Pete Davidson Dismisses Stereotype That People With BPD Can't Be in Loving Relationships


On Monday, People reported that singer Ariana Grande and comedian Pete Davidson were dating. The news came after Grande broke up with Mac Miller, a relationship she called toxic after a Twitter user said it was “heartbreaking” she’d break up with someone who wrote songs about her.

Some social media users then posted that Grande left a “toxic” relationship for a relationship with someone diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD), implying that people with BPD cannot have stable, loving relationships.

Davidson first spoke about his BPD diagnosis in September, and has since been open about his mental illness on sketches for Saturday Night Live.

On Thursday, Davidson shared a message on his Instagram story to address this stereotype, after hearing what he called “‘people with BPD can’t be in relationships’ talk.”

“I just wanna let you know that’s not true,” he wrote. “Just because someone has a mental illness does not mean they can’t be happy and in a relationship. It also doesn’t mean that person makes the relationship toxic. Everybody is different and there are a lot of treatments for mental illnesses and I have done/am doing all of them.”

Pete Davidson's Instagram story

Davidson also gave a shoutout to those struggling with their mental health, saying he wants everyone out there with a mental illness to know what people say about them isn’t true.

“For all those struggling I want you to know that I love you, and I understand you, and it is going to be OK,” he wrote.

Pete Davidson's Instagram story part two

People on Twitter living with mental illnesses came to Davidson’s defense, explaining why this stereotype was so hurtful:

It’s possible to be in a happy relationship if you live with a mental illness. Here are some pieces from Mighty contributors exploring that topic.

Lead image via Twitter and Pete Davidson’s Instagram


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