The 4 Words That Showed Me Someone Cared When I Was Struggling With Depression


Several years ago, I went through a deep spell of depression. I felt hopeless. I found myself on the edge of giving up. I decided to talk to two people: my doctor and a priest.

My doctor gave me medication. I told the priest upfront that I am not Catholic, but I thought he might understand. He talked to me for more than an hour before asking for my phone number. He asked me if he could text me. I said yes.

For the next month, almost every day he texted me “How are you doing?” And I answered honestly. Sometimes I rambled on. A few hours later, I would receive another text, “How are you doing now?”

He gave me advice only when I requested. He didn’t try to change me. He didn’t try to save me. All he did was ask “How are you doing?” Those four words told me at least one person cared.

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