Our Journey After Our Son's Tetralogy of Fallot Diagnosis


My son Tristan was born on December 5, 2011. His heart defect was picked up after a neonatologist still heard a heart murmur three days after he was born. It can be normal for a murmur to be heard for the first two days after birth, but longer than that becomes a concern. Our neonatologist decided to have him sent for an echocardiogram, and at that time it was determined that Tristan had Tetralogy of Fallot and would need at least one open-heart surgery in his lifetime. The first would be before 6 months old.

The author holding her newborn son

Tetralogy of Fallot is comprised of four heart defects. According to the Adult Congenital Heart Association, this means:

  • “A hole in the wall between your heart’s main pumping chambers (ventricular septal defect or VSD)”
  • “A valve between your heart and lungs that is too narrow (pulmonary stenosis or PS)”
  • “A right heart chamber with walls that are too thick (right ventricular hypertrophy)”
  • “A major blood vessel (aorta) that is misplaced or moved (overriding aorta)”

Tristan was becoming increasingly symptomatic as he grew as an infant, even with the highest dose of his beta blocker medication to help his heart function. It was determined that his surgery date would be moved up to 4 months of age. He recovered well from his first surgery, only staying in the hospital five days.

Once home, he was on round-the-clock medication, we could not pick up our infant under the arms for two months, and we had to take many precautions to keep him healthy.

We went about a year without any interventions, and at age 2 1/2, when I was almost nine months pregnant with our second son, we found out that Tristan would need another open-heart surgery soon to replace his pulmonary valve. His valve was leaking severely, which was causing the left side of his heart to enlarge. If we did not replace his valve, he would go into heart failure and have permanent heart damage.

The surgeon apologized to me and told me he never had to break the news to someone so pregnant before. Once surgery came, I divided my time between being at the hospital and being with my newborn at the Ronald McDonald house. Thankfully, Tristan had no complications after his second surgery and was able to come home four days later.

Six months after Tristan’s second open-heart surgery, it was determined that the new valve was significantly narrowing due to Tristan’s body rejecting it. He would need yet another intervention. Thankfully, Tristan was able to have his valve widened in the catheterization laboratory and had some time to grow.

When Tristan was 4 years old, he underwent a routine annual MRI just to make sure his heart was still functioning well.

Unfortunately, the results from the MRI showed that his heart was not functioning as well as they had thought, and that his new pulmonary valve was indeed failing. He was again having severe leakage of his pulmonary valve and again, the left side of his heart was enlarging. His only option was a new valve and a third open-heart surgery. On June 13, 2016, Tristan’s surgeon placed a bovine pulmonary valve.

It has now been over a year since his surgery and his heart is performing the best it ever has. He was just cleared for the first time ever to go a year without seeing cardiology.

Though my son’s heart condition and subsequent surgeries may make sense to us, CHD can be very complicated and misunderstood by friends and family. Each child’s anatomy and path of surgical procedures is different, and no two paths will ever be the same.

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