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6 Signs of Depression We Need to Talk About

Depression is a difficult condition to live with. It’s even more difficult when it makes you feel alone. For years I was feeling what I thought no one else felt, what I though no one else was going through.

But today, I am here to tell you that you are not alone, and what you are feeling is what so many other people are going through right now.

When you think of depression, you may immediately think, “sadness,” but that is most certainly not the only sign. Depression is made up of so many other symptoms. In my experience, I’ve had times when I felt all the other symptoms of depression, without the “depressed” aspect. And for a while, I thought I was the only one. Here are a few symptoms you may be experiencing that people don’t often talk about.

1. Irritability

I have always noticed that before I get depressed, I always get extremely irritable. This is something not a lot of people want to talk about because they often don’t want people to judge them for having an attitude or short temper. However, it is perfectly OK to have your irritable days. People need to be aware we’re not being mean or short because we are upset with them, it may just be a symptom of depression or a medication side effect. This can also be a warning sign in children and teens, and may be important to note if you notice this in your children or loved ones.

2. Restlessness

Another symptom I get before I get depressed is restlessness. I often find myself unable to relax or enjoy the things I used to enjoy because I am so on edge. I feel like no one talks about this symptom because a lot of people are unaware it can be influenced by depression. This is a another big warning sign for me that I am getting depressed, and if I start to experience this along with the irritability, I might consider talking to my doctor.

3. Lack of motivation

One of the most common signs of depression is withdrawal from activities and lack of motivation, but no one ever discusses what that means. Withdrawal from activities just means that things you were once enjoying doing, you have now put aside. Also, you may experience lack of motivation as well, when you can’t get yourself to do anything worthwhile.

4. Excessive sleeping

One of my biggest warning signs that I am getting depressed is excessive sleeping. If I notice I am sleeping more than 10 hours, it is most likely because of my depression. Everyone needs different amounts of sleep, so if you start to notice you are sleeping more than normal, it may be a good idea to check in on it. This is another one of those signs if you notice this in yourself, you may want to talk to someone.

5. Lack of self-care

Probably the least talked about sign of depression is lack of self-care. For me, this is my biggest warning sign, and most likely the one that will encourage me to talk to someone. Having depression is exhausting and oftentimes we just don’t feel up to taking off our makeup or brushing our hair. This is the truth about depression. It gets ugly. It gets gross, but we all go through it, so why not talk about it. If you are currently experiencing this, I want you to know you are not the only one.

6. Self-harm and suicidal thoughts

In honor of Suicide Prevention Month, I wanted to spend some time talking about self-harm and suicidal thoughts. These are often completely ignored until it’s too late. So many people are struggling with self-destructive thoughts. You are not alone. If you are having these thoughts or think you may harm yourself, please do not hesitate to seek help. Your life is so worth it.

These are some signs we experience but are often overlooked. If you or a loved one is currently experiencing these symptoms and have never received treatment, I encourage you to talk to your doctor. You could save a life, or you could save yourself.

Remember, you are not alone.

If you or someone you know needs help, visit our suicide prevention resources page.

If you need support right now, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or text “START” to 741-741.

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