Dear Anxious Mama


Dear Anxious Mama,

You’re not alone.

I know you might be in the trenches just trying to make it one day, one hour, one minute at a time.

You’re not alone.

I know some days you may feel like you just can’t do it and you want to cry. You may want to cry hard. It’s OK, Mama.

Cry. And cry hard.

I know you may think you are failing your kids, your husband, even yourself.

But Mama, you’re not failing anyone.

I know public places can be overwhelming. What if you lose a child or one gets taken? I have been there too, Mama.

You’re not alone.

I know sometimes you may dislike you’re kids.

Some days, I dislike mine, too.

I know you may be praying hard Mama. Keep praying. I believe God hears you, and He hasn’t forgotten you.

I know that you may be ashamed and feeling guilty, sometimes wondering if this is the life you were cut out for. It is OK Mama. I have those days, too.

You’re not alone.

I know it can be hard to get out of bed sometimes because sleep deprivation is pure torture, and it has sucked out every ounce of energy you may have in you. I know this form of exhaustion all too well Mama, especially when my babies were first born. Sometimes it turns into a depression. I know you love being a Mama, but some days are just covered in clouds. It’s OK Mama.

You’re not alone.

I know you might be seeing a therapist, someone to talk to and help you through this season. Good for you Mama.

You are not alone.

I know you may need to see a doctor, get some help, and get on some anxiety or depression meds. It’s OK Mama. You need to care of yourself.

Sometimes the hardest thing to do is just recognizing that you can’t do it alone.

Mama, sometimes you have to take the first steps to be the change you want to see.

I know most days you may not have a single clue what you’re doing Mama.

You’re not alone, that is truly what motherhood is.

Love yourself a little more Mama, because you are in the trenches taking it one day, one hour, one minute at a time! And you’re not alone, Mama.

Sincerely, I’m in the trenches, too.

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