery, my scoliosis was no longer visible, and because it was no longer visible, it was as if the world saw me completely differently. My deformity disappeared and so did most of the stigma I once felt. It was as if my disability went from very visible to invisible, which seems like a great thing, but having an invisible disability makes it harder for people to empathize with my condition. There are times when I tell someone I have scoliosis and it’s as if they do not take the condition seriously. They can’t see anything wrong with me, and thus the severity of my condition is presumed to not be so bad. Though I don’t live with the stigmas I once lived with, I do live with an invisible disability, and living with an invisible disability can be just as isolating.

Being stigmatized is isolating and extremely challenging, but it’s just as challenging living with an invisible disability. Being aware of scoliosis and all that comes with it and offering support and compassion can free people from the isolating feelings that can arise. All it takes is one person to make a difference in the life of someone else.

This story was originally posted on The Curvy Spine.

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